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Old 03-12-2011, 02:53 PM
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Question Is your man incarcerated in another state than the one you live in?

I was just wondering how this might effect how often you visit, and when you do if it's harder to say goodbye at the end of the visit.

I'm flying to Michigan for my first visit to see my man next Friday. I'll see him Friday (fresh off the plane...just couldn't wait) and Saturday, but due to some drama in his family I might not get to see him again during my vacation like he and I hoped. I know I'll cry when I leave that day because I'm not sure if I'll get to come back later during the week and who knows when I'll be able to come back to Michigan next.

Background to our story: I grew up in Michigan, so I still have friends there, he's there (I met him when I was 14), and his family is there (I'm close with his mom and his sister). My point is that I'm not just going to Michigan to see him, but he was my motivation behind the trip. Where I will be staying for a majority of the trip is 3 hours away from where he is. I just found out his sister was denied visitation, but his mom was approved and I have a feeling she is going to use not having a car as an excuse. Also, no one has gone to see him since he left county jail more than a year ago. He wants me to visit him again before I leave, but by that time I will have already gone above and beyond to see him in the first place. I was really depending on his mom and sister to be my way.
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My guy was in CA and I am in NY. For the three years he was in I only got to fly out there once to see him. It was a great weekend we visited both days. He never had any other visitors cause his mom was not able to make the drive cause she was sick and then passed away and no one would take his kids to see him (they probably would not of been able to be approved anyway) I wanted to go out more but he did not want me to spend that kind of money for just a couple of days. He told me to save my vacation time and money so I can be there longer when I flew out there to pick him up. Yes saying good bye was hard but I knew we had our letters and calls and that made it a little easier.
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Yes. He is in California and I am in Maryland. It is very costly for me to go there, $2000. So when I have gone, I always made sure I went when there was a Federal Holiday. That way I got to visit him 4 days instead of 3.
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My man is in N.C. and I am in Ohio so no visits for us cos I can't afford it.And altho I am planning a move to N.C. at the end of the year when he gets out,he said I still won't be able to visit as he got mixed up in some gang activity when he first went in 7 years ago.I was shocked when he told me that and disappointed because I wanted to visit him before he got out.But it's not gonna happen.Letters (daily) and calls will have to do.
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Yes. He is in California and I am in Maryland. It is very costly for me to go there, $2000. So when I have gone, I always made sure I went when there was a Federal Holiday. That way I got to visit him 4 days instead of 3.
We need to switch lol I'm in Cali and he's in PA but he's from Maryland ;0)
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yes he is in another state and it sucks!

he is in michigan and im in new york where he is from as well.
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Yes. He is in California and I am in Maryland. It is very costly for me to go there, $2000. So when I have gone, I always made sure I went when there was a Federal Holiday. That way I got to visit him 4 days instead of 3.

What prison is he in? Mine is in Vacaville Ca. It surely does cost alot to make the trips.
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Hi, im in texas and my dude he's in Maryland. Im trying to find a closer airport other than Baltimore. i will be seeing him in April. Would u happen to know any other airports that are closer to Cumberland, MD?



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Hi, im in texas and my dude he's in Maryland. Im trying to find a closer airport other than Baltimore. i will be seeing him in April. Would u happen to know any other airports that are closer to Cumberland, MD?
Baltimore is the closest airport.
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Yes. He is in California and I am in Maryland. It is very costly for me to go there, $2000. So when I have gone, I always made sure I went when there was a Federal Holiday. That way I got to visit him 4 days instead of 3.
Where is he at in cali?
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Baby is in South Dakota and I'm in Chicago. As soon as he gets sentenced and transferred, I'll be making that 10 hour drive to see him... I CANNOT wait!!
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Baby is in South Dakota and I'm in Chicago. As soon as he gets sentenced and transferred, I'll be making that 10 hour drive to see him... I CANNOT wait!!
I'm in Schaumburg.
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Baby is in South Dakota and I'm in Chicago. As soon as he gets sentenced and transferred, I'll be making that 10 hour drive to see him... I CANNOT wait!!
I live in Minooka, about an hour from the city. Have you guys looked into having his sentence transferred to Illinois? I wonder how likely that is....
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Well I am in a different country, in Europe, and he is in Illinois. So that our visits are not so often. I am going to see him soon, will be the 2nd time, my last visit was a year ago. So, once a year and if we are lucky twice, will be the most we can visit. Good thing is we get extended visits, so 4 hours a day times 4 for each of the 2 months, that's not all that bad then :-)
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Well I am in a different country, in Europe, and he is in Illinois. So that our visits are not so often. I am going to see him soon, will be the 2nd time, my last visit was a year ago. So, once a year and if we are lucky twice, will be the most we can visit. Good thing is we get extended visits, so 4 hours a day times 4 for each of the 2 months, that's not all that bad then :-)
I admire your dedication! Cross-world trip is a totally different obstacle! I applaud you for that. He's lucky to have you.

I think when people have to travel from long distances it really further reiterates the fact that you really love them...not only does traveling cost money, but it takes one special person to make us go through those hurdles for them!
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Well I am in a different country, in Europe, and he is in Illinois. So that our visits are not so often. I am going to see him soon, will be the 2nd time, my last visit was a year ago. So, once a year and if we are lucky twice, will be the most we can visit. Good thing is we get extended visits, so 4 hours a day times 4 for each of the 2 months, that's not all that bad then :-)
Hello I'm Valérie and I'm from France, my boyfriend is in NY I went to visit him for the first time 3 weeks ago and I miss him so much that I'm making plans to go back to NY in may . Can you tell me the way to have extra time for the visits because I will just stay a week and I 'd love to spend more time with him.
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Well I am in a different country, in Europe, and he is in Illinois. So that our visits are not so often. I am going to see him soon, will be the 2nd time, my last visit was a year ago. So, once a year and if we are lucky twice, will be the most we can visit. Good thing is we get extended visits, so 4 hours a day times 4 for each of the 2 months, that's not all that bad then :-)
Where are you located? I am in Norway. My man is in oregon
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We're both in cali, thank god.! So far i only see him once a month, but july 1st im moving to the same city. So visits every weekend! <3
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My hubby is in VA, and I am in TN. Right now he is in a regional jail, if and when he gets transfered I hope its close by not some of the 6 hour away ones.
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My hubby is in VA, and I am in TN. Right now he is in a regional jail, if and when he gets transfered I hope its close by not some of the 6 hour away ones.
I know how it my man in NC and I am in VA.
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My hubby is in VA, and I am in TN. Right now he is in a regional jail, if and when he gets transfered I hope its close by not some of the 6 hour away ones.
I am in the same situation as you only my bf is in a WV regional jail and I'm in TN as well. He's eligible for parole in May but I'm not sure he'll be able to transfer states or not...idk what to do...
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My baby is in Texas and I am in Ontario, Canada. I haven't been able to visit him yet. Texas is 2,000 miles from me and about $1000 flight. We don't get phone calls anymore so we have to rely on the mail. I do know this though, no distance, no matter how great will come between my husband and I because in the end we love each other and nothing else matters.
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My baby is in Texas and I am in Ontario, Canada. I haven't been able to visit him yet. Texas is 2,000 miles from me and about $1000 flight. We don't get phone calls anymore so we have to rely on the mail. I do know this though, no distance, no matter how great will come between my husband and I because in the end we love each other and nothing else matters.
My husband is in Texas and I am in Wisconsin I understand... I'm in the same boat. I lived in Texas my whole life and just moved here last year. I am going to visit in June!! Texas only gives you 4 hours for 2 days and then if your there longer you just get regular visit for remainder of the trip. In 2 years I'm moving back so he can parole to our home! What prison is your man in?
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My husband is in Texas and I am in Wisconsin I understand... I'm in the same boat. I lived in Texas my whole life and just moved here last year. I am going to visit in June!! Texas only gives you 4 hours for 2 days and then if your there longer you just get regular visit for remainder of the trip. In 2 years I'm moving back so he can parole to our home! What prison is your man in?
Right now he is in Gurney transfer unit at TDC. I will be moving to Texas as well hopefully in time for him to get out on parole.
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drive to Detroit park your car at the airport, get an airline ticket thru spirit airline , go see your love one.rental car $24.oo a day a cheap hotel you will be okay.
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