The decision is up to you to make. If the boy is compatible with your home life, then it sounds like a good way to help him remain out of prison. If he is disruptive, make sure you both have an agreed-to "plan B" in place so his behavior doesn't destroy your family.
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Blended families are often difficult no matter what. (not always but they have different problems that come up)
I'd say if you and your bf decide to move in together, you need to let both children know beforehand.
Talk about it. If you can visit with the kids, do so.
If you do move in.....let your bf do the decision making, discipline. Not you.
Never downtalk their mom. Even if she is a total wacko, dont do it.
(by decision making, I mean dealing with the kids.....of course you two can talk about it, and come to a joint agreement, but let him be the one to do the talking)
Speaking with a counselor may be a good idea before anything happens.
Good luck to you all.
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I'm Brandon, just a youth advocate who spent a decade and a half inside many prisons crossing several state lines.
Today I work with AT RISK youth, families and communities and care about the realities that jails and prisons are nothing more than warehouses of pain and misery.
I need to learn how to use site properly but would be blessed to start right here with topics and issues relating to our youth and the issues of juveniles...
My son is 15. He is being charged with first degree murder. We are still very much in the pre trial portion. We have the actual hearing in May to decide juvenile v adult court. This is so hard. His life is literally on the line. Everyday is a struggle.
My son is 15. He is being charged with first degree murder. We are still very much in the pre trial portion. We have the actual hearing in May to decide juvenile v adult court. This is so hard. His life is literally on the line. Everyday is a struggle.
Hi there I am sorry to hear of your situation. I hope they dont deal with your son as an adult. I hope he is dealt with as a juvenile.
I hope you have lots of support.
Your son will get through this period and so will you.
He will still be in your live whatever happens. He will need a lot of support and so will you.There are lots of others here who will understand your situation.
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Hi all. New to prison talk. My daughter has been committed to a juvenile detention center for 15 months. She’s 15 years old and almost at the halfway mark. I hope to learn new things and help others where I can.
Hi... I am the mother of a 15 1/2 yr old boy who is currently incarcerated at a facility, which for all purposes serves as a " prison youthful offenders", in our state. Wyoming Boys School is located in a different town than the Wyoming Girls School, but both are the "last stop" for kiddos who have gotten into trouble. I spent my high school years in various group homes and met many other kids during such time- Many of the boys eventually went on to Wyoming Boys School, (many went 2 and 3 times), and then eventually they spent their 20s 30s and some of their 40s in prison. I always wonder what would have made a difference for those that had a decent home life, as far as love and support and encouragement go....I am just kind of looking for ideas, advice, wisdom; Interested in helping my son in every way I can to make it through his probation upon release . He still has so many opportunities in front of him. I know i cannot control his actions/choices. However, I do I believe that I can still make a difference in the man he becomes. He also hasn't had many male figures in his life that weren't incarcerated at some point - from his abscent father to my own homies/ family... I have 2 boys older than him- 25yr and 23yrs... They are definitely good role models but they have lso started their own lives as adults and cannot always be there at the moment they are needed... But yes, I am just kind of looking through everything- haven't been on this sight for many years and the thought popped into my head as I woke up this morning. Thank you and may everyone enjoy a lovely day (:
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