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View Poll Results: Long distance or prison relationship?
I would prefer a long distance relationship 383 72.54%
I would prefer a prison relationship 145 27.46%
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Old 05-11-2011, 11:50 AM
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I think having a LDR with him would be hell on our trust issues, and it's still lonely going to bed alone. All that aside, I would choose that over prison any day. But at least on the inside I know he isnt getting into any trouble. He is learning what he really wants in life. So that when he does come home, he will have his head on straight (I hope). I would love to be able to talk to him whenever I want or text, skype, and sex twice a year sounds like a fantasy!

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Old 05-11-2011, 12:26 PM
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I have to agree with everyone else here. I would not want him to be in prison under someone else's thumb. He deserves to be free and happy and live life to the fullest.
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Old 07-17-2011, 05:45 AM
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I would much rather long distance!
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Old 07-17-2011, 02:39 PM
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Neither would be my preference but I'll deal with them both if I have to...
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Old 07-19-2011, 05:45 AM
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i would have to say long distance.
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Old 07-19-2011, 11:39 AM
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Long distance any day because i would want him out of prison, besides a long distance relationship means i get to be with him physically when i get to see him
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Old 07-19-2011, 12:16 PM
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neither I just want him home where he belongs. but LD any day over prison
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Old 07-30-2011, 10:32 PM
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Of course I would want him to be free. At least then I would know he is safe and eating food that he enjoys. He would be comfortable and happier. I wouldn't have to worry if something was going to happen to him in there or that he would have to do something that might add to his time. I love him so much that I would rather him be free, safe and happy and never see me then for him to be in prison.
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Old 08-01-2011, 07:41 AM
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Of course long distance with him free. We are both done (him more obviously) with all the prison bullcrap. I used to think of how scary it will be once he's out. I would imagine cops harassing him, and him always on the verge of going back for even sneezing wrong. But, he is going through that right now. But on a selfish level. I would love and cannot wait for phone calls that don't shut off after 15 minutes, texts from him, and knowing he's out, happy, with his daughter / family and starting his new life BOP free.

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Old 08-02-2011, 03:23 PM
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I would have him in prison 24/7, same amount of time ( but would love less time), and when he gets out he's free. I call it delayed gratification.
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Old 08-05-2011, 10:08 AM
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None, I'd want him home with me :-)
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Old 08-05-2011, 02:41 PM
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I chose long distance because.. even though you said visit him twice a year, I wont. I would try to visit more like 4 times a year. It would be enjoyable to plan a visit. I am picking long distance relationship.
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Old 08-05-2011, 02:47 PM
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Though I'd prefer him to be home if I had to choose between Prison or LDR...I'd take long distance hands down. Much as I love him, I love him enough to want his happiness even if that means it's not with me.

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Old 10-05-2011, 04:53 AM
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I think really when you think about it. A prison relationship is a long distance relationship.


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Old 10-05-2011, 07:45 PM
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I would pick a long distance realtionship. However, my boyfriend's charge was drug related and I think being in prison he is learning a lot and will change his lifestyle for the better when he gets out.
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Old 10-05-2011, 09:39 PM
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long distance relationship forrsure! breaks my heart seeing him behind glass
&& being in a long distance relationship. ican talk to him . txt him . even skype with him!! i wouldd sooo have him not be in jaill.
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Old 10-05-2011, 09:55 PM
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DEFINITELY long distance since that deal is A LOT nicer than our deal now...LWOP!!
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Old 10-07-2011, 07:12 PM
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Well we have a long distant relationship thing right now! I want him FREE and HOME with me!
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Old 01-11-2012, 08:41 AM
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Long distance hands down, I wouldn't have my man locked up if it was my choice

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Old 01-12-2012, 02:48 PM
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I hate this prison thing. I'd rather he be anywhere and free than locked up.

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Old 01-12-2012, 02:57 PM
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A prison relationship was the most miserable experience of our relationship, but I can admit that it made our relationship so much stronger!!
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Old 01-12-2012, 04:37 PM
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I prefer long distance because prison is too unstable. Just when u think things are going well, something beyond his control happens and he ends up in the hole or gets more time or whatever.


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Old 01-12-2012, 04:58 PM
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I can't even really answer that because I would never allow our relationship to be long-distance, EVER. Not for any reason. Going away on business for a couple months is one thing. But I would not allow my relationship to truly be long distance. I don't think he would either. We wouldn't ever intentionally separate, that would just be backwards logic. Of course I would never choose for my man to be in jail either, so the only reasonable answer I can give is "neither," because no way in hell would a LDR ever happen.
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Old 01-12-2012, 05:05 PM
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Why on earth would I want him locked up??? Why would I want him in a cage? Why would I want unable to have the privacy and personal freedoms we all take for granted? Why would I want him to be subjected to handcuffs and cavity searches. Moved from place to place at the discretion of the prison and no say so over where he sleeps? Why would I want him warehoused? Sorry I don't understand the intent of the question at all. Why would I want the man I love locked up? Is this really a do you trust your man question?
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Old 01-12-2012, 05:09 PM
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I chose prison, only because despite the fact I hate him being locked up, I still get to see him once a week. I get to talk to him on the phone at least 5 times a day, and I KNOW where he is & what he is doing. Would I love to be able to fly across country & make love to him and be with him? OF COURSE i would... But in long distance relationships you see your loved one very seldom.
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