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Old 08-01-2017, 01:32 PM
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Why not? Seems you have put a lot of thought and consideration into this matter..True, there will be MANY obstacles and challenges to overcome, and very unique challenges at that, but many joys and blessings too...if it's meant to be, it'll be...
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I would say go for it if you are prepared. Unfortunately, I am in a state where conjugals and family visits dont occur. There is no chance in hell I would be able to procreate with my love. I wish I could because I would. We are fighting for his freedom now
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Having a child is not about the parents, itís about the child. Perhaps explaining what the upsides are for the child about having a parent in prison with a life sentence might help those of us who donít understand why you would willingly or perhaps willfully would be more accurate, do this.

Iíve raised three with their father out here and am so grateful for the stability he provided to them. While I love my lifer and we have talked many times wistfully about what it would have been like to have had a child together, I know that the reality of that would have been fraught with difficulty.

It is hard enough to raise children in a loving two parent home adding the harshness of prison and the negative impact it has on families just seems to me to be unfair to an innocent.
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Originally Posted by Sean'sGirl82 View Post
There are women who decide that they want to have a baby and are single and successful and go to the sperm bank. The situation is not ideal but it works for that woman. Everyone has a different set up. Families don't all look the same. Single parents adopt, gay couples adopt the list goes on. Some women have babies by men in the military and the fathers are gone most of the time. My first husband is a loser and pays child support but never comes around to see his child. Do you know who my Children absolutely love and adore and talk to on a regular basis? My new Husband and not the bio father of my children but they look at him like he is and he feels the same about them. They talk to him on the phone daily and are excited to go see him and play games together. He isn't doing life but I could see this working out for us long term if that was what the situation was. Some kids lose their parents in different ways at least if you have a baby by your husband doing life he can still be in that child's life just not 24/7 like you would want of course. That is just my two cents.
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