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View Poll Results: if you had the chance to get pregnant would you?
yes 897 38.37%
no 1,039 44.44%
maybe 307 13.13%
can't decide 95 4.06%
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I would love too as soon as he comes back frm MS..hubby don't got no kids & i have 2 girls...so i want my lil' boy.....especially if his almost coming home soon...helll yeahhhhhh
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Not in a million years. I feel that's very unfair to a child. I've had a wonderful,loving,godly father my entire life. Can't imagine my life without a father there for me each and every day in every sense of the word.
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NO WAY! Neither of us has kids but I sort of know what's its like. My mom was a single mom. Raised 5 kids by herself. Now I got my own place so I pay all the bills and I'm having a hard enough time as it is providing for myself. Do I hear get a second job. I even told him we cant raise a family on a single income. He has to get a job first.
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If it were between having them now or not being able to have them at all then I would definitely choose having them now. And that's exactly what we're doing. I have issues with my reproductive system so I may not be able to have kids 5 years from now when I'm in my 30's so my man and I have decided that we're going to work on getting pregnant by 2014. It's a big decision to make but it was an easy one for us because we both came from big families and we both wanted a few kids. Luckily, I'm an accountant and I work in tax law so I make decent money on my own. It's not the ideal family set up but our family is a family just the same.
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My husband left in July of 07 and I got pregnant at the end of 09, my son just turned 3 and my husband comes home when my son turns 5.. My son is a very happy boy and knows who his father is. We get family visits almost 3-4 months, so they get to bond.. It is hard to do it alone, but not impossible... I don't regret it one bit my son has everything he needs, I'm actually excited because at 5 years old my husband can do all the sports and homework with him... I studied child development so I've handled these 3 years very well...
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In a heartbeat. If there was some way we could be together that getting pregnant was a possibility we would both be falling all over ourselves trying to make that happen. Unfortunately he's a lifer so family visits is not an option for us .
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im 6 months and hes been gone for 5 months we got 12 more to go... but i will soon have a part of him home with me
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We found out 2 days, July 22, 2013 that we were expecting our first child. My fiancé was arrested on July 24 and on September 23 he was sentenced to 14yrs burglary. His first and only offense. I didn't know things would play out this way and would much rather him be home but he gave me an amazing gift before being locked up. Life!! I have a constant reminder of him growing inside me and I love it!!
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I have two boys.. my ex and I were both in the military and spent a great deal of time away from our boys.. When I was was pregnant with my youngest he was deployed and I had a video birth. He came back and within 8 months I deployed to Kosovo.. When I came back, my baby was almost 2 years old and it was somewhere around 11 pm at night when I finally got home.. Both my boys were asleep. I couldn't wait to see them. I woke everyone up.. lol.. well my youngest didn't even know who I was.. it took him a minute or two. And then he started to cry.. of course I cried too.. Somehow my boys survived all the ins and outs we endured. But nope. Wouldn't do it again.. Well at least not on purpose..


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We're both in our late 30's and don't have any kids. If there was ANY way for me to get pregnant now I would do it. I will be 42 by the time he gets out, and while I still should be able to get pregnant then, it's definitely not an ideal age
I would LOVE to have a child and know that it would be hard to do on my own, but I have no doubt I could do it and it would be worth it!
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I absolutely would not do it! Me and my man are 28 and 29 and have a 12 year old. He was not there for the better part of our sons life because he was a teenage boy, and even grown men arent renowned for changing their lives because they have kids...anyway he was always in and out of juvenile centers and the streets so he wasn't there. Now hes grown and wants to be there, had been clean 3 years but relapsed and ended up back in the pen...we had talked about having another baby so we coukd actually share the experience this time, and im so glad I had the sense to tell him we should wait, because if I was having to do it without him again I would not be able to forgive him. Having babies can be awesome, but also terrifying and the experience is much enhanced by having someone there.
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my love doesn't have children. I have 5 from a previous marriage. If I could give him a child I'd definately do it in a heartbeat
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To be completely honest, I would rather wait for him to be home to get pregnant but I mean things happen. We are planning on getting married as soon as he hits a mainline (he's currently in reception). In the state of CA we can have conjugal visits, so we are realistic. If it happens it happens. I mean he's serving a 7 year sentence, (we're down a year) so I would be 30 when he got out. I know there is health risks after 30 so we decided we would try around when I was 27-28
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Not in a million years. I feel that's very unfair to a child. I've had a wonderful,loving,godly father my entire life. Can't imagine my life without a father there for me each and every day in every sense of the word.
yup. yup. yup.

to each his own, but for me I won't even start to THINK about considering it until he has been out for at least a year... maybe two or three. I might even want to wait until the required 5 year drop off and try to adopt one instead.
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I definetly would,my husband been in prison for 12 years and we have a 7 year old together.Where blessed to get trailor visits(FRP).He has 6 years left and im 31 i wouldnt want to take the chance and wait until he came home when i would be at high risk.It has been a challenge being a single mother but my son is a blessing and this was the life that i choose so it what it is.
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To be completely honest, I would rather wait for him to be home to get pregnant but I mean things happen. We are planning on getting married as soon as he hits a mainline (he's currently in reception). In the state of CA we can have conjugal visits, so we are realistic. If it happens it happens. I mean he's serving a 7 year sentence, (we're down a year) so I would be 30 when he got out. I know there is health risks after 30 so we decided we would try around when I was 27-28
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I don't have and kids but my boyfriend has two kids from his previous relationships but we already spoke about that we both agree when he comes home to have more kids. He doesn't want to miss out on it again and I wouldn't want to feel like I'm a single parent.
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I would never, I think its hard enough to deal with this prison crap without adding any additional obligations to my list.
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I wouldn't. We have joked he has to be the one who holds my hair back when my head is in the toilet and I want to see him hold his first child the moment after it is born.So as much as I love him I wouldn't want to have a baby while he is in there. Parenting takes two
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helllllllllllllllllllllllllllll to the no.

he got mad cause he asked me the same thing and I told him no. I'm not trying to be a single mom while he's away. He can just take that to the left!
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No, I know what it's like to have a parent in prison.. I grew up with my dad in and out of prison, my mom a single parent, I witnessed the stress she had raising me and my brother alone, all the while missing my father worrying about him and all the other things thats come along with this lifestyle. She did a damn good job raising us but from a child's point of view not having my dad there really hurt me, having to hurry up and "love you daddy" before the phone shut off i was embarrassed to tell people where my dad was. thats not something I want for my first baby.... it's not about the money its about giving my child the best childhood I can, even tho im sure there were financial burdens as a kid my mom hid them from us, she did all she could we didn't want for anything, but she couldn't be my dad, and no amount of phone calls or visits or visits can substitute him being there.
I know there's no guarantee he will not go back to prison in the future and our future kids have to deal with this but I won't knowingly do it...
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I don't think so I don't know if I even want more kids
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I cant have children but if I could I wouldnt. There are enough children growing up without Fathers already.
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We've talked about this. He has no children and while I would love to give him that gift, it seems to me it would be incredibly selfish and so unfair to the child to purposefully create a life when there is no chance his or her father will be present. I've had a child whose father died and it's incredibly difficult raising a child alone. I'm
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It is not possible for me to get pregnant, plus I was VERY ill carrying the 2 children I have.

So if a surrogate were to carry and I could raise the baby, I might consider... but I had to vote no.
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