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View Poll Results: How much $ do u invest in your man monthly?
less than $10 a month 71 12.01%
$20 - $50 122 20.64%
$60 - $200 263 44.50%
more than $200 monthly 135 22.84%
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Old 05-31-2014, 12:25 PM
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I order a secure pack every 3 months which is about $85. Then about $20 in between that time. He has a bad back and it cost $4 a visit to the doctor so I try and give him the $20 for that. From what he says his mom turned her back because he "chose" me over her. I wish I could do more but the calls are $6 a call only 1 well allowed he's in the hole.
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I realise I'm most probably being scammed by my pen pal and I am absolutely walking away I just feel stupied and sad that it's taken this long to admit the intuition I've had ....u live and your learn right :/
Unfortunately some people will never realize the value of a TRUE FRIEND. Don't blame yourself. It's people like this that make it bad for the rest. I have a pen-pal and he has never asked me for anything. Whatever I do it's because I want to. A friend will not put pressure on you to do anything.
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Just out of interest, how much money do u ladies put on your love's books monthly? Does he "expect" you to send him money on regular basis and does he appreciate every penny? Feel free to share
I have a pen-pal that I send between 100-150 monthly. He has never asked me for one cent. This is something that I do because I want to. He doesn't expect anything and he always lets me know how thankful he is. This helps with e-mail, stamps, phone calls and a little something from the commissary. I try to be a blessing to those less fortunate. This is how we get blessed-by blessing others.
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Mine has never asked for anything except stamps, envelopes, and paper so that he can write me. I have put $30 on my phone for him to call me. And one time I put $60 on his books for food because his mother had promised him and he had already ordered and she had an emergency and didnt have it. I think he still thinks she did that. He tells me to make sure that me and the kids have what we need and not to worry about him. I do worry about him though and I would send more if I had it. You can usually tell if its real or if you are being played by the money issue.
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nope, never nada! I told my husband that if he wanted to get married, I w/not be sending ANY money. We have been married 4 yrs next month! nope, never, nada!
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My hubby gets $250 a month right now. It seems to last him for 30 days.
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I don't send money. His mom does. I pay a lot for calls and I also send him magazines and books from time to time. He never even asked for me to do any of what I do but I want to. I can't not talk to him and I want him to keep busy reading and stuff.
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My guy has never asked for anything at all, but I wanted to put some money on his books just so he has a little bit extra! Is $20 an offensive amount? Or would that be helpful? Also can they have any amount they want on their books?
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Technically I don't put any of my own money on his account, but between his parents and his own money he gets about $100/week. He doesn't always spend that much, but considering they charge $1/pill for handling his meds we never want him to run out. He also spends about $40/week on phone cards. He also buys a lot of snacks because he hates the food they serve. His fellow inmates say its better than other facilities, but he's spoiled to some very good home cooking. The man has never eaten store bought jelly if that tells you just how spoiled he is! I take him puzzle books and reading material every time I visit. As soon as he gets home he expects to see receipts for everything I've spent on him including gas and food when I go to see him. He says he's giving me back every single penny. Plus his parents give me money out of his bank account every month at his request and his grandma insists on paying for my gas to go see him whether she tags along or not.
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Its funny because I recently read through some posts about them not needing anything yet the majority send a lot! Just saying that its easy to say to someone else they need nothing yet most people send when they can.
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Too much and he spends a lot b/c he hate the food there. $80.00 for commissary and 200.00 phone charges a month b/c I live in FL and he's in GA.
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Just out of interest, how much money do u ladies put on your love's books monthly? Does he "expect" you to send him money on regular basis and does he appreciate every penny? Feel free to share


I cannot send him as much as i want because he has fees he owes and they take the money after $50 a month. I am thinking I have to pay the fines and all so that they do not take the money. Any suggestions.?
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i send my friend money on occasion but only when i want to. i dont send my penpals money and made it clear that i wont be that kind of provider. i do send my penpals music and books on occasion though which is always a nice surprise for them
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I send nothing except maybe an Ecomm twice a year and I pay for phone calls. He's never asked for money and never would.
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I don't send him money. He told me if I did he would send it back. We aren't dating, but have talked about it when he comes home. I have sent him books, and some other things-but haven't given him any money
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Old 08-05-2014, 09:50 AM
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I send my husband between $100-300 a month, it just depends how our finances are that month. I do what I can. He rarely asks for money, it's normally me asking him for money.
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Old 08-05-2014, 10:53 AM
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Zero dollars and zero cents. I do send music and books, which he never asks for, they're gifts. Every situation is different... I'm very grateful for ours.

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Old 08-26-2014, 01:30 PM
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He can spend $50 a week at the store, so I usually send that. He sends the receipts of what he buys. He has given me a wish list of things he wants from the store, such as shoes, walkman, etc... and if I have any extra I will send it for that. They only feed them twice a day on the weekends, so he usually would rather spend his money on food than other things. He recently bought his walkman, so he has requested cd's, and I have taken that from the money I would normally send. I have a local number so phone calls don't cost much anymore, less than 100 a month, so I am able to do more with his "wants" now. Either way, we have a great understanding that home comes first, and if I have it I will send it, if not he will just have to wait.
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When mine was down no he didn't appreciate anything I sent him he wanted more and more and it was never good enough.
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I send what I can when I can. Sometimes I can send $50 a month other times I can send $100 a month. I send books for him to read when he asks for them. He never expects anything. He knows I have no help or assistance with my own bills and needs, so he knows I'm doing my best. I'm not aware of any "package" programs for the facility he's in, but if there is one, I would definitely use it. He appreciates everything I'm able to do for us.
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Vermont only allows one package and it has to be done within the first 60 days of their arrival. If it's not done within that time frame, they wear what they came in with. The facility that is in now. Only 2 facilities in Vermont actually give them clothing to wear. Once year ( Christmas we can order a special package that they make up for them, we get 2 choices to choose from ) I send him about $400 a month and that covers phone, food and hygiene products. He never asks me for anything, in the 2 years he's has been there, I have only missed two times and that was because of unexpected costs that came up. I felt bad but he was very understanding, he is always telling me to take care of myself first.
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None, but he still sends me receipts because I like having little remnants of his daily life and I love giving him a hard time about one Cherry Pepsi and a honeybun.
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None. He doesn't ask, wouldn't ever ask, and I can't afford it if he did. We never talk on the phone, ($9 for 15 mins!) so I don't have to worry about that. His mother puts money on his books for him to get what he wants/needs.
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