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Old 04-15-2012, 12:38 PM
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Default Very emotional today / Closed..veered off topic!

Im feeling so overwhelmed today. I really miss hearing from my son. I'm praying we'll get to visit soon. He is sentenced on Thursday. Then I'm pretty sure he'll be shipped out soon after. I just don't want to get out of bed today. But it's my granddaughter & daughter in laws birthday, so have a party in the afternoon. Last thing I want to do is be around others.
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I hope you made it to the party, sometimes even when you feel you can't drag yourself out of the house it can actually help change your mood. I know you're going through a very rough time right now with the sentencing coming up, I will be praying for you! (((HUGS)))
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it is so difficult to go on with the "normal" things of life when we are hurting so bad and missing our loved ones - but it does help when we get out of ourselves for a while - hope your celebrations went well and lifted your spirits - blessings
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I'm so sorry DeeDee, we all know how you feel....we've all been where you are...obligation celebrations....and pre-sentencing misery. Both in the same week is a tough one. I hope the party was better than you anticipated...sometimes they are!
For me, the pre-sentencing week was almost unbearable....hard to breathe, stay on my feet and focused....(ok, I didn't stay focused on one thing for more than a nano-second!) It was one of the toughest times I endured for sure ... and a relief once it was over...even when I had hoped for better.
Know that we are holding you in our prayers....for the BEST POSSIBLE outcome...and for a sense of peace and comfort.
We are always here....and I am always praying!
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We had a surprise visit from my grandbabies. Their mom brought them to town today. I ran out fora minute and when I pulled in the driveway my 5yr old granddaughter ran out and gave me the biggest hug & kiss. I fell apart, I was so happy to see them. We all went to the park for an hour, then on to the birthday party. It was really nice having ALL of my grandkids today at the party, but especially the 2 little ones. I feel closer to my son when they are here. I asked if I could get them next weekend and their mom said I should be able to. I'm hoping if my son is here in county he can get a visit and see them.
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Wow, I'm glad you got to see all the grandkids! What a blessing that was! I really hope y'all get that visit next weekend!
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Thank God You found the strength to GO!! It was in you after all DEE! Your a strong woman, glad you typed the fight within today about going, we each took a little off your shoulders, smart TOO!!
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The worse thing u can do is "NOT GO AND DO THINGS". Im glad you had a party to go to. Sitting around is not healthy, keeping busy will help you mentally and pysically. Time goes by faster when your busy.
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Yea, the sentencing and all the time after he left and as he was being moved and just him being gone, that was the hardest part. It got easier when we knew where he was going to be but it is 3 hours away. It's hard and the days are good and some days are bad. Hang in there since there is nothing we can do anyway.


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Im feeling so overwhelmed today. I really miss hearing from my son. I'm praying we'll get to visit soon. He is sentenced on Thursday. Then I'm pretty sure he'll be shipped out soon after. I just don't want to get out of bed today. But it's my granddaughter & daughter in laws birthday, so have a party in the afternoon. Last thing I want to do is be around others.
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Yes I think going to the party helped. I would have probably been in a nut ward by now if it wasn't for my kids & grandkids. I try to stay busy with them, but some days it just doesn't work. I'm so thankful I do have all my kids & grandkids. But even with all I do have, I still struggle with the loss of my twins. I think it helps to come here and write you all. At least you all know what this feels like. My family & friends are saying " you can do this", "just don't let it consume you", and on. I know they mean well but somedays it makes me so angry. It's really hard for me to actual talk about it here with anyone because I fall apart and then I can't talk anyway. I'm just counting on that passing. I know it's going to be a tough week. I feel bad that I can't be strong enough to sit in court on Thursday but I just can't do it.
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Glad to hear that you enjoyed spending time with your grandkids. I especially love being around my grandson because it makes me feel closer to my son in prison. They are so much alike. And - he always makes me laugh which is a good thing!!

Your not going to court on Thursday doesn't have anything to do with strength. As I see it, you are a strong woman. You are there for your son, the rest of your family, and you've become a member on this forum and reached out to strangers. That takes tons of strength and is not easy for many people in your situation. I am sure that your family will represent you well and that they will surround you with love and support when the day is over. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
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The day my son was sentenced and taken away I never went. My husband and his wife did. I just couldn't do it. I can relate to your post, back in January when he was sentenced, I had to be off work for two days I couldn't stop crying. I have cried until my eyes were swollen shut. I understand and I wish it made it better but you will go through it and be ok. There maybe some sad sad times but you will make it. You basically have no choice really. At least that's how I look at it. Thanks for your comments.
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I'm taking that day of work. I know it will be a hard day on us all. I was hoping to get a visit. I was told he probably won't be here on regular visit day.
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I'm a mess. I literally can't stop shaking. My mind Is just running wild. I could really use some prayers.
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Dearest gentle Lord,
Please wrap your arms around this woman. Send your angels to comfort and protect her. May their wings enfold her and shield her from all negative thoughts. Breathe a sweet soft breath of peace over her and still her mind.

Please Lord, remind her that you are in control and that you can make things work together for the good of her son. Whisper into the ears of those in charge of this decision and speak of mercy and leniency for her son.

Thank you, Father, we know you hear our prayers and can and will send comfort. Amen
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Sending prayers and hugs and good thoughts your way. Stay strong.
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Strength, peace and serenity for you and your family in this time of need!! Hold onto something you treasure, it might help to have a physical object with you. No matter your worry it is going to go the way it is going with or without the worry. Thoughts, prayers your way!!!
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What beautiful words from Jancy. Please know that we are thinking about you and keeping you and your son in our thoughts and prayers.
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My heart and prayers go out for you.
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You are most definately in my prayers....as is your son.
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Praying for you deedee, and know that we will be with you id spirit. Breathe deep while youn are in there-we were advised to do that and it helped a lot.
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I haven't been on much lately . . .I hope everything went okay today. The sentencing is so hard . . .it makes it more real. final. It is so hard . . .and then the waiting to see where he is moved to . .you are in my prayers.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you DeeDee. I still think back to my son's day in court. I don't think any of us knew for sure what the judge had sentenced him to. It took a minute for it to sink in. It was a moment of despair, but the Lord gives us strength to get through times such as that. Try to keep trusting God and know that He loves you and your son more than we can begin to fathom. I will be praying throughout the day.
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The family is at court right now. It was suppose to be 9:30, but now it's 11:00. I'm so emotionally & physically I'll, I can't even function.
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