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Old 03-26-2009, 12:56 PM
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Hi all...I'm new to this site. I've been all over the web and phone trying to get information about what happened this past weekend. It's hard for me because I'm so far away (in Virginia)! Needless to say, I've been going stir crazy. I haven't heard from my guy since last thur. night. He tried to call me before recall sat. a.m., but i wasn't near my phone. I have an especially hard time out here because 1. i'm so far away, 2. people here around me just don't understand, 3. some people can be a bit judgemental. i was suppose to come and visit, and get married next month...not sure if that is still going to happen due to his status right now. if anyone can tell me anything, please let me know. thanks!
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I'm not 100% sure about the rules when it comes to marriage but I believe that he would have to stay out of trouble for the 6 weeks prior to the date. I know there's an actual rule but I cannot think of what it is at the moment. I would imagine that as long as he was not involved in what happened and stayed out of trouble, then it wouldn't jeopardize your wedding. I understand how you can be having such a difficult time. My man is in SRCI too and I'm down in San Diego. But congratulations on the wedding to come. Relax and take a breather. I'm sure that he'll give you a call and reassure you of everything as soon as he is able to.
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thanks! unfortunately he's still not on mainline...and, he has a reputation that preceeds him. ugh...he's got too much to lose now, possible minimum, wedding,... so now i'm stalking the mailman until i hear from him! lol i got two letters yesterday, but they were written before all this garbage happened.

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Well I hope you hear from him soon. Anticipation is a killer.
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Hi HisSoul,

I am sure it will all be fine as long as he wasn't involved and it sounds like everything is moving in the right direction for him so I am sure he is focused on getting to minimum and getting married rather than mixed up in bs!!!

Try and relax hun, it is all going to be fine I am sure. If it helps you are not alone, my guy is in SRCI too and I trump you ladies on the distance thing! lol!

Keep your chin up girl!
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Old 03-26-2009, 04:34 PM
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my hats off to you, you definitely trump on the distance! usually when i go see my guy, i'm usually the farthest.
i'd like to think he wasn't involved, but you never know with the politics in there. all i can do is wait, and i've never developed the virtue patience. lol
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Welcome to PTO. I'm pretty sure he has to be able to have priveleged visiting to get married, so it cant happen while he's in seg. If prison is on lockdown and visiting cancelled, weddings might be postponed.
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my hats off to you, you definitely trump on the distance! usually when i go see my guy, i'm usually the farthest.
i'd like to think he wasn't involved, but you never know with the politics in there. all i can do is wait, and i've never developed the virtue patience. lol
Oh yes....the politics!! Nightmare! I try not to think on that too much - I reckon I would drive myself crazy with worry! lol!

From the other thread it sounds like it is all still up in the air in there but on the plus side they are probably safer being on lockdown if it is still pretty tense in there.

I am going to stay positive for you and believe that your guy managed to stay clear on this one!
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months of planning, for both of us...to lose everything in a moment of fury and ignorance. i'm trying to stay positive, but as the days go by, not hearing from him, and his status still not being back in his unit...it really isn't looking good.
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Welcome HisSoulBride,
Hopefully everything will be over and back to normal. I am in wisconsin so yes I too am not close. It does get frustrating the waiting and not knowing. You can always speak with the counselor to see if he was involved. As far as the people being judgemental just ignore it. You have made your decision to love this man and stand behind him. You are at the right place here with PTO.
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it's not good. heard from him today by mail.
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Sorry to hear that Soulbride- They always want to prepare you for the worst. Last time this happened everyone who was involved thought they were getting 6 months in the hole. Well, they didnt have room to hold everyone for that long, and some people were able to beat the charges. My guess if he is in seg because of this incidence, the investigation isnt complete.
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Time is getting too short...well, sort of lol
i guess i'm more upset for selfish reasons. taking away his privilege is also taking away my privilege...i know he's not an angel...but i guess its just par for the course.
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Sorry to hear about the not so great news. Alot of guys (but not as many as last year) ended up in the hole. You may have missed your shot this time but there is always October!!
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I think you have to remember not to take it personally. It's too bad about it upsetting your plans but, until you talk with him in person, you just don't know what he was dealing with and why he made the decision he made. In prison, sometimes, going to the hole just cannot be avoided if one wants to survive and not serve "hard time" for years. Z.
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i know...
my ego is upset more than anything right now. it's my selfishness that got the better of me for a while. not mad at him, i'm upset with the situation itself. comes with the territory.
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months of planning, for both of us...to lose everything in a moment of fury and ignorance. i'm trying to stay positive, but as the days go by, not hearing from him, and his status still not being back in his unit...it really isn't looking good.
Oh hun, I know it's tough and I don't know what to say to help but keep your chin up girl....we are all routing for you on here so come and vent/stress any time if it helps to talk.
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I too am sorry to hear this, keep positive its tough to have to be on the outside and having to wait for the answers. And yes we all react with selfishness sometimes as it is not fair, Knowing you are close to a dream to have that dream suddenly be cut short sucks. And yes when your loved one is punished we are too...
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Zelda has given you excellent advice (as she usually does). Prison society has its own rules and regulations that are often difficult to understand.
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