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Old 04-13-2004, 02:06 PM
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Thank you so much for posting this. I have tried to find sites that will help me in understand what his needs will be. I would really like to hear Storm's experience in their lives. I'm really speachless at this time. Again, thanks for posting this.
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Old 04-20-2004, 12:33 PM
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great info!!
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I also have been looking for anything that would help me understand what it will be like when Brad comes ome and I did buy that book "When prisoners come home" but I thought it was completly unable to relate to the situation we are in. It was more designed for the business way of thinking I guess, bummer cause it cost about $20.00!

Great article, I printed it out and I;m going to send it to Brad. I did that with something else that had listed what to expect and he sent it back to me with some of it checked off so I would know what he was thinking would be on his mind when he comes home.
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I recently did a college term paper "Psychological Effects of Incarceration" and cited this article. I got a A+ with a side note "Excellet paper and a Facinating Read!!!!"

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That is a great article. My father will be home Monday June 28th and it is Wensday June 23rd so we have about five days. The person in my family it will be hard to explain to is my 82 year old grandmother. The worst part about the situation is my father will be living alone with her. But I think I will print this article out and she hopefully better understand how he will be reacting towards things considering he has been locked up for 10 1/2 years. Thank you again for sharing this article with us all.
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Beautiful article and so true! Thanks.
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my hubby comes home in 41 days im so happy, ill be glad when we can cuddle together forever, i love him so much.
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my b/f will be home in about 6 months...been in for 7 months...hopefully he will be in work release by september and i really hope that will help him a little, but i am definately going to pass this onto his wife. i am sure it will for sure be awkward for him to be around his 2 sons after not seeing them for over 8 months...thank you!
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check out this thread too! not only for NEW YORK!

http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/sho...941#post690941
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Peace... I, too, have read the story, Coming Home, by Storm Reyes. Read it in the book, How To Love and Inspire Your Man After Prison, by Michael B. Jackson. In my view Ms. Reyes statement was the only part of the book that addressed the subject. I think it's powerful, informative and and speaks to the spirit of "Coming Home." Will continue to look for her work as well as that which comes out on PTO. Blessings...
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I thought the quote was very heart breaking . My son has a while to go nad it breaks my heart to think of him being treated that way. I know prison is suppose to "make them pay" but it does alot more than that . My son got 16 years for $94, what a loss. He has a good heart and a weak mind. So keep us in your prayers.
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awwwwww. i will pray for you and him.
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This artical is wonderful.Where ever you got this from more is needed I love everthing about it I must say this is my biggest fear. His behavior and the things he will like and dislike.I am still scared yet this has help me in many ways if you only knew.The biggest thing I have to learn is to take my time I must say according to this artical everything I wanted to do was a no-no like take him shopping or going out to eat.what about asking him what like to eat. Maybe it's me but Hell I am gonna be so happy my baby is home I wont relize the the fact that I will be moving to fast. Now there are a few things I have to think over and I must say thanks to you it's a good thing Im thinking them over.
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thanks so much for this amazing article!!
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I have a long way to go before Roger comes home, but that article has given me more information than I could have ever found on my own.

Just to think that ordering off a menu would be an overload is mind boggling. I need to find a lot of books just like this article.

Thank you for posting this.. I learned a lot today.
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Default interesting thing....

my hunny is in work release and he asked me to bring him three different kids of cigarettes.... not jus three BRANDS.... but he wanted the kind I smoke, camels, and Newports.

Also we had a short social on saturday night and on the way back he said he wanted me to stop cause he wanted a bacon burger and fries and a drink. as we drove down the street i saw five signs....so i said "burger king? Wendys? jack in the box? theres a a mickey D's baby.... or how bout taco bell??????" he was silent!

I looked over at him and said.... BABY?

he said "why did you do that?" and it hit me....too many choices.

i said ok! Jack in the box!!!!

so we pull in and get to the menu i order two junior bacon cheeseburgers for him with fries and a strawberry shake and he says.....you remembered! and i look at him and say... of course baby. Thats a choice i know not to give you.

We laughed cause we had both read this article but it was strange having it hit us for real.

it is sooo true.... so very true.

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Old 11-12-2004, 08:26 AM
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i have tried to find these words in describing how it is to come home after being incarcerated and they never seem to come out this way thanks for the articule. Everything said is so true. If you have ever been locked up you know this is what you felt and trying to explain it to someone is the hardest thing to do. The sound the smells everything is different no matter how long your lockedup. The talking is probably the hardest thing to get over i only had prison stories to tell i left many friends in side that had become close to me and talking and telling stories about them was all i had and no one wanted to listen they all said forget it and get on with the living now. I wish i had of had this to hand to many people so they could have understood there is nothing harder than walking out of that gate alone when you enter you are with a crowd when you leave your all alone and scared to death to move cause you know every move you make someone is watching still all the parole limits you have all the no's when your job hunting everything is hard and you wonder why they call it freedom some give up and go back because of this. But hopefully with this at your hands you will all be able to help your loved one become a part of your family and the free world again without putting any more restrictions on them than they already feel. Listening is the most important thing i think and you will get tired of the prison stories but remember this is what we have lived and so be paitent and it will all work out. good luck to you all you've gone through alot yourself just by waiting but you will be repaid for your love oneday hold on and never give up.
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I just read coming home. that is just what i needed.. i didnt know what to expect, my son is coming home january 31... im so excited and worried.......... thank you, thank you. lorie
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I read this article and it just hit me, these are the everyday behaviors of my autistic son. I can't take him in stores or the mall, never through a drive thru with a menu to choose from, his clothes have to be soft or silky and all the same, no loud noises, no surprises, no touching unless you ask, social situations are debilitating......He can't make decisions or choices.

It makes one think: does the prison system try to make them like this or is my son in a prison of his own? My brain is going ninty to nothing right now processing this. I will be in a good position to deal with Jason. I have been doing it all my life.

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All of that is GREAT advice! I'd say this one is the biggest one I have tried to do since he came home and it really is an important one I think "The key to helping is staying supportive, but not smothering"
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Thanks so much for sharing, I needed that insight.I will have plenty of time to re-read it before he comes hom.Se sounds right on th ball with things.I'd like to get that book.God Bless
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I just read this again, after a year ago, and I have changed my original views on this...when I first posted this, we had not yet begun to feel what it may be like for him coming home, we have recently - started to feel reality creep up on us and this has helped me to read this again today. PATIENCE, Lord give me patience!
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With a son coming home soon, Thanks. This makes me cry. Start to understand and see what I/we should know and do. It seems so logical but thanks for pointing these things out.
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i have 30 days left. thanks for the advice
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Old 02-22-2005, 11:47 AM
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This is right on target. I have visited 3 different pals at 3 different prisons and I've observed this conditioned behavior. Last visit wee spent most of the day outside, and he always faced toward the center of the yard. I've seen them sit so as to face the center of the room. They are always fascinated by the visitors' clothing - the colors, patterns, etc.
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