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Old 07-20-2019, 04:20 AM
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Me and my fiancé have decided to get married and he put the request in...

We then received a letter back stating that although we are allowed to request it, the prison will not allow it unless we demonstrate a ‘compelling reason to marry while in the prison’

I’m crushed! And totally lost and confused... what exactly does that mean? I’m assuming a letter about how much we love each other etc is not going to be enough? Has anyone ever experienced this?
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Old 07-20-2019, 12:47 PM
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Not a requirement when we married so I don't have direct advice for you. My shot-in-the-dark guess would be that they want to hear something about stability and support. However as these things are super specific to the agency in charge, it would help if we knew which state DOC you were applying to.
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I am not sure what they want either. I got married last year and never had to give a reason. As Mia says which Doc are you applying to get married in?
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My fiancee is in a PA state facility. He put in a request to marry recently. Before we can send intent and fees to the county, we have to be counseled and screened. From what he was told, they basically want to make sure I'm not being forced, we are able to comprehend and follow through the steps, and the reason why marry now and not after release. Currently awaiting for more info to when this will occur.
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Every doc seems to be different some allow ceremonies some don’t. It would really help to know which doc we are talking about.
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A little forced introspection is never a bad thing. Take this opportunity to genuinely explore the reasons why you feel you need to get married in the prison. They aren’t asking you why you want to get married, because presumably the answers are similar for everyone. They are asking why you need to get married in a prison instead of post-release.

It’s a valid question. If you genuinely can’t come up with an answer for why you’d rather have your wedding photographs in a prison visiting room, why you’d prefer to shop for a wedding dress based on visiting room dress codes rather than what makes you feel special and beautiful, why you’d rather get married without your family present, why you really want to leave your brand-new husband minutes after the ceremony and spend your wedding night alone... instead of waiting until he’s released...if you honestly have no answer for that, then why would you choose that?
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For me, my decision to marry in prison had nothing to do with my choice of wedding dress, my solo wedding night, my lack of family present or my lack of a party, wedding cake or even a proper ceremony (we self solemnised at a visit). My decision was based on one thing and one thing alone. That was to be formally by my husbands side and to show him I am serious about our relationship. He is worth every mile between us and every minute we are apart. I love him not because of where he is but because of the man he is and the heart he has.
My marriage is about our committment to each other for the long haul.
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My fiancee is in a PA state facility. He put in a request to marry recently. Before we can send intent and fees to the county, we have to be counseled and screened. From what he was told, they basically want to make sure I'm not being forced, we are able to comprehend and follow through the steps, and the reason why marry now and not after release. Currently awaiting for more info to when this will occur.

Having done part of the process now myself, they will also want you to know the full extent of his charges and the length of his sentence at the counseling session. Good luck. Which facility are you dealing with? I might be able to find out a little more info for you, as I have contacts all over PA now lol Congratulations. When are y'all hoping to get married?


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