Welcome to the Prison Talk Online Community! Take a Minute and Sign Up Today!

Go Back   Prison Talk > FOR "OFFENDERS" > Coming Home
Register Entertainment FAQ Calendar Mark Forums Read

Coming Home Dedicated to discussions about our loved ones that are coming home soon. Discussions here should not fit any other category.

Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 05-20-2019, 01:45 PM
Babybaits419 Babybaits419 is offline
Registered User

Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: USA ny
Posts: 42
Thanks: 0
Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts
Default How do you deal with "possible" release

This September it will be 3 years since my husband got incarcerated. IF he gets his merit time he will be out July 2020. If not it will be May 2021. Now that it's coming down to the "possible" last year I'm finding myself more bothered by the fact of not knowing whether to look forward to next July or not. I feel like each month that passes it's only going to get harder. Do I get excited, do I not get excited? I'd like to get some insight on how others deal with that "possible" release date.
Reply With Quote
Sponsored Links
Old 05-20-2019, 02:03 PM
onedayatatime13 onedayatatime13 is offline
Registered User

Join Date: Apr 2017
Location: United States
Posts: 2,829
Thanks: 456
Thanked 3,667 Times in 1,712 Posts

Prepare for the long haul, so you are pleasantly surprised if he makes his merit. Mine just tried shock and it didnt work. We hoped for 2 years, but it didnt. Now he has WR then merit. Im focusing on the later then the immediate just in case. It is to mentally protect myself and our relationship.

Overall, my advice is keep going as you have and if the merit hearing comes and he gets it you jump for joy. Usually it is a few months after that hearing they are released.

Just make sure he did all programs. He has a good record inside. Take additional programs and he works.

Last edited by onedayatatime13; 05-20-2019 at 02:06 PM..
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to onedayatatime13 For This Useful Post:
fbopnomore (05-20-2019)
Old 05-20-2019, 02:27 PM
Babybaits419 Babybaits419 is offline
Registered User

Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: USA ny
Posts: 42
Thanks: 0
Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts

He did his vocational and now is doing ASAT. He's always had a job. One of the things that worries me is that he has had a few tier 2 tickets. To me it was minor stuff. Smoking where he wasn't suppose to and I think being somewhere he wasn't suppose to be. He says it's not major things but I'm not going by what he says. That may just be wishful thinking on his part.

I've been looking so forward to the final countdown of this last year and now that we're here I realize it may not be the last year. It sucks but I just keep trying to think that whether we have about a year or 2 years, it's still gonna come eventually. Just prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

Thanks for the advice
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Babybaits419 For This Useful Post:
sidewalker (05-23-2019)
Old 05-20-2019, 05:06 PM
Ms Sunny Ms Sunny is offline
Registered User

Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: Northern NY
Posts: 946
Thanks: 1,884
Thanked 960 Times in 419 Posts

One step at a time. First he needs to complete ASAT yo get his merit certificate. Depending if he has a indeterminate or a flat bid. One is an early parole board appearance, one is no appearance, merely conditions set and both would the put you where you are now.
So just concentrate on getting the merit certificate.
Reply With Quote
Old 05-23-2019, 09:00 AM
sidewalker sidewalker is offline
CA, LASO, site sug. SUPER MOD

PTO Super Moderator Staff Superstar Winner 

Donation Award 

Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: ca usa
Posts: 32,708
Thanks: 57,979
Thanked 31,293 Times in 15,622 Posts

We had a general idea of when my hub was gonna be released. I just tried to keep putting one step in front of the other.
I'd try not to think of it, and just keep going.

Personally once it was finally time, it seemed fast. He was gone about 5.75 yrs.
So it didnt seem fast when it was happening. But as the time came close it felt fast.
What WAS super hard was the confusion over his parole term. We thought 3 yrs. Once released he was told 5 and only as he neared the end was told ...nope. Its 10.
Thank God they let him off parole at about the almost 6 yr mark. (out of the blue too, so that made it sweet!)
I was/am very happy to be done with CDCr.
My windows aren't dirty

That's my dog's nose art

Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to sidewalker For This Useful Post:
fbopnomore (05-23-2019)


Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Forum Jump

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
What does "Expiration Stated Term" & "Actual Release Date" mean in Ohio?? holyhellbatman Ohio General Prison Talk, Introductions & Chit Chat 0 12-18-2014 03:53 AM
What does "next control review" "close custody" & "gain time" mean? Trantham North Carolina General Prison Talk, News, Introductions & Chit Chat 2 01-13-2013 01:05 PM
Techietype - book for you - "New Deal or Raw Deal" FriscoLady PTO Lounge 9 02-23-2010 05:42 PM
The "real deal" about "young" inmates in adult pop?? JohnsHeart Straight Talk 11 03-07-2006 09:44 AM

All times are GMT -6. The time now is 08:35 AM.
Copyright © 2001- 2017 Prison Talk Online
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.7.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Website Design & Custom vBulletin Skins by: Relivo Media
Message Board Statistics