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View Poll Results: Biggest obstacles your released sibling will face?
Employment 228 61.62%
Finding living accomodation 51 13.78%
Emotional- low self-worth, depression, dealing with crowds etc 114 30.81%
Reconnecting with family, friends 64 17.30%
Everyday routines-money management,making own decisions etc. 120 32.43%
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Old 06-16-2005, 08:27 AM
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Default Biggest obstacle your parent or sibling will face on release?

What do you think the hardest things your sibling will have to overcome/deal with once released? (You can vote for more than one.)

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Old 06-16-2005, 10:43 AM
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Gosh I almost feel as I could vote on each one of those, I know my brother is going to have so many issues after being in for 21 years, I just hope me and my family can give him the support and love that he needs when he is released this year, it's exciting and also scary

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I had a hard time choosing "just one", too. But, since I had to choose just one, I selected: Everyday routines-money management,making own decisions etc. I hope that my little brother has learned that there are consequences for the decisions that you make, whether they are good or bad. I know that we all make mistakes but I hope that he's learned from his and will stay away from the negative people that used to be in his life.

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The biggest problem my brother will have when he get's home is staying away from drugs and his friends that do drugs.
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Old 08-18-2006, 05:38 PM
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The best thing for the sibling is to NOT have anything to do with those who do drugs but of course, I know how that is,easier said than done. My brother was down for almost 2 years and was released July 11, 2006 and it is very different to see them NOT on drugs and all the changes he went through. I can say he isn't the brother I once knew while on drugs. His biggest drug was "CRACK" and in which didn't do him any good but do his family wrong but you know, we have to look beyond what caused our siblings the wrong doings and give them a chance to make it up to us by caring, loving and helping them in every way we can help.They too, are only human. Since my brother has been out, he has been very edgy due to not having a job and being able to support himself and his loved ones. I have to remind him not to worry about us, worry about himself as he would be the one going back to prison IF he doesn't get employment, etc. He isn't one for following rules but if its to stay out of prison then he will do what it takes to do what is called for. Prison parole is like a recipe, IF you mess up with 1 major ingredient, you have to start all over again. He was released on a 1 yr parol, which is a very luck chance of anyone getting that... ha ha ha. Keep your head up high and everything will fall into place for the sibling if he follows the rules.

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I wholeheartedly agree with you. Especially in my case where my brother is 1000 miles away from ANY family members and both of his children (ages 13 & 11) have lost both their Father (my brother) and Mother and have been wards of the state since they were very young.
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The biggest problem my brother will have when he get's home is staying away from drugs and his friends that do drugs.
Im scared thats what will happen to my brother when he gets out.. but ima try and help him through it and he has all his family to support him(: good luck to you and your brother
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i totaly think the same thing than you...
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I had a hard time choosing "just one", too. But, since I had to choose just one, I selected: Everyday routines-money management,making own decisions etc. I hope that my little brother has learned that there are consequences for the decisions that you make, whether they are good or bad. I know that we all make mistakes but I hope that he's learned from his and will stay away from the negative people that used to be in his life.

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MZachow, I'm so happy for you and your family!

Along with all the little changes, my brother will have a hard time staying away from all the bad influences he had in his life. I don't care if our whole family has to relocate just to keep him from away, we'll do it. I know that no matter what, we are going to stick by him and help him the most we can. The day he comes home will be a very happy day indeed
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My family moved to Maryland from Arizona to provide a place that is healthy for my little brother to get out and be a part of. We knew if he returned home to Kansas... that is where my parents live... he would never make it. so my hubby and kids got up and move. lol I am closer to him now and he is excited to get out this time. i think it will be better for him. i just love him and dont want to spend another 8 years away from him because he just cant say no.

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MZachow, I'm so happy for you and your family!

Along with all the little changes, my brother will have a hard time staying away from all the bad influences he had in his life. I don't care if our whole family has to relocate just to keep him from away, we'll do it. I know that no matter what, we are going to stick by him and help him the most we can. The day he comes home will be a very happy day indeed
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My brother's biggest obstacle will be, staying off drugs. Meth is his demon, and I hope that this time around things will be different. His mentality however has not changed. You know how guys say they are going to do things differently when they get out... well he doesnt even do that. He just says that he is who he is and thats that.

He gets released this month. For anyone who has or is living with a loved one on this drug, you know how difficult, dangerous, and stessfull it is.. Wish us well.
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aztkgirl- I do wish you and your brother well. Please keep us posted and let us know he is doing- positive thoughts and prayers to you both!
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My brother's biggest obstacle will be, staying off drugs. Meth is his demon, and I hope that this time around things will be different. His mentality however has not changed. You know how guys say they are going to do things differently when they get out... well he doesnt even do that. He just says that he is who he is and thats that.

He gets released this month. For anyone who has or is living with a loved one on this drug, you know how difficult, dangerous, and stessfull it is.. Wish us well.
Aztkgirl I wish your brother and your family well, just love him and do your best to be there for him. My brother was released after 21 years this past week to a halfway house until Dec. 21st. I'm sure the obstacles he will face for everyday life is going to be difficult but we are hoping with our love an support and this program he will adjust back into society. All I know is all these years I've not been able to have my big brother in my life and I don't plan on missing a minute of it now I sleep so much better now knowing when I lay down at night that no one is being mean to my brother anymore!

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My brother's biggest obstacle will be, staying off drugs. Meth is his demon, and I hope that this time around things will be different. His mentality however has not changed. You know how guys say they are going to do things differently when they get out... well he doesnt even do that. He just says that he is who he is and thats that.

He gets released this month. For anyone who has or is living with a loved one on this drug, you know how difficult, dangerous, and stessfull it is.. Wish us well.
my son was hooked on meth,he got off it only by going to heroin. my son is in prison now for two years.i pray this time hell learn his lesson. my son also said he is what he is. i will pray for your brother.
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i feel so horrible for you. i am actually a recovering addict and have dealt with that drug for majority of my life and my marriage. unfortunately it is the devils drug. it is one of the hardest drugs to break free of. i actually had to move away all together. my husband was clean for about three years and went back to it. i wish you the best of luck.
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My brother's biggest obstacle will be, staying off drugs. Meth is his demon, and I hope that this time around things will be different. His mentality however has not changed. You know how guys say they are going to do things differently when they get out... well he doesnt even do that. He just says that he is who he is and thats that.

He gets released this month. For anyone who has or is living with a loved one on this drug, you know how difficult, dangerous, and stessfull it is.. Wish us well.

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My brother's biggest obstacle will be, staying off drugs. Meth is his demon, and I hope that this time around things will be different. His mentality however has not changed. You know how guys say they are going to do things differently when they get out... well he doesnt even do that. He just says that he is who he is and thats that.

He gets released this month. For anyone who has or is living with a loved one on this drug, you know how difficult, dangerous, and stessfull it is.. Wish us well.
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METH should have been an option in this poll. Staying off of THE DEVIL'S DRUG and all that it gives/takes will be obstacle number one.
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Michelle- I am so happy to hear about your brother being released to a halfway house. And yes I can imagine that you will be able to relax a little now knowing that he is in a safer situation.Please let us know how he is getting on and he is readjusting to life outside after 21 years
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It's so hard to just chose 1. We have set up a bank account in his name so that when he gets out he will have money for an apt and a car. So it won't be money. I think if I had to chose between drugs (meth) or realizing all he's missed out on I would chose all he's missed out on. Seeing his 2 year old daughter is now grown into a beautiful 12 year old. I think thats going to hit him real real hard.
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My brother's biggest issue is staying out of trouble. He will do good for a while, then relink up with old friends, and get back into the same old habits again. My brother is 41 and has been in and out of jail since 24..has done about 12 years in and out of prison.
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I think that my brother's most difficult thing, at this juncture, is actually finding a place to live. He is a sex offender (2 counts posession of child porn), and in order to be released, he needs to have an address to go to - lost of rules and regs to follow, you know. Not an easy mountain to traverse when you are the one trying to find housing!
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Hi Y'all...
I think the biggest problem/obstacle my brother will encounter is staying away from the negative things that landed him in jail, mainly alcohol and his drinking buddies. My brother has an alcohol problem and until he realizes that for himself and decides to make some major changes...then I am afraid he will repeatedly be in and out of the system as he has been for the past 10 years. he doesnt seem to think he has a drinking problem...just a *driving problem* HA!
I pray that he will decide he needs and wants help and doesnt touch alcohol again. Only HE can make those life choices though....also praying that the Lord will give him the strength to fight his demons...and pursue a clean healthy lifestyle.
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I think all of the above. Unfortunately alcohol has been an issue since he was 16 and he is now 32. With this being his very first prison sentence I pray that he values his freedom and doesn't desire to go back.
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