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Old 06-21-2004, 08:07 AM
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Default Brother - Lexington CC - Oklahoma - Terminal Cancer- Help me, please

Hi - I am new to this board. My brother has been incarcerated since November of 2002 on a possession of meth charge. It was his 2nd offense. He got 5 years. Anyway, he had been at William S. Key in Ft. Supply, OK since March of 2003. I hadn't been in touch with him at first because I was just too broken up about it all. Finally, I started writing him this year in January. He had been having some problems with his jaw. We have been writing back and forth since and I have been so impressed with the Key To Life rehab program he was in at WSK. He seems to have really started to think along the right path. Anyway, the problem about his jaw...He has been going to the Drs. back and forth during this year. Finally in March, they figured out it was cancer. They were going to take his parotid gland out and part of his jawbone. When they got him moved to the OU Medical Center in OKC, they ran more tests and found out that the cancer didn't start there. He has stage IV lung cancer that has metastisized to his lymph system and to his jaw. They gave him 3 months. Of course, during all of this, they (DOC) never informed us of any of his moves. (I know, it isn't a requirement that they do that.) We finally got things worked out and were able to go visit him at the Lindsay Hospital while he was there. They have since moved him to the Lexington CC Medical Unit. He has only written a couple of letters to his girlfriend since they moved him there. He is up for parole next month anyway, I am just trying to figure out how we can get the process expedited. I have called everyone and their dog over the last few weeks as well as emailing whoever I could think of. Nobody can or will give me any information. I am also trying to find out what his condition is at this point, and again, I am having no luck. Our visitor forms weren't in the computer so I am trying to get that all straightened out. But - I am having no luck there, either. He didn't call yesterday on Father's day and I know that he would have if he had been able to. In the last letter to his girlfriend, he told her that they had started him on morphine. I know that means that his pain is worse and it could mean that he is out of it most of the time now. How can I get his visitor forms fixed and make sure they have emergency contacts straight knowing that he might not be able to do any of that at this point. Also, who can I call that can help me find out how he is doing? How can I make sure that his parole hearing goes on as scheduled and can get expedited so he can come home to die in peace? His sentence discharges in November regardless of the parole, but we are all afraid that he won't make it that long. How can I find out about getting his sentence commuted? He is in the Lexington Oklahoma CC Medical Unit. Any contact info or legal info that anyone can provide on how to help us would be greatly appreciated.
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Old 06-21-2004, 08:54 PM
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Default Umm this might help

My husband was at Lexington as well and is now at John Lilly in Boley, Ok. The only thing I can suggest is that when I needed help or answers I called his case manager/counselor whatever they are called. He will have one and its best to talk directly to him and usually they are pretty nice. I also know that when I had questions about visitation, they rang me to the visitation room where there is an officer there most of the time. And he was very helpful. He checked on paper work for us and kept us posted on when people on his list were approved. He also let his uncle see him and he hadnt even recieved his paperwork yet. Hope this helps, I know its a three ring circus. Best of luck to you and your brother, I hope it all works out
have you tried the Oklahoma forum? I dont know what its all about I have just seen it
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Old 06-21-2004, 09:29 PM
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Jimmy sis- I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am to hear about your brother. I am going to see what I can do to try and get you some information!
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Old 06-21-2004, 10:22 PM
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Jimmy-sis,
Please call Lexington and ask for Chaplin Adams!! He is hard to get hold of but he will help you I'm sure. If you can't get him leave a message on his voice mail he checks it! He is having family illness's too and because of that is kinda hard to catch like I said.
I can't remember his assistants name but he is HELPFUL too when you force the issue.
He might answer the phone and if he does tell him whats going on...let him know how scared you are..

Chaplin Adams and his department helped me get married at Lexington on June 15th last Tuesday.Please let me know what happens and PM me with your brothers name my husband will be calling me back on Thursday I will ask him to see what he can find out..

Good Luck hon and God Bless!!!

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I"m sorry to hear about your brother. You may want to consider contacting your state represenative or state senator and ask them to help!

I'll keep him in my thoughts and prayers.

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Old 06-22-2004, 10:51 AM
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Thanks everyone! We all need all the support and prayers that we can get. I am thankful for all of those. Also, I have finally got in touch with someone who actually called me back yesterday. He is a medical Advisor with Oklahoma DOC. He is trying to get things rolling on getting the parole hearing changed to medical. He actually went and saw my brother yesterday at the hospital in OKC and got his signature on some release forms. He called me back after the visit also. Seems like I am finally getting somewhere. Now, if I can just get the visitation problem worked out, I will be feeling a lot better.
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Old 06-22-2004, 11:26 AM
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I am sorry that I have no advice for you. I just wanted to let you know that I read your post and am very sorry about your brother. I will keep you and him in my prayers.

I hope you find the help you need.

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I am very sorry for your brother. I will keep him, you and your family in my thoughts.

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Sending positive thoughts and many prayers for you and your brother - I am glad the medical advisor with the Oklahoma DOC is trying to help- please keep us posted.
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Old 06-23-2004, 02:43 PM
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The good news that I have today is that my brother is now on the commutation Docket for July. He was scheduled for parole hearing anyway, but now it is even better. His sentence would discharge in November even if nothing happened right now. The problem with that, of course, is that we don't know if he even has that much time left. They originally told him 3 months and with chemo, maybe a year. However, the oncologist report from Monday stated that his prognosis despite chemo is very poor with a life expectancy of less than 6 months. I was afraid that would be the case. He has lost so much weight this year. (50-60 pounds. He is only skin and bones. He is 6'6" and weighs only 130 pounds. Now that they have started chemo, they don't expect his weight to get any better. He does have a feeding tube in his stomach, but I guess they think it won't help that much with weight gain. That, of course, is one of the things that helps the Drs. determine life expectancy. It is generally much better for people who have only lost 10% or less of their original weight. He has always been a skinny man. Most everyone has always called him by his nickname "Slim". So, he never had the pounds to spare. This much weight loss makes a person weaker and much more unlikely to be strong enough to fight off any infections, etc. I am just praying that he can hold on long enough to come home. I don't want him to die there. I don't want him to suffer, either. It is just so hard. The Medical advisor I am working with tells me that the expedited process because of his medical condition will still apply with the commutation approvals, so hopefully he will be home by the end of July.

The other part of this story is that we have another brother who is one year younger than Jimmy who is also incarcerated in Oklahoma. Both were in for the same charges. Possession of CDS (meth) w/ intent. Jimmy was convicted in December of 2002 and Ronnie in December of 2003. So, Ronnie still has a while on his sentence. So, Ronnie will probably never get to see Jimmy again. This is just ripping my heart out. I never thought that I would have 2 of my brothers locked up.

I love my brothers in spite of their mistakes.

I hate meth. I hate addiction. I hate cancer. - What can I, one individual, do to get rid of those three things so noone else ever has to feel the pain from them again?
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Bless you jimmy sis- you and jimmy are in my prayers- I am sure you are in everyone's prayers who have read this. If Jimmy does come home in July then Ronnie will be able to talk to him anyway won't he? Your brothers are very lucky to have such a wonderful,loving sister and I am sure they are aware of that. I know you feel so helpless but you have already done so much.
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Old 06-24-2004, 11:03 AM
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I finally got to the right person in the warden's office and they got our visitation papers approved again. Thank goodness! So, we are going to go see him on Sunday. His common law wife can't be approved because she got in trouble at the same time as Jimmy and she is on probation. She has to have approval from her probation officer to go and the problem with that is that she hasn't been staying clean. She has failed 3 or 4 of her urinalysis over the last couple of months. In fact, I am assuming that over the next few weeks a bench warrant will be issued for her and she will either be put in rehab (again) or jail. I wish that she would stay sober. I know that Jimmy wants to see her and she wants to see him, but she is being so selfish by drowning her sorrows in alcohol and drugs. I know that I definitely don't want Jimmy to come home to that situation considering his situation. Even if he didn't have cancer, he wants to stay away from that stuff. Now, of course, he can't be taken care of properly in that situation so I pray that she either gets clean or goes to rehab before he comes home. I do hope that she gets to the point that she can spend some time with him before his time is up for his sake and for hers.
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Jimmy's Sis, i'm so sorry that you are going through all of this. My prayers are going out to you and your family and my God bless Jimmy that he does no suffer.
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I finally got to the right person in the warden's office and they got our visitation papers approved again. Thank goodness! So, we are going to go see him on Sunday. His common law wife can't be approved because she got in trouble at the same time as Jimmy and she is on probation. She has to have approval from her probation officer to go and the problem with that is that she hasn't been staying clean. She has failed 3 or 4 of her urinalysis over the last couple of months. In fact, I am assuming that over the next few weeks a bench warrant will be issued for her and she will either be put in rehab (again) or jail. I wish that she would stay sober. I know that Jimmy wants to see her and she wants to see him, but she is being so selfish by drowning her sorrows in alcohol and drugs. I know that I definitely don't want Jimmy to come home to that situation considering his situation. Even if he didn't have cancer, he wants to stay away from that stuff. Now, of course, he can't be taken care of properly in that situation so I pray that she either gets clean or goes to rehab before he comes home. I do hope that she gets to the point that she can spend some time with him before his time is up for his sake and for hers.
I finally am able to respond on here. I am so sorry about what you are going through. I saw your thread and it caught me cause i can relate. I have a husband and a brother in prison, what got me was that "MY" brothers' name is also, "jimmy" and he was diagnosed with lymphoma cancer about 1 1/2 2 yrs. ago and he finished his chemo. and radiation in january of this year and so far is in re-mission and dr. says if he can stay in remission the next five yrs. he has it beat; i pray that it does. You know, his started out in his jaw as well, it swelled all up and he went to the dentist and thats when he found out it was cancer.(before being locked up) we tried to get a medical parole but no such luck, the attorney was nothing but a liar and took my parents for a lot of money. Anyway, reason i am posting is because it just "shocked" me to see that you have a brother that started out having problems with his jaw as my brother did and both of our brothers have the same name and it just amazed me. how strange, ya know? He is at joseph harp because of the cancer and he is doing well at the present time, i dont get to see him or my husband much cause we are so far away, but me and kids got to see them both a few weeks ago; my husband is in lawton.(blah) Sorry, to ramble on, on. I wish you and your family all the best, will say prayers for you.
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Thank you. My prayers will be with you and yours also. It is strange about our brothers both having the same name. I will pray that yours stays in remission and beats this thing. My brother's cancer actually started in his lungs. The reason he didn't recognize any symptoms stemming from that is because he has had emphysema since he was in his 20's. The Drs. have always attributed that to him having an enzyme deficiency in his lungs. However, my mother feels strongly that the asbestos exposure he had in the the late 70's, early 80's in the Air Force is what has caused it all. It is anybody's guess really. But - the indication to him that he had something more going on was when it moved to his jaw.
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jimmy_sis (((hugs)))
I just read through all of this. Your brother and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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My mom, other brother and I went to Lexington yesterday and got to see Jimmy. He is so painfully thin. His hair is starting to fall out because of the chemo. But - even though he didn't look very healthy, he looked beautiful. He smiled at us several times and that brought me comfort. He can still smile through all the pain. We didn't get to stay long because they brought him up to the regular visitation room and the chairs were just very uncomfortable for him. He is so bony that they hurt his butt. He was also in a lot of pain because it was almost time for his pain medicine and he was hurting. We caught him up on all the details of his commutation hearing coming up in a couple of weeks. He was so glad to see us. Anyway, it was just so good to see him. We had to wait about 45 minutes for him to get to the visitation room. He is in a segregated housing unit from what I understand. The guards told us it is considered the drug and alcohol unit so they don't get to mix with other prisoners and they have to have an escort. He has already finished his rehab program but the reason he is there is because of his medical condition and it is the closest unit to the medical facility there. Anyway, they brought him up in a wheel chair because he is too weak to walk that far at this point. I wish they would take us back to that area so he could sit on something softer. But - I guess they only do that if they are confined to a bed in the infirmary.
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I am so glad you and your mother and brother got to visit Jimmy- I am sure it helped him so much just to see you. Blessings to you all and special prayers for Jimmy.
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hi very glad to hear you got to see your brother. I hope everything turns out well and I will be praying for you all to be together.
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Jimmy goes up for his medical commutation on Thursday at around 7:30 in the morning. It won't be a personal appearance, just a jacket review. But, if it is approved, he could be home in a couple of weeks. Everybody please help me pray for him and his quick release. We are getting down to the wire. He would discharge his sentence in November anyway, so I am pretty confident that they will commute him to time served considering he has been in no trouble since he has been in, he has completed his rehab program and his medical condition is so bad.

On another note, my mom, another brother (different one than the last time we visited....I have 5 brothers...) and I went up to see him. He seemed to be doing pretty good. He has gained back a few pounds. He is still malnourished, but looking a little better than the last two visits. He hasn't lost all of his hair yet, but it is pretty thin. What is left is turning almost blonde. It is weird because he has dark brown hair. Anyway, I guess chemo just does that. But - he didn't seem to be in as much pain this week as he was the last time we visited. He smiled a lot more and he drank a full can of Sprite which was cool. He was able to bring the wheelchair out with him this time so he was more comfortable than last time sitting in those hard visitation room chairs. It was a good visit. We stayed almost 3 hours this time which is a lot better. He didn't get as tired as fast as last time. The visit gave me a lot of hope.

Now - I know that his condition is bad and I know that they say he won't live more than 6 months, but I think they could be wrong. Doctors have been wrong before, right? I know it sounds like denial, but you have to hope....
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I am so glad Jimmy seems to be doing better and Yes doctors have been wrong before in many, many cases. Don't give up hope and don't let him give up hope- a positive attitude can boost the immune system. I will be praying for him- let us know what happens on Thursday.
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I'm praying for Jimmy. Please keep us updated on his condition. I hope he gets home soon.

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