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Old 01-26-2010, 08:52 PM
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omg, im having so much drama from my husbands sister. She apperantly is having a hard time accepting that i am his wife. So she is basically saying things about me on myspace and to people who know me. I dont know what to do and i really dont have time for this. I am going through alot right now and all i am trying to do is love and support my husband while he goes through this ordeal. But i am getting tired of dealing with her and the drama that she is creating. I tried to talk to my husband about this issue but all he can tell me is that theres not anything he can do since hes in jail. So i basically feel like i am here to defend myself. My sister in law and I never had a problem before my husband went to jail, we used to be friends. So thats why i dont understand why she is being so problamatic. Has anyone dealt with this before??? and if so how did you handle this situation. please feel free to message me. Because im going to get tired of this
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omg, im having so much drama from my husbands sister. She apperantly is having a hard time accepting that i am his wife. So she is basically saying things about me on myspace and to people who know me. I dont know what to do and i really dont have time for this. I am going through alot right now and all i am trying to do is love and support my husband while he goes through this ordeal. But i am getting tired of dealing with her and the drama that she is creating. I tried to talk to my husband about this issue but all he can tell me is that theres not anything he can do since hes in jail. So i basically feel like i am here to defend myself. My sister in law and I never had a problem before my husband went to jail, we used to be friends. So thats why i dont understand why she is being so problamatic. Has anyone dealt with this before??? and if so how did you handle this situation. please feel free to message me. Because im going to get tired of this
Well, not knowing the situation and history it is hard to give you advice. However, whenever possible I try to ignore negative people. Maybe she is really having a hard time dealing with her brother and you are the dog that gets kicked.

I always get a bit crazy and tell everyone that I need positive energy around me. Then there is the old adage of "if you don't have anything nice to say then say nothing at all".
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Read "The Four Agreements" Short read, and you will be liberated from this situation. Her feelings will be her feelings and that is it...it will have nothing to do with yours.
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I know someone going thru the same exact thing. My advice would be to turn a deaf ear to any negativity in your life and anyone who causes it. Go on about your business as if nothing has happened with her. However, you do not have to let anybody be a part of your life that brings negativity. Others will make their own decisons about you.
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What a sucky situation, Val912 When you need the most support is when some people decide to stick it to you, aye?
Well, my advice would be to ignore it, or at least don't stoop to her level. If she keeps running around saying bad things - and you stay right and keep your head up - eventually people will see the situation for what it is. If someone stops talking to you, based on an untrue rumor - is that really the kind of person you would want around anyways? She may be doing you a favor - and weeding out the bad seeds.
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thank you guys for your kind words because they are very helpful and you are all right, im not gonna let the negativity consume me, i already deal with enough negativity.
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It's such a shame that your sis n law is behaving like that! I know everyone deals with their emotions differently but is there a chance that in her pain over her brother she's pushing you away? It just seems that often when our loved ones find themselves in the system through our pain and fears we want someone/something to blame or strike out at. Not that it excuses your sis n laws actions. Maybe by letting her know that this is very difficult for you too and it would be nice if the two of you could support each other with a reminder that it would make life easier for your husband too she would halt the drama.

With everything else you have to deal with I would have to agree with others - if she choses to keep the drama going don't let her make you miserable! Good luck!

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What a sucky situation, Val912 When you need the most support is when some people decide to stick it to you, aye?
Well, my advice would be to ignore it, or at least don't stoop to her level. If she keeps running around saying bad things - and you stay right and keep your head up - eventually people will see the situation for what it is. If someone stops talking to you, based on an untrue rumor - is that really the kind of person you would want around anyways? She may be doing you a favor - and weeding out the bad seeds.
I wanted to say thank you for all this great advice and the original poster. I'm new to my relationship so we are still getting to know one another. And this thread has been a great comfort and very uplifting to read.

I get a little jealous over his family and they are the ones saying how he is such a "pain in the ass" when he's so worried about them and I'm tired of hearing it all so I told him the other day.
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