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View Poll Results: Have you cheated?
YES 25 10.46%
YES-AND I FELT GUILTY 47 19.67%
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NO-BUT I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT IT 30 12.55%
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Old 03-01-2004, 03:37 AM
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Now we all know somedays are tougher to handle than others. With our every day struggle, not to mention the "must do" daily routines it can become very difficult to stay as strong as we would all like to be. Now I personally have run into many, and I repeat many over-bearing obsticles in my life. But ever since my man-bestfriend-and lover has been away, I have found it a lil difficult to stay happy 24/7. Now we all know it is very easy to cheat on our men, since we cannot wake up in the morning to thier handsome faces, nor fall asleep in thier loving arms at night. Love and devotion are the 2 main reasons I stay faithfull, but it does become extremely difficult to stay so strong for the both of us. I think anybody would be lying if they said cheating has never crossed thier mind in one way or another. I dont think there is anything wrong with that because you are not actually commiting any wrong doings. If you are walking down the street and another man approches you and tries to hit on you-it is not your fault. You are however responsible for the outcome of that situation. What one chooses to do is simply there own business, and it is your perogative to do as you please. I am merely asking the question - not to point the finger at anybody - but to simply understand how others in my situation have dealed with this delicate subject when approached by it.

My question's 2 you ladies are---Have you ever cheated on your man? Whether he was on the inside or on the out's? (I made this one a "POLL" choice because I feel this can be a very personal question.)

If you HAVE NOT---What did you do that made you stay faithful? (please feel free to answer as you please)
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Old 03-01-2004, 03:50 AM
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so, far...and, you can only take this one day at a time, you know...

but, i just can't play with those temptations..i may respond to an inquiry, which is of the possible flirtious-hope-to-get-to-know-you-better kind.....so i get the little moment of male attention, validation...but, then it has to be like HALT...ie: can i get your number, no, my boyfriend wouldn't like that?, your boyfriend doesn't have to know...yes, he does, my boyfriend wouldn't like that...

basically, if i keep it simple, my boyfriend wouldn't like that," then they usually hear me, even when they are very persistant...and, where i live they are...and, then i don't have to talk to much, because that will get me in trouble...you know what i mean..

so, just keep repeating, like a mantra=}, my, boyfriend/fiancee/husband wouldn't like that.

but, i am lucky, because, i don't like going out much, lately...
so, that leaves the mailman...and, she is not too cute...=}

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Old 03-01-2004, 04:21 AM
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I have never cheated on my man. I can honestly say that it has never crossed my mind. I am totally and completely dedicated to my man in every way possible. Yes, I may see a man that I think looks yummy, but he could never be as yummy as my baby. I have dudes' that approach me, but I tell them that I'm married. It's none of their business where he's at. If they don't respect it when I tell them that I'm married then I say, even if I wasn't why would I be interested in you b/c you're trying to have me step out on my man which is totally against my morals and you're telling me now that you step out on your woman. It's just not something that crosses my mind. I hae never been tempted. I don't go out hardly ever, I go to work and home to take care of my son. I don't have time to be trying to juggle more than one man. My man is my focus. I would never do anything to jeopardize what we share.
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first off i am not that sophisticated to juggle more than one man!lol seriously, i am just not attracted to anyone else physically or mentally! it just would not be fulfilling and then i'm gonna be feeling all cheap and empty afterwards!
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Many years ago I cheated in a different relationship. The outcome devastated my life and the life of others so there is no way I would do it again.

In my current relationship I have not, will not, could not cheat. I love him and myself too much to ever put us through that. If a guy tries to talk to me in "that" way I let him know with a quickness that I ain't the one.

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I have been on the receiving end of that too many times--and it hurts way too much for me to ever put anyone that I care about throught it. To me, it's simple: if my mind is not involved in the relationship enough to keep me from straying with my body, then I need a new relationship. I have always believed that you've got to handle your old business before moving on to the new.
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In a way I have cheated on my man. Not in the recent past but for the last three years. This sounds weird, but we were not in a relationship together but everytime I was with someone I was thinking about my man( I even picked up a guy one night just because of his name, and told him so). I just found out from my ex fiance that I would say my mans name in my sleep all the time. Ya , This went over really good. So I will have faith and believe that all of this means something, I believe that everything is for a reason, and my destiny is what I make of it. Yes I look at men. But I really don't want anyone else but my Sexy Assed Texan.. ( thought you would liek that nature)..lol
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Yes you are so right!It is very hard to be strong and saty faithful.But I love my man so much that I just can't picture me in the arms of another man.So until he comes home I will remain faithful to him.
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Point of clarification: I didn't read the question to mean whether or not we ever "looked!" That changes everything . . .lol

Witty, you make me laugh. What are the odds of finding another guy named Sexy Assed Texan up there in Canda?
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I have never and wouldn't even even think about cheating on my fiance'. I have been cheated on in the past and I know how heart breaking that is to go through. Plus, my fiance' is the one for me and I am not going to even let the thought of something like that jeopordize our trust and relationship with each other. I love him too much to lose him over some stupid crap like getting laid. It's been easy for me, because as I said, I know what it feels like to be on the flip side and I just love him so much I wouldn't ever even think about it.
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Old 03-01-2004, 10:03 AM
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Absolutely not, no way, no how. I am completely in love with Nick, and just the thought of being with someone else turns my stomach. I can't help it. Yeah, I have to wait 5 years, but I'm so busy anyway, it's not like I have time to be lookin' for a temporary man. I could never hurt Nick like that. I know he would probably never find out, but [i]I[/]would know, and I know if he ever cheated, I would be absolutely destroyed.

I know we all have "urges", but there's always my fantasies of him
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Nope, never cheated, and I will never cheat on him. I know how it feels to be cheated on by someone you love. SO I would never do tht to someone I love. I wouldn't want to loose the man I love for one stupid meaningless night... It's hard at times.. But I know it's worth it. I get to spend the rest of my life I love..
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I haven't ever cheated on my man. And even while he's been locked up, I wouldn't think about it. Cheating on him hasn't crossed my mind. I'm to in love with him and I can't picture my life without him. I think if your so in love with someone you can wait until that person gets out to be with them the rest of your life. When you wait beautiful things come to you. I'm just hoping and praying July will hurry and come around.
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I will not cheat on my baby. I don't desire or want anyone else but him. No matter what the guy looks like,how he treats me,what he does for me,etc... I'ts not going to happen. He on the other hand was a 'man about it',if you wanna say that, and broke up with me before he had sex with anyone else. It may have been a few hours after we broke up,but still we were apart. I just keep myself from any situations that might try to suck me in... It's not gonna happen. My cousins g/f is cheating on him as wespeak...he called last week and told him what he deserved to know. He has a 6 month old daughter with her,and when the baby is in jeopardy,her father,my cousin, NEEDS to know whats going on behind his back.


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Well I can say that cheating on my man is not on my mind. Both of us have done wrong in the past and it hurt not one but both of us. So I have learned from our mistakes and I know that he is the man I want in my life now and forever,so I am not going to do anything to mess that up.

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I will never cheat on my husband. He means the world to me and I will never do anything to jeopardize our marriage besides I don't think any man could ever compare to my baby!
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So Far Ive Been Good I Havent Cheated On My Man Dont Plan To But Im Not Going To Say Never Because You Never Know Whats Going To Happen Right But Ive Stayed Faithfully To My Love And Cant Wait Till He Comes Out I Cant Picture Myself With Anybody Else Either. Yeah Theres A Lot Of Guys That Tell Me Whats Up But I Always Tell Them I Have A Man. The Ones That Know That My Man Is Locked Up They Still Want To Go Out But I Choose Not To I Love My Baby Regardless If Theres A Lot Of Guys Out There Rocky Is The One For Me
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I know how it feels like, when someone cheats on you, so I would never do it to the person I'm involved with. Respect and Trust are a key factor in a relationship.
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Nope.......this man holds my heart and obviously the rest of me too! ;-) He's the only one that I want.
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There Has Been A Time In The Past When I Did Have A Bed Buddy That I Cheated With. My Emotions Were With Jason, My Underclothes Just Werent. But After A While I Started Feeling Guilty So I Stopped. This Was About 3 Years Ago....
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I have not and will not cheat on my man. I love him and have no desire to have anyone else in my life. I cheated on my first husband and felt extremely guilty and eventually he left me for another woman. But this time it's different. Even though we are apart, I have NO DESIRE for anyone else.
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I have never cheated on my baby.

I did that cheating thing when I was younger and it is true what they say what goes around comes around.
I have been on both sides cheated on and the cheater, neither are good sides to be on.
That is not how I want to live my life, and not something I would do someone who loves me and I love.
My feeling is if you dont love the person your with and cant be faithful its better to just leave the relationship then to add unnecessary dram to the mix.
Its just not worth it.
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I myself have chosen to stay faithful to my man. Not to say that the thought of cheating has never crossed my mind, because it has. You can't avoid that, we are all human. But like you say it is your decision that predicts the outcome. It's not easy to be on the outside. There is a lot to deal with. We may not be in prison ourselves, but life sorta turns into it's prison of it's own. All your decisions, where you go, who you hang out with, are all made with him in the back of your mind. I couldn't cheat if I wanted to because I'd think of him the whole time. Then there's the guilt of it all, I don't even want it. Besides I could NEVER do that to him. Life changes when your man goes to prison and I think people need to think of that before they decide to wait for someone. It's not fun, and it's not easy. I think in hypothetical terms: What if that was me? Would I want to be cheated on? HELL NO! **Not accusing anyone, just stating---> If you cheat on someone then you do not deserve to be with that person. Dump him before you do it and save the pain on both sides. That is how I see it, and that's how I keep myself from being dumb and screwing everything up. If you love him and want to be with him in the future, you will make the right decision. There are ways to "relieve the tension" and we all know it, there ain't nothing to be embarassed about.
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