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Old 03-01-2009, 01:17 PM
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my huband has been in WTSP in Henning for two years and was going to make parole on Feb. 18 but unfortuneately he was the one that on the news about "PRISONER ESCAPES HAS TO CALL 911" i am so embarrassed to even admitt he is my husband anymore because he would be home right now if he hadn't done that. Now he has to flatten his sentence and that is another 26 months. what would u do?
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nothing you can do. he's got more time, so if you love him, you do it with him.
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Old 03-01-2009, 01:28 PM
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we have been married for almost 3 years and i have stood by him the whole time because he has been in an out of jail all 3 yreas we even got married in the workhouse
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Is beating his a$$ an option? Just kidding.

I read the article but I'm not sure if it's the one about your husband...but the one I read said he lost his bearings in the woods during a work detail and he found a cell phone (that is a little weird) and they were deciding wether or not to convict him of escape...did they actually charge him with escape? I don't understand why they think he would try to escape if he was that close to his release date.

If they did, I'm really sorry...I'm sure that has to be so hard for you.
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I'd wait it out and buy him a phone with GPS. I bet your pissed as hell or numb or both. Honey whatever you decide to do I wish you all the best.

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I would be pissed as hell and wait it out. Cause its one thing to make a simple mistake but when you know you are coming home and you do something of this magnitude i would be damn pissed. ITs like you were so close to walking out and coming home to your family. Why ?
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Old 03-01-2009, 01:51 PM
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that's him i've sked him what was going through his head and why he did that and he said it was a pkg for someone else and after he got it he got turned around and lost his way. i told him that he should've never even that the thought cross his miond that close to comin home.
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WOW - I honestly don't know what to say to you. I mean he was 2 days to the gate and he even considered doing something like this - picking up the 'package' for another inmate???

I honestly don't know what to say except that I hope YOU are okay and that maybe you might want to do some soul searching on even being with this guy. He seems to not really care about staying out from what you've said, so unless you're happy with living the life you've lead for the past 3 years, maybe back off from him and think about what YOU want and need for your life - where you want to be 5, 10, 15 years from now.

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Old 03-01-2009, 02:05 PM
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hope all of u hav a good day hav to go lay baby down for a nap she jus came in from playin outside in the 10 inches of snow we got last night, with my son.
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I would be extremely upset. I can see if he did it after he found out he didn't make parole, but right before parole? Yeah I would be upset with him b/c that only adds additional time to a sentence which is never good.
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I would be so mad I couldn't see straight! Ray would see the wrath of Rose Mary, and trust me, he doesn't like to see that! Oh man, I am not sure what I would do, but it wouldn't be nice!
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Been there done that
And still here I sit-waiting,,BUT NOW like I am going to be saying till the cows come home,,,if he messes up and catches that football field,,We will always be friends
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I would be so mad I couldn't see straight! Ray would see the wrath of Rose Mary, and trust me, he doesn't like to see that! Oh man, I am not sure what I would do, but it wouldn't be nice!

Just change the name to Larry and this said it all !!!
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o00oweee I would be so pissed... Of course i would stand by him and still wait but man he would catch hell i would B*tch at him for the entire time so that he knew damn well not to mess up the next chance....
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geez.... I'm so sorry! I would be one ticked off wife/gf, or whatever. Only 2 days and this?? I mentioned this to mine and he couldn't believe it either. He said if he was 2 days out he would be sitting in his room and not talking to anyone, just waitin for the the clock to tick away the minutes!

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oh lord I dont know what I would do. Honestly I think I would be so hurt and mad, I would probablly stay with him but i would make him do that last 26 months all by his lonesome!
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I really dont know what I would do either except rip him a new one. I would make him wear it everyday until he got home and remind him that he did this and is making you suffer. I would be giving some tuff love. What in the world could he have been thinking? 2 days!! That is crazy. I am so very sorry.
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i think i'm still in schock cuz everything seems to have stood still since the day i got ythe call that he had escaped from a friend whose husband was in there with BJ.
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I would say a MISTAKE is an understatement. He should have been evaluated by a psychatrist. 2 days, I am in shock just reading the post. He must not have wanted to come home very bad, because any person would know that would tack on more charges. I would def evaluate my relationship with him, I hate to sound mean, but he temporarily lost his marbles there.

He is lucky he only got those months to serve, I have seen a guy here have 6 months left and he escaped and got 10 because he was a PFO.
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Hey there, i am sorry you have to endure this. Just remember despite it all, this is gods will and if you choose to wait, i am sure it will be well worth it- perhaps you should try to look at it positively like well its 26 mos had he come home and messed up GOD FORBID it could have been longer- maybe he knew in his heart he wasnt ready for the streets and did what he felt was right. keep your faith hon, this too shall pass and you have pto which is a great support system. You are in my prayers..God bless.
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oh honey i am so sorry I would tear him a new one though... 2 days omfg
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Of course there is nothing you can do to change that.. Just hope that he learned his lesson this time and just finish his sentence out without a problem and start his life when he comes home. If Santos did that honestly, I think I would beat him to death when he came home. This is not just him going through this, it is me too.. so for him to do something like that affects me to because he is my life.. and when he comes home we get to start it together again and if he jeopardizes that I would be very angry.
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i wish i could c him right now cuz then he would know exactly how bad he has hurt me by doing this, he knows i'm not going anywhere bucuz i love him and he means everything to me. i jus hope he doesn't mess up anymore, cuz i don't know what i will do if he does. i thought he had grown up a litlle this past 2 years but now i see that i was wrong, maybe it's that i'm 35 and he's 25 and i really think bout my choice befor i decide to n e thing first, and what the end result would be.
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umm, i know i'll get alot of flack for this but the way i'd be feeling he'd be leaving me. he'd rather be alone,i'm telling you. disappointed and devastated are 2 words that could describe how i'd be feeling. i honestly don't know what i would do. i'm so sorry, i feel really bad for you. do you think maybe subconsciously he didn't want to get out???? i mean 2 days????? it just seems insane!!!
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