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Old 07-11-2011, 05:35 PM
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It's hard being without my husband!! We have been together for 5 years and married for 2 of them!! I love him to no end but sometimes I feel like giveing up but then I feel guilty for thinking like that am I a bad wife??
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Old 07-11-2011, 09:58 PM
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I think it's natural to feel that way sometimes. Even people who's husband's aren't in jail sometimes feel like it's just too hard or like giving up. But, if you really want it to work out, I wouldn't suggest lingering too much on the thoughts. You might be only living half a life right now... but make that half as good as you can. As for the other half, make that as good as you can too. Write long letters to each other and really get to know each other, ask the deep and hard to answer questions. Talk about and plan for the future. but, do what you can to live in the mean time.
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Old 07-11-2011, 11:02 PM
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Thank you for you're advice it really is helping haveing a place and people to talk to about this I'm all alone out here!!!!
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In our situation, you need to be living twice as much, not half as much. You are living for them while they are inside. They need to know that we are not sitting around crying for them, but that we are taking care of the home, family, ourselves and having a bit of fun now and then as well as staying strong for them.
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I wish it was that easy!!!!
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Old 07-12-2011, 10:33 AM
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I never said it was easy, but then nothing worth it ever is.

You have to look after YOU before you can look after anyone else. If this lifestyle is taking its toll on you, then you need some time out to get things back into balance. Even if it is just a couple of hours at the hair salon or getting your nails done, or seeing a movie, you need space and time for you.

By doing that, you will have something more to write to him about. You will also keep your sense of self, and not become just another prison wife whose life was taken over by the DoC.
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