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Old 05-23-2018, 10:23 PM
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Question Anyone in a same sex relationship with a gang member?

Anyone else in a loving relationship with a member of a notorious prison gangster? Is this relationship a same sex relationship?
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Old 05-23-2018, 11:05 PM
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Anyone else in a loving relationship with a member of a notorious prison gangster? Is this relationship a same sex relationship?
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Old 05-25-2018, 08:24 AM
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Hi - I moved your post to our forum for same sex relationships

I also changed the title of your thread a little bit as it appeared you might be referring to members of prison gangs - let me know if you meant otherwise
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Old 05-25-2018, 08:25 AM
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Yes and thank you. A lot of things that I am curious about and this seems to be the right category for that question. Thank you tons.
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but why a gang member??
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Old 06-02-2019, 11:09 AM
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but why a gang member??

Why not?


Regardless of same sex or not, what's wrong with gang members having relationships?


Sure, the lifestyle's rough. There's things about gang members that are not particularly desirable to me. But at the same time, Dee had plenty of gang members around her. A few of my friends I've made through her definitely have connections to that life.


At the end of the day, they're human. It's not like they sit there going "oh look at me, I'm a gang member, I'm going to kill/exploit/drug you" or anything like that.


And some gang members are homosexual.


And some members here are in relationships with people who would be considered gang members, either in prison or out of prison, and we are here to support them and their loved ones, too (as long as, of course, they remain within the community guidelines.)



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My partner is considered a gang member. He was really into it when he was younger. He still had a few friends that are "gang" members but they don't do what they used to do. People grow up I guess.
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As his releasal date is drawing closer, I find myself distancing myself.
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As his releasal date is drawing closer, I find myself distancing myself.
Hi there,I can understand your apprehension as things will definitely change for you both. You will both need to adjust to his release and he will need some time to make the changes he needs to make to adapt to his life in the free world.My advice would be to take it slowly and give yourselves some space.

I hope it goes well for you both.
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Hi there, if you don't mind me asking... did you two meet while incarcerated?

I was married to a validated gang member, you would have never ever known it - he looks like a geek and never had the thug swag... he was definitely able to fool a lot of people.

While incarcerated because of him, I ended up meeting a woman (also gang validated) I was far from bi-sexual, wanted nothing to do with women on that level, but after months of her courtship, I fell in deep like with her - while incarcerated, I struggled deeply with the emotions and reality that was transpiring between us. We did carry on a relationship outside of jail, which was extremely unhealthy and toxic for me and my life, but looking back I needed to go through that experience, it taught me a great deal of vigilance and I analyzed many parts of who I am or want as a woman.

I'm the type of person who is all in or all out, there is no in between - when I'm in something I'm pouring all of what I can and have... You sound more level headed

Earlier I asked if you met inside because life in jail is a different world with different rules and expectations. Getting out is an adjustment...I think it took me a good year to kick the jail-life mentality. I recall thinking about violating just so that I can go back, life out here was so hard and so different. We cut off people we love and yet yarn for, it's just apart of the process.... if he knows you well and trusts you, he'll look for you even if you distance yourself.

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As his releasal date is drawing closer, I find myself distancing myself.
I understand that. Are you two MWI?
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