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Old 09-10-2006, 07:01 PM
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Which is worse? knowing something is going to happen, or not knowing something isgoing to happen. What I mean by that is it worse knowing your mans release date, or not knowing when your man is going to actually get out of prison. They gave my man 4 years but hopefully he wont do the whole 4 years with half time and credit. Im waiting for them to tell him his release date..... I think not knowing his actual release date is worse.... because as of now he mgiht or might not do 4 years.... he doesnt know for sure until hes out of reception with his release date.
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Old 09-10-2006, 08:20 PM
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Yeah, i would hate not knowing. I dont know the exact day but i do know its in early november so thats good enough for me.
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Old 09-10-2006, 08:58 PM
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I aint even trippin bout the day or month, Im just worried about the year.
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Old 09-10-2006, 09:21 PM
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It's bugging me out that I don't know his release date yet,I'm not sure,if they sentences him,he went to court last week ,but been to court twice & he haven't told me what they said yet,but in do time I'll find out I do know he spoke with the parole people.All in all I'm just waiting & Idon't want to at all! The last of what I've heard of my man was last week,but I'll hear something this week.From woman to woman just breath easy in do time you'll know everything.
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We are in the process of appealing his sentence (I almost typed "our" hah hah), and since we are very hopeful about success we are acting as if we don't know his out date. It feels much better to think it might be anything shorter than October of 08. So in our case I think not knowing is better. Because if things don't work out we will both be devestated.
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Old 09-10-2006, 10:04 PM
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both suck. there are lifers and some on the row here, that is worse. I truly admire those women, knowing that they can hold it down is an inspiration!
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I think it's worse not knowing... I know my husband is "eligible" for parole in 2016... but he has an indeterminite sentence ~ he has a "XX years to life" sentence.
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To me not knowing is worse because my boyfriend is still in the county and he hasnt even been indicted yet and it has already been 4 months. We know nothing at all and it really sucks because we are having a baby in early november and we would like to know what is going on.
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Not knowing.
Being in limbo.
I'd give my left arm, literally, to be able to put a ticker in my siggy.
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i HAAAATE not knowing! it's the worst ever! i have a rough estimate (2016) but i still don't even know if he'll be eligible for good time or when that 10 year sentence starts from, etc. i'm dying to know his exact date!
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Not knowing.
Being in limbo.
I'd give my left arm, literally, to be able to put a ticker in my siggy.
AMEN! I just want a rough estimate PLEASE!
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In my own experience the time of not knowing was the worst. Once there was a date put in front of me then I could accept that this was happening, but there would be an end to the situation. In other areas of my life it seems the fear is worse than the reality of the situation. Anyone else feel the same way?
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I think it's worse not knowing because when u do kno u can prepare urself..when u dont kno all u can do is wait and see....
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My b/f has been in jail since the end of January and he is still awaiting trial so we don't know his sentence (his trial is next month). It causes a lot of anxiety for him not knowing what is going to happen but at least we can hope for his case to be dismissed or something and he can just come home already!
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i dont know my fellas out date yet he hasnt been sentenced yet he is on remand.....i dont know weather i want to know because it will bring it all crashing down to reality......
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I know the worst case scenario but I'm definitely hoping he gets out earlier.
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I have to vote on not knowing! It is making me crazy! We are weeks away from a parole answer and nothing has bothered me more then this process. I feel like having a date would ease my mind!
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I hate not having an out date - my husband violated & was sentenced in early July. He's still listed as "unknown" on the BOP website. I know he's been designated, but they haven't moved him yet. I doubt they'll put his out date up there until he's been moved.

We have 3 children & they keep asking me what day Daddy gets out - I hate having to tell them, "I don't know."
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i think not knowing is the worst. for me, i don't know if he'll get out in the next couple of months or if he'll never get out. it's terrible. sometimes i'll get my hopes up thinking he might get out soon and then i'll just get beat down again with bad news. i just wish i had a date, or at least a year, some time frame to look forward to.
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I feel you... i dont care about the month... i dont careabout the day... i just wanna know the year.

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i think not knowing is the worst. for me, i don't know if he'll get out in the next couple of months or if he'll never get out. it's terrible. sometimes i'll get my hopes up thinking he might get out soon and then i'll just get beat down again with bad news. i just wish i had a date, or at least a year, some time frame to look forward to.
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NOT KNOWING! I am going through that now. If i knew how long I could start marking the days off the calender...for now were sitting here like duhhhhhhh...even though the time now counts...its still hard
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Definitely for me not knowing is the worse! Had I known a definite out date (other than the worst case mandatory release in 2017), it may have made me think even longer than I did before I made the hardest decision I ever made in my life. If I knew for a fact he'd be home next year or possibly even the next, I would not have chosen to go on as I have, but not knowing and wondering if I'd have to wait all the way until 2017 was more than I could endure.
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Not knowing is the worst thing!!!!!!!!!
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The worst is the not knowing. I know it could be in 2007 or 2008 or 2009 or maybe not until 2016. If I just had a year I would be happy with that. BUT an exact date, ah man, that would be the happiest day of my life!
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