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Old 03-18-2017, 08:57 PM
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The MA SJC's self-imposed deadline for deciding my husbands case is Monday. We have yet to hear from them regarding a decision, or an order for more time. Im a mess, hes "doing ok" or so he tells me. We are pretty open with one another, but when Im having a hard time he goes into protective mode and so wont share his negative feelings with me. His case is weird. We were told by a very good appeals lawyer that he had a 50/50 chance at winning his appeal... the law is on his side, but "he" (my husband, his appearance, the crime etc), was not. IE: it will come down to politics. Thankfully, while we hope for the best, his usually very expensive lawyer has offered to take this case further if need be (though he knows we cant pay him). But still, oofff. I married him "knowing" certain things. IE: no kids for me, no sex for me, no making breakfast in morning with my husband. But then to have the possibility of the things one has chosen to sacrifice resurface... its both wonderful and so very stressful. Yourself responded to my post when we were first filing our appeals. Their post I still think about and appreciate. But f****k. Im a freakin mess. That is all.
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Old 03-25-2017, 07:28 PM
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Thank you. We received an order voiding their 130 day deadline on Monday. This is not bad (except for the stress, heh!). It at the very least means we gave the judges something to think about.
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So, there is now no deadline for a decision? Or did the court provide a timeline? I know this has to be stressful for both of you Keep us posted!
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So, there is now no deadline for a decision? Or did the court provide a timeline? I know this has to be stressful for both of you Keep us posted!
Correct. No new deadline for a decision. I have looked up a few other cases in which they voided the 130 day deadline and they do not seem to abuse it. Case decisions in those instances seem to come in within 1-4 months of the original "deadline."

And thank you! I will definitely keep you all posted!
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Update: still a freakin wreck.

Still waiting. Outwardly I still have my shit together, but Im having a hard time remembering to eat, focusing on work etc... It sucks. Spring has sprung but Im not feeling it. Im also going through the emotions I went through waiting for the jury's decision all over again. That was the worst time in my life, except of course, the months following his conviction. I thought I was done with that crap. You know, been there, done that. Reconciled with it, ok now. But Im living it all over again, as is he. GRANTED. I do not "poo-poo" this "second chance" per-say. It is a gift, but its freaking emotionally draining in a way I wasnt expecting or prepared for. WE JUST NEED TO KNOW so we can move on to the next phase of our lives, whatever that might be. So both of us can actually LIVE again, not just sit here waiting. UHHG.
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Fingers crossed and prayers for y'all!

I hope you hear something soon. I can only imagine what a mess!
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