I would say just ask him, but we all know that alot of these men are in prison for being....well, probably less than honest. I would use the internet. Mine told me he was never in a relationship that even led close to marriage, yet when I did some Facebook research, he was in fact engaged to a girl from his hometown and had gotten engaged while he was in prison. And I sure brought it to his attention. Do I care that you were engaged in your past? No. I care about you lying. Don't do it again LoL
Is this the same person you've been with for over a year? Why are you just now asking? Did something happen that has made you suspicious that he is married? If you've been with him for a bit (which I assume you have or he wouldn't be your MWI) and this hasn't come up I'm not so sure you could fully trust he's telling the truth. From past posts it seems you know his Mother...what does she say?
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Darlasz, you have no right to be even asking. YOU are married, and you need to turn around and work on your marriage, whether that be divorce or reconciliation. If you are Christian, I would point you to the quote "Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye."
You'll know you've created God in your own image when He hates all the people you do.
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I have asked him but waiting for a response which takes about 15-17 days is killing me!! It's like torture!!
I sense you're having a doubt with him, if you're assuming/and or not sure if he is with someone.
and that long?
wow. That is so long chica, how do you do it! lol wow. and i hope you are to find out sooner than later. Does he call? Instead of writing/asking through mail. You're able to at least face2face, or the next best thing if we can't visit our loved ones is phone-time.If you're able to ask him via phone then you're able to study the voice et.al,as well as his overall response.
But, with a letter you can't do that...But, i hope you're finding out the answer you are hoping for and keep me posted. hugs and blessings to you ...tonight...
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Don't kill your marriage over a possible relationship, work on your marriage first. You know what you have and you don't know what you will get. There was a reason why you married the man you are married to. Being bored with the all day life will set in with #2 as well. Let your MWI be a good and dear friend.
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Why don't you just ask him? If he was dishonest and didn't tell you about the woman he was with until six months later, I seriously doubt he will tell you if he married her. I'm curious to know why after all this time the OP wants to know if he's married. Focus on your own marriage and make a decision regarding it first before trying to have a relationship with someone who clearly isn't available.
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Ohhhh wow!!! It never fails with you people, the most unsupportive bunch I've ever come across!! Hence, why I never use Prison Talk anymore!! You never answer the question yet jump to judge!! So most of you decided to browse all my old posts... so what does your opinion have to do with if a records search on a marriage can be done or not!!! Obviously if I could ask him in person, or over the phone then I would..... obviously I've already asked his family, obviously I DID ask him what OVER a year and a half ago and obviously something did happen!!! Doesn't take a genius to realize all that!! So thank you for the Bible quotes, thank you for the marital advice but you still didn't answer my question!!!! Now that Ive once again wasted my time trying to get useful unformation, I'll kindly decline your advice and opinions... my life today is not what it was 2 years ago and I don't feel the need to share... Goodnight To those of you who have reserved judgement... thank you for just listening
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It's always the same with certain people... they tell us what's going on with at times lots of background info and we're not allowed to answer as we see fit or at least get bashed if we do....
Love it or leave it, if you have the answers already OP then don't ask or if you're asking, take everything we post in response with a grain of salt. We're not here to please everyone but to give you our opinions/inputs.
The OPs question was legitimate but her background (-story) made this question really more than probably what she intended.
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Oh wow! I believe you were told there was no way of finding out if he is married if he wont tell you himself. Your question was answered.
You people should ask the important questions before you get to involved really.
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To be with you will save the day
'Cos I know
When I'm with you again
You just steal my heart away
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