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View Poll Results: Biggest obstacles your released sibling will face?
Employment 228 61.62%
Finding living accomodation 51 13.78%
Emotional- low self-worth, depression, dealing with crowds etc 114 30.81%
Reconnecting with family, friends 64 17.30%
Everyday routines-money management,making own decisions etc. 120 32.43%
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Old 06-16-2005, 08:27 AM
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Default Biggest obstacle your parent or sibling will face on release?

What do you think the hardest things your sibling will have to overcome/deal with once released? (You can vote for more than one.)

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Gosh I almost feel as I could vote on each one of those, I know my brother is going to have so many issues after being in for 21 years, I just hope me and my family can give him the support and love that he needs when he is released this year, it's exciting and also scary

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I had a hard time choosing "just one", too. But, since I had to choose just one, I selected: Everyday routines-money management,making own decisions etc. I hope that my little brother has learned that there are consequences for the decisions that you make, whether they are good or bad. I know that we all make mistakes but I hope that he's learned from his and will stay away from the negative people that used to be in his life.

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The biggest problem my brother will have when he get's home is staying away from drugs and his friends that do drugs.
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MZachow, I'm so happy for you and your family!

Along with all the little changes, my brother will have a hard time staying away from all the bad influences he had in his life. I don't care if our whole family has to relocate just to keep him from away, we'll do it. I know that no matter what, we are going to stick by him and help him the most we can. The day he comes home will be a very happy day indeed
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My brother's biggest obstacle will be, staying off drugs. Meth is his demon, and I hope that this time around things will be different. His mentality however has not changed. You know how guys say they are going to do things differently when they get out... well he doesnt even do that. He just says that he is who he is and thats that.

He gets released this month. For anyone who has or is living with a loved one on this drug, you know how difficult, dangerous, and stessfull it is.. Wish us well.
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aztkgirl- I do wish you and your brother well. Please keep us posted and let us know he is doing- positive thoughts and prayers to you both!
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METH should have been an option in this poll. Staying off of THE DEVIL'S DRUG and all that it gives/takes will be obstacle number one.
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My brother's biggest obstacle will be, staying off drugs. Meth is his demon, and I hope that this time around things will be different. His mentality however has not changed. You know how guys say they are going to do things differently when they get out... well he doesnt even do that. He just says that he is who he is and thats that.

He gets released this month. For anyone who has or is living with a loved one on this drug, you know how difficult, dangerous, and stessfull it is.. Wish us well.
Aztkgirl I wish your brother and your family well, just love him and do your best to be there for him. My brother was released after 21 years this past week to a halfway house until Dec. 21st. I'm sure the obstacles he will face for everyday life is going to be difficult but we are hoping with our love an support and this program he will adjust back into society. All I know is all these years I've not been able to have my big brother in my life and I don't plan on missing a minute of it now I sleep so much better now knowing when I lay down at night that no one is being mean to my brother anymore!

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Michelle- I am so happy to hear about your brother being released to a halfway house. And yes I can imagine that you will be able to relax a little now knowing that he is in a safer situation.Please let us know how he is getting on and he is readjusting to life outside after 21 years
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It's so hard to just chose 1. We have set up a bank account in his name so that when he gets out he will have money for an apt and a car. So it won't be money. I think if I had to chose between drugs (meth) or realizing all he's missed out on I would chose all he's missed out on. Seeing his 2 year old daughter is now grown into a beautiful 12 year old. I think thats going to hit him real real hard.
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My brother's biggest issue is staying out of trouble. He will do good for a while, then relink up with old friends, and get back into the same old habits again. My brother is 41 and has been in and out of jail since 24..has done about 12 years in and out of prison.
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I think that my brother's most difficult thing, at this juncture, is actually finding a place to live. He is a sex offender (2 counts posession of child porn), and in order to be released, he needs to have an address to go to - lost of rules and regs to follow, you know. Not an easy mountain to traverse when you are the one trying to find housing!
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Hi Y'all...
I think the biggest problem/obstacle my brother will encounter is staying away from the negative things that landed him in jail, mainly alcohol and his drinking buddies. My brother has an alcohol problem and until he realizes that for himself and decides to make some major changes...then I am afraid he will repeatedly be in and out of the system as he has been for the past 10 years. he doesnt seem to think he has a drinking problem...just a *driving problem* HA!
I pray that he will decide he needs and wants help and doesnt touch alcohol again. Only HE can make those life choices though....also praying that the Lord will give him the strength to fight his demons...and pursue a clean healthy lifestyle.
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I think all of the above. Unfortunately alcohol has been an issue since he was 16 and he is now 32. With this being his very first prison sentence I pray that he values his freedom and doesn't desire to go back.
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I vote for giving them a lot of support, love and strength. Continue to assure them that everything will work out. Being free is a lot easier then being locked up!!
I am not at that point quite yet but I sure do look forward to the moment!
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my brother will never walk free again but if he was too employment would be the main problem for him......a place to stay no worries sissy is here lol ......on that note i would love to have him home with me but its not that easy.....

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I think employment, because once they have been in even if they are lucky to get a job, anything happens and they are the first ones the law comes after. When my brother was out the last time he had a good job, and the place got robbed, one of the employees disappeared but they still hassled my brother who did not disappear. Unfortunately the one who disappeared was also an ex-con. They finally left my brother alone.
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I Know My Sisters' Biggest Problem Will Be Finding A Place To Live.at One Time Or Another She Has Lived W/ All Family Members And Ended Up Stealing From Them And Physically Abusing Them(myself Included)this Is Also Why She Is Incarcerated-she Went After Her Best Friend -Roomate W/ A Knife Cuz He Wouldn't Lend Her Money To Get Drugs And Or Alchohol.even Though We Are Sure No Drugs/Alchohol Will Be Part Of Parole-how Are We To Trust Her-BIGSIS57

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I have to say the alcohol and drugs, this is his 3rd felony and they have all been do to alcohol and drugs and of course the old mental illness issue. But then he doesn't feel he has any problems. And to a certain extend he has to love the structure !!!! Who truly knows, I am just scared and ranting here. Sorry
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I do understand and believe the getting job will be something he will stuggle with...but I'm more concerned with how he will react with the family... everybody has changed- I have a big family and not everyone has been there for him- hes been in there for 5 years and they cant even put in a visiting form....in fact my aunt even said that she would feel strange.....STRANGE..for her ..omg how about for him?...I wonder how I would feel comeing home after 39 years and see these strangers...these people that seemed to forget about me...that stopped writng after 2 years, some even sooner.....these people that call themselves my family ...I would wonder could I trust them??...it brakes my heart to think of these thing but...when I think of him coming home I dont want to tink of these things...instead I think of seeing his smile everyday...hearing him speak of religion ..history...as he does on our visites I pray God give him this peace of mind also to not think of the bad but only the good
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Bookieworm, I know what you mean about the drugs and alcohol. My brother drank right away when he was released last time and eventually went back to drugs. he was only out 6 months and 3 months of that was on the run from the law. I am not sure he wouldn't do the same thing if he was released today. Unfortunately he has 35 years to go.
Cali, I guess it is strange for anyone coming home after that many years. I think the biggest thing will be seeing how all those people have aged, he will probably feel he does not know them. But if he is a religious man I am sure he will hold no grudges.
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my brotherz biggest obstacle will most def be goin frum a lil ass cell 2 actually being able 2 breath n b able 2 walk down tha street 4 da hell of it...im jus worried cuhz hez alwayz on locc down n wen he getz out he gon b all fuccd up man im jus worried.....
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I feel the biggest obstacle my brother will face will be staying away from drugs and alcohol. I can only hope that he will surround himself with positive people and realize that drugs and the choices he made put him in prison.
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