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Old 05-18-2003, 06:24 AM
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Default Michigan Father who fails to pay child support sentenced to prison!!!

A father in Kalamazoo County was sentenced to two to six years in prison for failing to pay his child support. At the time he owes more than $30,000.

Some of the arrearages date back to 1990. Judge Richard R Lamb took special exception to this case. The father, a builder and contractor made more than $100,000 in some years. He has also not shown up for numerous court dates and per the judge displayed "a total and blatant disregard for court orders."

The judge also said to this man, "There's a high likelihood that once you're out of (court) and not under the gun anymore, you'll just take off and not pay again, just like in the past," Judge Lamb said, "So I give up."

"Well," a dazed father said as deputies escorted him out of court. "That was a litle shocking.....So, do I have to do, like, two WHOLE years?"
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My son's father actually lied to the judge during a child support hearing... See, he got his vacation pay in one lump sum but yet he owed me thousands... My son's father said that he DIDN'T receive that lump sum so the judge ordered the clerk to call his job to find out... Well, obviously they came back and said yes he did so the judge locked him up then and there.... What a shock to me... Well, he ended up getting all that money that same day because he called his mother.. So his mother came to the court and gave the money orders to the court and he was then let out... That was back in 98. NOW, he owes me thousands more because he doesn't pay... So, I just call him my sperm doner.. lol He's such a DEAD-BEAT!!!!!!!!! But now when my son talks about him he calls him his first name... My son says that he is not his DAD. He actually calls my fiance (the one that's in prision) his Daddy... You know, my man may be locked up but becfore he was locked he did more for my son then his own biological father ever did for him... And now that he is locked up he still continues to be a father to my son... In all the letters he always talks about my son Brandon and to tell him "hello" and that he loves him... Mark (my fiance) writes to my son and my son writes little letters to him and draws him many pictures. (My son is only 6)

So, my conclusion is:

A Dad isn't just one just because of a blood relation.

A Dad IS one that is there for you. One that shows you love regardless of a blood line... So, big UPS for my fiance Mark for stepping in and taking over the Daddy role!!!!!!

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Old 05-18-2003, 08:17 AM
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I agree with you ShelMark. My childrens' fathers don't pay one dime of child support. I have one that will quit a job whenever he thinks thaat they court is going to take child support out of his checks. None of them come and see them or anything. All but one lives in the same city as I do, and it kills me that they can't even pick up the phone and call. Ron (my fiance') takes better care of my children than their "fathers'" do anyway. My 7 year old calls her biological father her father for fake. It's a shame that people help to have children and do not take care of them. Don't get me wrong, there are people out there whose situations are different, but in mine, the guys are nothing more than the only way I could get my children here. The term "sperm donor" makes a lot of sense. That is what I have been calling mine for years. The only thing that "bugs" me, is if these guys aren't paying child support out of jail, what makes the system believe that they will pay once they are in jail?
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Old 05-18-2003, 09:13 AM
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I have a different outlook on this all the way around. My son's dad has never paid child support. He didn't feel obligated nor did he really make an income to be able to spare much. I told him that He knew that he had a son and that if he wanted a relationship with him he could call anytime or write to him, that I would never interfere with them bonding; money not being the factor. (he lives in Wisconsin and me in Washington).

Now my son is 18 and ready to graduate High School. He doesn't hate his dad, but he doesn't care if he notifies him that he's graduating, actually, he doesn't want to. I, however, insist that he send him an announcement, one, because I'm proud of him, and two, because I want his dad to know that he is succeeding in his life.

I could have forced the issue, but who would have benefited? He would have resented his own son, which I didn't want, and my son would have thought that money was the whole issue. My son, who has been the center of my world, would have been the one hurt, not his dad. I'm sure his dad will regret the decisions he's made but it's not for me to punish him. He'll do it all to himself.
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I have told my son's father time and time again to JUST call his son.. But no phone calls... He has promised my son this and that for many years and my son doesn't of course get anything... Me and my son moved to PA a year and 4 months ago. (Soon after my fiance got locked up)

His father said that it's my fault that he doesn't have a relationship with his son because I moved 7 hours away.. But of course I remind him that when I was living in Boston (only 10 minutes away from him) he didn't even see him then... So that moving crap excuse of his is bull-$%@#......

Now yea, I could take him back to court and have the courst MAKE him pay childsupport but you know what... My son doesn't want to see his father so of course the courts would make him if I went for the money... So, I will continue to do this on my own and when Mark is out of prison then he to is moving down here...

I can't MAKE my son's father be a father even tho I have bent over backwards to try and keep a bond going... I continued to call him but he never had time to talk to my son.. So------ I give up.... He is the one that has lost.. Not me... When my son was younger he used to cry for his Daddy... Now, my son Brandon says he has a NEW Daddy and that is my fiance Mark.... My son's father actually did it to himself.... He has lost out in knowing my beautiful son Brandon... That is his choice... But yet he is the one who has done this to himself... When my son was 1 1/2, his father didn't even come to his surgery... He showed up 3 days later... That's how selfish of a person he is.. But yet here is this man (my fiance) who has stepped in and taken over the roll of Daddy and I appreciate that so very much... So again, it doesn't make you a Daddy because you made him.. It makes you a Daddy because you are a constant loving figure in the childs life!!!!!!!!

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This case may be a first here in Michigan and probably other states. Maybe if it got some major attention some dads would come forward and pay up especially in Kalamazoo County!!!

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I say ITS ABOUT TIME THEY THREW THESE DEADBEATS IN JAIL!!! If anyone is interested, there is a public hearing June 19th, 2003, to discuss the problems with Friend of the Court. In lansing. I will be there and hopefully will get a chance to speak. You can go to the Michigan. Government website and look for the link that says public hearings and there you will find an application you have to fill out and they will give you a time to be at the hearing and you will get to speakbefore the committee. You have to pick something for your "platform" I'm going after changing the rules that keep child support and visitation seperate. If they would change the rules and say you cant see your child unless you pay support, I know my ex will start paying. I just hope that something comes from this and they start making these men do what they have been ordered to do. They need to fix the root of the problem before it is going to get any better.
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Good luck Michelle!! Hope you can make a difference in your speech!!! You go girl!!!!!!!!!!

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The thing that hit me was this man made over 100K in some of the years he did not pay. One hundred thousand dollars a year!!!! and no money for his child.
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Yea, and then you have men like our sweetys who have taken over the role of father, they do everything they can and the law finds stupid reasons to put them in jail. Then you have men like this one who only get 2 years. It's the children who pay for what the system does, not the deadbeats. It makes you wonder if they care for the children of the U.S. it makes the children feel like they don't matter, at least thats how my son feels, he hasn't seen his real dad since he was 6 years old and doesn't want to, thats been 10 years ago as far as he is concerned his dad is in prison for not getting a job fast enough and the kind of job his PO thought he should get , my question is well the child or children get any money from this man. Probably not he'll probably use all his assetts trying to get out
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