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Old 09-15-2020, 04:17 PM
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Default Do you feel guilty for having fun?

Does anyone else feel guilty because you're enjoying yourself and he's not there? It's almost like cheating. Like, if he were here, I wouldn't dare do anything without him. But he's not, so I feel guilty for doing anything I would normally do with him, which is basically enjoying myself. As a result, I'm not enjoying myself and entering a depression. I realized that's what I was doing tonight and decided to change some of my behaviors and ways of thinking, but it's not going to be easy. Anyone else like this?
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Old 09-15-2020, 04:45 PM
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Yes, sometimes when I am doing something that I enjoy, I think about what his life is like and it brings me down. I have to remind myself that I am not in prison and every day I am here is one less day I am here, so I better enjoy it. When you love someone inside, it changes you, changes how to you live. For example, I keep my phone with me at all times and take calls even when it is inconvenient because it might be my only chance that day. And you can't talk about these relationships with most people because they simply can't understand why you don't walk away. I try very hard to do things that are enjoyable to me because that is important. It would be great to have someone that I could just walk and chat with about all this...
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I got to the point of never doing anything because he was my only friend so I just didn’t have anyone to do anything with.
And when I do stuff with the kids and tell him it’s just depressing cause you can hear it in his voice that he wishes he could be apart of a simple thing like going to the park.
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Huh? Hell no!
Follow your heart but take your brain with you...
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In the beginning, there always a feeling like something was missing or it was wrong. Overtime, this has changed. I dont go out to party, but I do enjoy things I do with the kids or my family. Maybe having a sick parent does that because her time is limited and perspective shifts.
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