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Old 10-20-2017, 01:16 PM
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I am new to this whole thing. My son had a lasps on judgement and it is going to ruin his life. He is 23 and he last year in college. Well anyway he was chatting with a girl on snapchat and it turned sexual he sent her a picture and didn't ask for one of her. He started joking with her a made a soilitation. In his mind he thought that the girl was older by the way she was talking. Well the girl said that she would meet up with him and that she and her cousins 17 and 13 would come along. He was like okay cool whatever. So he meets up with the girl saw how young they actually were and was like oh hell no. But to be polite still offered to buy them food but was never intending on anything sexual. He never asked for them to come in his car, or handed them anything. He was was arrested elsewhere.
Now he is being charged with 5 felonies and I am just beside myself. Major depression. I have been getting death threats since this was major news in Oklahoma. He has been stuck in jail for almost 3 months now about to be sentanced to prison. Only one of his charges is 85%.
He is ready to plea just to get out of jail and go off to prison. They offered 10 years but that seems harsh to me. Since I know a guy that raped a 6 year old and a 13 year old only got 12 years with a PD. I can't even wrap my head around it. My son has a paid attorney.
This is my first indication that my son even liked girls. He avoided them until this incident. He always said his friend had girlfriend and they were always fighting.
Does jail time count toward sentancing? Does he qualify for good time? He has had no issues in jail, he keeps to himself and everyone seems to like him and waych out for him. Even though he is separated from general population at the moment. He is afraod of going to a gladiator prison. Hopes that he can do his time at joesph harp.
He does feel bad for what he did rather he got caught or not he would of had the guilt weighing over his head for a very long time. It is not in his character to do this and he know that. He is actually pretty discussed with himself. Everyone that saw this went into shock.
This is a very common thing though. I get solicited on facebook weekly.
Thank for listening any insite would help.

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This is his first crime ever.
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Firstly I am sorry you are going through this as a mother I know how hard it is when your children are in trouble. You need to get some support for yourself so you can support your son. Look for local support groups and see your doctor about your depression.
Secondly be very careful about posting details of your sons case on line, it certainly wont help him and it may be used against him.
He needs to discuss to his case with his attorney and no one else. His attorney will decide and advise on the best course of action for him.
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Thank you. Everything I posted can be found online. It made state news which os why people have been seeking our family out. I am in a different state than him and it is hard. They no contact visitation bit you can do it anytime for $8. This has put me in the poor house O can't afford a doctor. Between Commonsary, phone, books and an attorney I am tapped out.
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Ok well if you cant afford a doctor then look at support groups and use friends and family for support.
Remember your son has a roof over his head and 3 meals a day all the other things are nice to have, but if you are struggling you need to step back a little with the financial support. You do not need the stress of financial problems on top of your supporting your son emotionally.
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I can step back now that the attorney is paid. But it put me in payday loan debt. Ruined my credit and now I can't pay my rent so we are moving. It will take a while to recover. I have been through a lot in my day but this is hard. Lost a child 7 years ago to SIDS. His twin has non verbal autism, lost 2 of my kids to my ex husband who was able to manipulate the courts, went through 10 years of abuse. This is just another of those things. It takes longer to recover from because of the uncertainty. That is my biggest issue. Max son will get is 30 years, but I have seen Rape 1 get 5 years split.
I am just still in shock.
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I have amended your title so other members can find your thread and offer support.
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