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Old 06-19-2017, 07:21 PM
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I'm confused by what you're saying a check in is
We frequently discuss our relationship. He specifically says ' am I giving you what you need to sustain our relationship'. I answer and if there is an issue we discuss that. In other words....honey is there any need that you have that's no filled that MIGHT cause either of us to look outside of US
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Well IMO I think he thinks I'm cheating. He's not said those words. I've told him what's been going on here and he's like sweetie I love you with love comes trust. I trust you. I trust you're not doing anything.
And a big reason he wants out is to get back to working again. I usually keep the house and get my check. He's never made me work. He feels like me keeping house is enough. He's not really throwing a tantrum I should have explained better .... And I'm sorry. Maybe I'm getting in my own head? Idk. He just wants out cause he misses me. He agrees we should have a stable place to live but every time he calls its asking what's going on with getting him out. Its so annoying.😩😩
Girl... no reasonable person would take the information you've provided and think.... "he thinks I'm cheating". In fact... this paragraph makes it sound like you deliberately planted a seed there and he didn't exactly nurture it.

This is in YOUR head. Not his. "I think he thinks I'm cheating".

FFS... go find a part time job or something so you have something else to do.
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To answer the original question: either one of us cheating, no matter what the situation might be, has never been an issue. We trust and respect each other. And - the few times in the beginning of our relationship that we tried to read each other's mind? We were 100% wrong every time. So we quit assuming we knew what was in the other's head and worked harder on our communication skills.

If he did start wondering about me, that'd be HIS problem, not mine. How the hell am I s'posed to "prove" I'm "being good" out here? IMO, that's a totally unreasonable expectation on anyone's part.

But even more to the point, why should I think for one nano-second that I should have to?
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ps. not to be snarky . . . but
I don't think I'm the only one who doesn't give a fuzzy rat's ass about your past/present/future sex life. None of what you've told us about your sexual experiences have had a thing to do with the issue being discussed. It's simply not necessary to share when you lost your virginity, that you were a slut for awhile and what kind of sex you and your bf are in to. Nope. Not even in this thread. It's TMI.
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I am going to say that sometimes when they are accusing us of cheating, that is exactly what they are doing.

Like others have commented, they go through all kinds of crazy thoughts when they get locked up, but it doesn't mean we allow them to accuse us of cheating.
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no I live with his parents
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Mine hasn't outright accused me but has asked some question before which hinted at wondering if I do. I always try to reassure him that I'm not and I think he finally believes me as it's not been brought up in a while.
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