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View Poll Results: if you had the chance to get pregnant would you?
yes 897 38.37%
no 1,039 44.44%
maybe 307 13.13%
can't decide 95 4.06%
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Old 08-04-2006, 10:06 PM
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its hard enough for me with our 4 year old and almost 1 year old and its heartbreaking all the things he has to miss like holidays and birthdays i just think it would make me more sad than happy
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Old 08-05-2006, 08:21 AM
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. . . Just because a man is incarcerated does not mean he can't be a father.
When the mother has her head screwed on right and the father is strong and loving with his chullen, I agree with this 100%. I've seen it, that's why I know it.

But when the dad is weak and leaving the matter of raising the child(ren) up to the mother plus the mother don't have her head screwed on right, ain't no telling what would/could become of their children.

It's the same like with women -- we need a strong and loving man and we will be set. But if he weak, it's likely he could get disrespected and walked all over by his woman. Kids are the same way -- they need that strength, they need that love and because that is a NEED and not a want, it's when they do not get this/what they need at home [and/or from the cell] is when things go wrong with children.

Getting what they want isn't the priority -- it's getting what they need that will make ALL of the difference.

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Old 08-08-2006, 08:54 AM
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If I had the oppourtunity to have sex with my man and get pregnant I would. when my man comes home I will be 33 going on 34 I don't want kids that old. So hell yeah if I can I will. He agrees with me. we talked about it the other night.
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The only way for me to do that if he could send his (well you know what)
home to me or to my docter. Or the the oppourtunity to have sex with my man.
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i would love to have a baby by him but he did not wish no more so i got fixed for him just before he went back in
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Old 08-10-2006, 05:07 PM
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id say ya as long as he was out before the baby was born.. we had tried to get pregnant previosly b4 he got locked up but i guess the timing wasnt right and someone was lookin out for us i think... cuz he got locked up and i wouldnt want to do it alone.. we have decided that we will do everything in that department together, and i wouldnt have it any other way..
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I would and we have been trying so hard but I think maybe our situation is different. My husband has less than 4 months and he is at a work release center so he comes home once a week for 8 hours. If I were to get pregnant I wouldn't be that far along by the time he gets out anyway. So yes and our fingers are crossed that it does happen.
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Old 09-06-2006, 03:45 PM
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My husband and I talked about this again. I had been thinking that I would like to wait. Fortunately he is on the same page. We would like to wait until it is alittle closer for time for him to be home. So I am thinking that we should try about summer of 08. He want's to be part or everything and go thru the pregnancy with me. However if it happens before then we will just roll with it.
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I would do it because my man has a shorter sentence...he would be out before a baby would be born. Thought I have to admit it would be hard going through the pregnancy without him
If he was a lifer however, heck no, I wouldnt do it because I would be robbing that baby of something precious and that is a relasionship with it's daddy. That to me seems selfish to the child.
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Old 09-07-2006, 01:13 AM
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its funny that u ask because i got pergnant and then he got locked up N i didnt think i could do this without him and im doing okay even tho it would be so much better if he was home.
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Old 09-07-2006, 11:01 AM
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unfortunately, many women carry the load alone and their children's father isn't in prison, but instead he just doesn't take care of his child. i feel that if both want the child, then when there is a will there is a way. the only time true drama comes into play is when mommy cares and daddy doesn't or vice versa.
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No way, I am a single mom and it is so stressful and hard. There are not enough hours in the day.Work,school,pta,prison visits,church,after school stuff, not to mention the little stuff in between. Clothes, money for this that and everything!!! Kids grow up and want everything cars, clothes, phones, MONEY and not to mention the love of both parents being there.
But to each his own and I wish you all good luck!!
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Old 09-08-2006, 02:57 PM
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no way. That's the first thing my boyfriend said: don't get pregnant. How am I going to get pregnant but sit here and tell him I love him? Nuh uh. Can't happen. Won't happen.
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With what my daughter and grand children are going through missing him with them He-- NO! it is too hard to raise them alone let alone with a parent being incarcerated. Not to mention I really think sex is a privilage that is not a necessary thing while they are being punished. Just one more thing that I am being punished right along with him.
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Old 09-08-2006, 09:31 PM
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My husband has 20 to life it very hard i love him very much he did 6 years so far and it hard how do i deal with it
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Old 09-08-2006, 10:45 PM
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We will wait. We have too much to do. But part of me thinks if it happens it will happen. So I am here to prevent it happening. I know he wants one of his own, but first things first. Let's see when he will get out and get into school and a job...
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Old 09-09-2006, 02:50 AM
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this wouldnt be possible where we are from, but even if it was.. i wouldnt try to get pregnant... we have a daughter together who just turned a year old On the 5th, he's missed everything in her life this far.. Though the first six months was his choice, he's regreting it everyday... I've raised our little girl with no help, and its hard... she crys for her dad when shes sick and everytime the phone rings she screams for him.. I couldnt put another child through what Aryan has gone through this last year... She's seen her dad 18 time her whole life and most of them where trips to treatment at PFH or OCC which is the long term drug treatment prison hes at now.. only 8 more months togo though and my man will be home
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Old 09-09-2006, 10:43 AM
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No I wouldn't do it. But I already have a child. However, there are certain situations that may warrant it. Like if this was your only chance to have a baby. But that something you and your man should serious discuss weighing all the pros and cons.
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Old 09-11-2006, 03:24 PM
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Hell No! I feel like thisif you are in it with him, you are in it completely. There is no half steppin with it.
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Old 09-11-2006, 08:06 PM
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I guess I misunderstood the question. If I could have his baby I would. Of course I wouldn't have someone elses baby. I only want my husbands children, he is the father of all our children to come. We are going to be old parents, but God will bless us with children when he comes home!
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This is tough...because I think I am pregnant. Not like we tried....I had my first baby while taking Birth Control. I tried a second method it seemed to work for awhile, but right now I dont know....we already have 2 babies....this is def a scary thought.
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I guess I misunderstood the question. If I could have his baby I would. Of course I wouldn't have someone elses baby. I only want my husbands children, he is the father of all our children to come. We are going to be old parents, but God will bless us with children when he comes home!
My sentiments exactly. We'll be old parents too.
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YES!!!! My Husband will be home by 2008. I could do it, for a couple of months. we have no children now, we are working on it though. I know that the Guards don't like it if the wife becomes pregnant.
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Old 09-18-2006, 10:37 AM
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In my current situation, no i would not get pregnant because I had to do it alone the first time and it sucked. I hope he gets out before I turn 45, cause after that, it could be quite difficult.

If he were a lifer, and I knew we would never be together again, I probably would get pregnant.
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