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Old 07-08-2016, 10:35 PM
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My guy in Cali n im in colorado. Finally visited after 2 yrs of letters And phone calls. The visit validated my love for him. Im considering moving out there. My family thinks im nuts but It feels right.
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Old 07-10-2016, 06:00 PM
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he's in a different state and its proving to be quite the challenge. so many road blocks popping up out of nowhere.
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Old 07-10-2016, 06:26 PM
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What kind of roadblocks if you dont mind me asking. For us we have had some but always take it as gods plan. That it wasnt the right time. Im really confussed right now visit only made me want him more felt like we had a lifetime together. I love it becasuse he moves slowly due to past hurt but I appriciate that respect. I just feel alone becuz ppl judge n dont understand. I hope thingd get better for you all. What state? How did u meet?
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Old 07-25-2016, 02:47 AM
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almost 3000 miles between us hes on the east coast I am on the west coast
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Old 07-28-2016, 02:58 PM
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My baby is in NJ and I am in California Haven't seen him in 13yrs. If will be something when he comes home, he's looking better then ever the most handsome, wonderful, sweet and loving guy I know... Miss you Shadow <3
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Old 07-28-2016, 03:17 PM
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Did you meet him well he was in prison? Or where you together before he went in? Never thought I could luv someone like my Rabbit. Im so excited to be his wife. Ge is an amazing man.
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No I met him before he went in.. We were together then he got locked up... We always been real with each other.. I've wrote him two letters since last week and nothing.. Just that morning he sent me an email said he was going to yard he would call me after... Never heard from him again... This is not normal behavior be any means... That's why I'm super worried.
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Old 07-29-2016, 01:28 AM
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No I met him before he went in.. We were together then he got locked up... We always been real with each other.. I've wrote him two letters since last week and nothing.. Just that morning he sent me an email said he was going to yard he would call me after... Never heard from him again... This is not normal behavior be any means... That's why I'm super worried.
It normally takes four days for the mail to travel from Cali to Fairton. Sometimes it may take five days but I have found that is on rare occasions. This is based on a very similar distance to you I am in Northern Cali and he is in Fairton. The mailroom at Fairton has been really good at processing the mail and getting stuff to the inmates the day they get it but they only work Mon-Fri. They clear out the outgoing box once a day and if the letter gets put in after the pick up it does not go out till the next day. They only pick up the mail from the outgoing box Mon-Fri also. Letters normally take about 2 weeks to go full circle from the day you put it in the mail for it to travel to him get processed, him to receive it, write back, have it be processed again, and travel to you. The two week time frame is also based on the scenario that there are envelops, stamps, and writing materials available to send out; if not that can add more time for a response because he would have to wait for comissary to purchase the materials needed to write you back. If that is the case it can add a few more days to the wait. I hope this information helps you a bit with the average timeframe a snail mail letter takes so you are not worrying yourself sick about why he has not wrote back yet.
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I guess I'm one of the lucky ones. My man is in NJ while I'm in PA. Its a 3.5 hour drive but I do it at least once a month
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My husband is incarcerated in Arizona and I am in Virginia. I went and saw him last week, thats when we were married inside his facility. He is set to be released 11/25/2018, when I will pick him up and bring him home. The hardest part is waiting, but daily phone calls and letters help and we have the next visit to look forward to.
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I'm in Ca and my guy is incarcerated in NY..
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My hubby is in PA and I drive 3 hrs to visit him.
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I'm in southeast Wisconsin, he's in southwest Illinois. It was a 6 hour, 358 mile drive to see him last weekend. But sooooooooooooooo worth it. Will be planning another visit next month. I had to borrow a vehicle to get down there and next time will have to rent a car, so I'll need to save a little before I can make it down again.
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Mine is in Minnesota, and I'm in Illinois. It's only a 10-hour ride. However, he's in MN, and there's so much snow, so I can only visit during the warmer months. But I was there in July, and I plan on visiting again in either September or October. Then after that, I won't be able to visit again until it gets warm, unless I fly and rent a car. We'll see
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Old 09-14-2016, 04:23 PM
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Im in ohio he in arkansas. I wna see him soo bad and got denied visit Im pissed.
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Old 10-03-2016, 06:27 PM
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I am in Washington state, this summer I took a road trip and was going to see him but when I got almost there he was transferred and was sitting in Oklahoma and because we are not married yet I was not able to see him I am saving up to make the trip again but he has to stop moving around we think his next stop will be his last stop until he gets out.
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He's in CA and I'm in IN
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Old 10-07-2016, 01:33 AM
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I live in Michigan and my mans locked up in a fed prison in Pa. I really want to go see him but I cant afford to make the trip. Hopefully I can make it to see him soon, because I miss him so much!!!!
Hey i live in michigan as well and my man is sci Fayette pa. I drive there once every month. Where is your man exactly
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Old 10-10-2016, 08:22 PM
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My man is in south Dakota and i am in Indiana I haven't seen him since may and its been hard. Harder to cause I'm pregnant he calls and we write though.
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My LO and I used to live together in Virginia before his incarceration. Afterwards I moved to North Carolina to be closer to my family. It's really not too bad of a distance; but I would still have to make extensive preparations every time I go up to visit him.
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Old 10-17-2016, 05:03 PM
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My guy in Cali n im in colorado. Finally visited after 2 yrs of letters And phone calls. The visit validated my love for him. Im considering moving out there. My family thinks im nuts but It feels right.
I'm opposite. I'm in Cali and he's in Colorado. I'm considering moving there.

I've only been able to visit him once, but I get to see him again on December 9-10.
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I live in Illinois and he is incarcerated in Georgia. I just went and visited him the first time last weekend and I didn't want to leave. Their visits are just Saturdays and Sundays. I am moving there this summer but that seems so far away. He was my best friend for years and we only realized our feelings at the beginning of the year. We are going to get married when he gets out. Still it is hard being so far away.
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Old 10-21-2016, 07:02 PM
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Yes. He is in California and I am in Maryland. It is very costly for me to go there, $2000. So when I have gone, I always made sure I went when there was a Federal Holiday. That way I got to visit him 4 days instead of 3.
Where is he at in cali?
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Hi. Mine is in Illinois and I'm in California. Went out first visit on October 8. It was bittersweet. We only got 4 hours to visit. I was so happy to see him and hated leaving him. Going back back in a few weeks before it get too cold. Lol. I love him and he's worth it to me.
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hello ladies I havent been on prison talk that long, my oldest son dad was sent to prison a few months ago, I dnt know when is a good time to start taking him and suggestions?...I work for an airline company so fyling to him in nevada is no problem...and i also wanted to let you ladies know if you need any i mean any kind of help with transportation getting to see one of your love ones let me know...I also have a transportation company that help families get to there love ones that are long distance/ out of state ...I really dnt know how to deal with him being out of our son life, my son is going to be 12 this month...what do I do or think?
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