Hello all - I have already posted a message and I guess I should have introduced myself first and read about you all. I started writing a guy in prison in hopes of having a devoted pen-pal and friend - I am ending up with much more than that! People know that I write a prisoner, but I am scared of what's to come of it all - he states that he's in love now. I do care for him deeply, but I am scared of falling for him and I find it hard to trust what he tells me (because of my own "love issues"). I'm glad to see that others here have met people and fallen for them through the mail - maybe some could help me. I need to talk to those that are feeling somewhat like I do and to hear about their incarcerated loved ones. I hope this is also the beginning of some new found friendships! If you have any questions for me or about me, feel free to ask - I am a very open person. :fb:
Hi Lee's Lady, a warm welcome to you to PTO! Well, my story's similar but not exactly... my guy and I have known each other and been close friends for almost fifteen years, and before he was incarcerated... but the love stuff only came along during three years of writing, things are pretty solid but then again we had many years of friendship to build the relationship on. There's lots and lots of folks around here that met their special someone as a pen pal tho - and some who haven't even met in person just yet - you'll find plenty of folks who understand exactly where you're coming from... which is pretty much what PTO's here for, we are all more or less in the same or at least similar boats!! Anyway, welcome again, glad you're here, look forward to seeing you around.
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My story is the same as yours. I met my Partner as a pen pal with not intention of falling in love - it was just going to be a new pen pal experience. Then love happened.
I was cautious at first because I was scared that he was potentially scamming me, and I had not always had a lot of trust for people based on past experiences - but I am glad to say that I am past all that now!
Please ask any questions that you have! Start a thread in the husbands and boyfriends forum and lets discuss the issue in full detail. There are many more here that met their significant others through a pen pal ad.
Again - welcome!
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welcome to the group....you will find a lot of people with the same situation. I was feeling the same you did from Jan 2001 to may 2002. I was uncertain if I should trust him because actions speak stronger than words. there is so much you can show in prison. I let my guard down and may 2002 I let him in. it was wonderful to get a letter from him. I would run each and every day to the mail box in hopes for a letter from him. I would run to the phone in hopes for a call for him. I would save my money each month to go visit him. I was crazy about him. I loved him. Feb 2003 he was released he lived with me on electronic detention.....march he got a job. things had it's up and downs. Everyones situation is different and I never thought he and I would not be together. well he's back in prison and I am moving on. because of my situation...I feel that all inmates need that friend that will write. I feel I personally should of let him prove himself when he was out but I got emotionally tied to him and I wanted to help him. please don't let my situation sway you in what you decide to do. know that this place is a great support. when I was going through that time of not knowing where he was....I got to talk to some of them on the phone while I was upset. they calmed me down. thanks for saying hello. welcome again.
Your intro was almost like reading my own story!!! I understand your trust issues.... I've had them all. Fortunately I was able to learn to trust again and now we are married!
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Hi And Welcome. Well I'm also A new member to PTO. And I was surprised at all of the support I have been getting. This is a great way to vent and to share similar experiences with people who care.
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Welcome to PTO I cannot help with your question because I am the mother but I can certainly tell everyone what a wonderful person you must be. You have already volunteered to send birthday cards to our loved ones and I want to thank you. Love Barbara :fb: :fb: :fb:
THANKS for the warm welcome from you all - many have already sent me kind words of hope, advice, comfort, and even caution and I appreciate them all. I didn't think that I was going to receive such open arms in a site so full of regulars - you all have been great! THANK YOU ALL!!!