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Old 08-12-2019, 11:29 AM
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I met my fiance through Corrlinks 9 months ago. He's doing 25 yrs at Coleman for pimping and sex trafficking. About a month after getting to know each other he asked me to get a text service he can use to text and also reduces the cost of calls. I did that for him. Then about another month he asked me to make several profiles for him on dating websites and for me to monitor them and respond to messages as him. He told me he's just using them for money so I no longer have to send text n call money. He said these females mean nothing too him, I am his wife, he loves me n only me. But he also told me to ask them if they will write to him and send him pics. He's also put me in contact with his mom who I'm in touch with weekly and his children. When I bring up these other females, he beats it in my head that they mean nothing, I'm all he wants, he tells me I'm part of his family because his mom loves me and his kids do too and that I am his wife and I need to put my insecurities away. So in a sense, he's doing what he did out here, using females for money n telling them what they want to hear. Should I run? Does he love me? Is there another "me" above me and I'm just one of his many crew? I do love him, I'm just very skeptical but I want to believe him.
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Old 08-12-2019, 11:39 AM
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Oh, wow. If I were in your shoes I would use them to run away. There are red flags all over the place here.

Not to mention that I find the fact that he is using other women just for money reprehensible.

Sorry, dear, just my personal opinion.
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I would just leave.... I would not put up with his nonsense.. you already have doubts about where you stand. You shouldn't have doubts with your man.. I'd be a fool to stick around if my husband told me he wanted to write to other girls and to make him a profile for other girls to reach him.
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I agree, what would you feel if you were (are?) one of his "other women"?
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I met my fiance through Corrlinks 9 months ago. He's doing 25 yrs at Coleman for pimping and sex trafficking. About a month after getting to know each other he asked me to get a text service he can use to text and also reduces the cost of calls. I did that for him. Then about another month he asked me to make several profiles for him on dating websites and for me to monitor them and respond to messages as him. He told me he's just using them for money so I no longer have to send text n call money. He said these females mean nothing too him, I am his wife, he loves me n only me. But he also told me to ask them if they will write to him and send him pics. He's also put me in contact with his mom who I'm in touch with weekly and his children. When I bring up these other females, he beats it in my head that they mean nothing, I'm all he wants, he tells me I'm part of his family because his mom loves me and his kids do too and that I am his wife and I need to put my insecurities away. So in a sense, he's doing what he did out here, using females for money n telling them what they want to hear. Should I run? Does he love me? Is there another "me" above me and I'm just one of his many crew? I do love him, I'm just very skeptical but I want to believe him.
He's using you too. Because you are in contact with his family is besides the point. 9 months knowing someone isn't very long. He's showing you his true character, hope you listen and run (not walk) away.
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He's doing 25 yrs at Coleman for pimping and sex trafficking.
He's literally doing the only thing he knows how to do. He used other people to make his money and got caught and still isn't stopping. Regardless of his feelings for you (ahem), this is not a sign of a stable man able to commit to a healthy relationship.
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Your gut is not lying to you. He is doing the same thing just through you. Get away before you get in trouble.
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His charges are pimping and sex trafficking! That's enough of red flags right there that should tell you to RUN!!! He doesn't love you if he's using his pimp techniques on other women. Any guy that can tell a woman that he's using other women. Should be avoided at all cost!! He's using these women and he's using you as well. You one of his many crew. If you this skeptical that's enough to tell you that you need to get yourself out of this situation quickly. Because you know this man using you and nothing he's doing adding up. Look how he's using you to do things for him. He still trying to pimp women behind bars. It's no way I would be dealing with a guy that's doing what he's doing to other women, and trying to brain wash me to do things for him. That should make you question the entire relationship and his true motives. On top of that he's your fiance after 9 months. I hope you know how a pimp work. He's putting you to work and who knows he could be doing the same to other women that's writing to him.
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He hasnt changed at all. He is using you to find women to for him to use. These are not the actions of a man who loves you or respects women. Your choice, but if I was you I would run and not look back.
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His charges are pimping and sex trafficking! That's enough of red flags right there that should tell you to RUN!!! He doesn't love you if he's using his pimp techniques on other women. Any guy that can tell a woman that he's using other women. Should be avoided at all cost!! He's using these women and he's using you as well. You one of his many crew. If you this skeptical that's enough to tell you that you need to get yourself out of this situation quickly. Because you know this man using you and nothing he's doing adding up. Look how he's using you to do things for him. He still trying to pimp women behind bars. It's no way I would be dealing with a guy that's doing what he's doing to other women, and trying to brain wash me to do things for him. That should make you question the entire relationship and his true motives. On top of that he's your fiance after 9 months. I hope you know how a pimp work. He's putting you to work and who knows he could be doing the same to other women that's writing to him.
You said it WAY better than I did. OP, honey, get out now.
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I can't even imagine adding to the anxiety of having a LO in jail and then add the secondary crap layer of having their time committed to other women. When would you ever find one shred of peace in this?
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RUNNNN!!!!!!! everything else everyone else said! Dont let him brainwash you to think he loves you, you can find better. He hasnt changed, hes just using you to do it, and will continue to do this outside when he gets out, only you will be okay with it by then so there will be no need to groom you
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When someone objectifies women that is all you will ever be. A sex symbol, a payment, a tissue that they throw away at their disposal when you do not obey what is asked. Here's the thing. If he asks for something say you can't do it. If you do not believe that you are just another object to him, see how he responds. That behavior and response will give you everything you need to know.

I understand that people can have change talk, and can show change, however he has not. He has told you openly that he continues to use women in the way that he did previously. You have no idea if he has the power to continue to make women to prostitute behind those walls. He's still getting money? This is terribly scary and like all other previous people said. RUN!
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And you are satisfied with being the Queen of his harem? I would think you are better than that and your self-worth will make you run for the hills... what an ass and I feel really bad for those suckers out there falling for his game. Please please please leave him.
He's showing you his true colors and I would personally be appalled and remove him from my life - permanently.

P.S. you met him 9 months ago and you are already engaged? I baffled...
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I apologise if this is harsh.....but, in all seriousness: they aren't called red flags for being pretty red roses. They are a sign of danger and you should be happy your gut is telling you to get out. Why be with someone who clearly has a bad character? Yes, I am willing to bet my lil white arse that you are just one of the many women he's fooling, telling the same story to.... and his mother is probably in the game as well. RUN.
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I apologise if this is harsh.....but, in all seriousness: they aren't called red flags for being pretty red roses. They are a sign of danger and you should be happy your gut is telling you to get out. Why be with someone who clearly has a bad character? Yes, I am willing to bet my lil white arse that you are just one of the many women he's fooling, telling the same story to.... and his mother is probably in the game as well. RUN.

Thank you for sharing that, it represents exactly what everyone is attempting to say. I am totally stealing and using this picture for work!
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I apologise if this is harsh....
I saw this the other day and have wanted to use it many times. I say that to let the OP know that we're basing our responses on (sometimes years of) experience and watching the patterns that emerge. We want you to know that we're not placing his faults at your feet, but we very much want to spare you the pain of having any part of a very, very old game.
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