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Old 12-25-2010, 06:17 PM
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Default Advice Please/Should I give my son another chance?

My son has been out on high bail awaiting trial. I had him court committed to a 30 day treatment program. I realize this does not guarantee that he will stay clean. Do I give him another chance to live with us or insist that he go to a halfway house? We have been through so much with him but I keep remembering the real son not the active addict. Or do I revoke the bail as I was planning to do before the rehab? Is giving him another chance just further enabling him? Any input would be appreciated.
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Old 12-25-2010, 06:50 PM
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I would suggest talking to the treatment center about your feelings and his progress...they should be able to help you and him establish a "plan" and possible consequences should he not follow the "plan"...

I am an alcoholic and I am on my 4th DUI...my parents have seen me repeatively build my life then loose it all once I get my DUI..then restart from having to locate a job to get my license to get an apartment etc...and repeat loose it all...my parents allow me back always...my parents would never turn their back on me...HOWEVER...i am different then most addicts...I am functional...I will work 2 jobs if I have too...I am not lazy and I do not place blame on others...HOWEVER, this time I am going to rehab for the very first time and with my age, I truly know that I won't be repeating this cycle again...
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Old 12-25-2010, 07:42 PM
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Trinia - the odds of him staying sober in any given time period are about 10%. that's whether it's AA or any of the 'private' rehabs. So your odds are 1 in 10 that you will have a sober son in your house until trial.

The other thought you might have to deal with is that he might pick up another charge if someone isn't 'in charge' of him until the trial.
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Trinia21, I believe your answer is in your question.
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