preparing myself...

lissaloo · #1 09-08-2007, 04:08 PM

I'll be visiting a close friend of mine in a week or so... I've visited him before, behind glass of course, but the visits are SO much fun. Recently we've discussed in writing his reasons for being in prison, of course not in detail... he's decided he would like to share that with me in person. Let me say, he doesn't come up for parole until 2040.... so.... I'm guessing his reason is not going to be something pretty. I'm pretty nervous about this... and another friend of mine has suggested that I maybe find out a lil more about his sentence BEFORE I am faced with him telling me.... so I'm not totally shocked or blindsided. Well, so I've turned to the internet ... and haven't had much luck in finding any information on his past, his records and such.... does anyone have any suggestions for me...as to where I might be able to find out some information, so I'm not going to visit in the next week or so totally unprepared. I don't want the visit to end on a sad note... so my thinking is, the more I know - the less he'll have to go into detail about.... which will enable us to finish up the quick 2 hours with something more positive than details of his situation....

any suggestions, thoughts, comments are welcomed....
thanks.

LovingSoul4u2 · #2 09-08-2007, 04:20 PM

In Florida we have the DOC website and it lists ALL information about the charges (both past and present), it even has the information if he's been to prison before (telling of their date the initial receipt and release date). Check if your state has this sort of web site.

lissaloo · #3 09-08-2007, 04:32 PM

thanks.. but i haven't been able to find out anything for Texas....

you'd think as big as it is they'd have SOMETHING..... but then again, maybe they dont BECAUSE they are so big....

but thanks for the reply.

LovingSoul4u2 · #4 09-08-2007, 04:39 PM

I found this site for Texas in looking at it if you go to general information another subtitle will come up for offender information

http://www.tdcj.state.tx.us/

lissaloo · #5 09-08-2007, 05:02 PM

thank you. it's very vague.... but gives me an idea....

Patty · #6 09-08-2007, 05:11 PM

lissaloo ~ keep an open mind and just be yourself. Remember you don't have to visit but if you do enjoy it.

Patty

lissaloo · #7 09-08-2007, 05:16 PM

thanks patty....

i do want to visit... and i do want him to share with me, whatever it is that he wants to share... i've written him and told him that i don't want the visit to end negatively... and i beleive he already knows that i'm not much interested in why he's there... i care about him as a person... so his story isn't going to change my thoughts or feelings for him, nor will it mess up our friendship... writing and visiting, etc.

thanks for your support

SexyChef1 · #8 09-10-2007, 10:35 AM

How did your visit go?....He hadnt told you anything about why he's there?

HisChildSindi · #9 09-10-2007, 04:11 PM

lissaloo, have you tried the Texas court site. I was able to find out some information about my guy, on our Iowa Courts website. It still might be vague, but it might help too.

lissaloo · #10 09-10-2007, 09:05 PM

i found some info.... vague, but i have an idea... I will be visiting this saturday....

i'll let you guys know how well i survived.
Thanks~

Veggieguy · #11 09-10-2007, 09:40 PM

Hi Lissaloo...

"that I maybe find out a lil more about his sentence BEFORE I am faced with him telling me.... so I'm not totally shocked or blindsided. "

Did you mean his conviction..??

If you did, perhaps he can in just a few words explain before the visit the conviction(s). That way you can be a bit more prepared to talk and grow together.

I myself would ask and also explain that you care more of what he does today and in the future, not from what happened in the past. We can't change what has happened but we can influence our future.

Hopefully, he will respect your wish, even though he's said he wanted to tell in person, and as of man who is gaining integrity will give you a very brief explanation.

What does he have to loose..?? A good person who cares and actually is attempting to actively establish a close, personal connection..?? It could require swallowing some pride but the result could be beyond his wildest expectations. I applaud you for caring though and extending a hand to him.

SexyChef1 · #12 09-14-2007, 12:24 PM

Keep us posted Gurl