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Old 09-25-2019, 06:23 PM
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rough, I spiraled into such a dark place of hopelessness


All the letters, photos, everything are now in a dump somewhere.


I'm surprised, but very relieved, that I feel zero desire to contact him

and I'm just ready to heal and move on
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aye mio dios(my god!) i did not know, til' i was reading newer post,
and i am so sorry, for you chica, pero(but) it is NOT your loss...
It is his loss, chica, not yours... Never let a man take you, into such a dark negative, where you're not able to crawl out, stand tall and be strong again, because NO MAN deserve to have so much power like that, over a woman despite the way he has made you feel. I know how you're feeling, and i know you're going to awaken 1 mornin' realizin' that you're worth more than how he has made you feel and you're going to be ok...(Give it time) and you will be alright.

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I posted a nice post prior, without reading newer updates, and i am happy you threw out most or all cartas(letters) as i know a few who kept all and did it when they were "clearly-thinking and ready."I say, do it asap. or keep 1 or 2 if you're wanting to, or just "smile @ the happier times, on phone, in person etc.al., letters."
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But, i am glad you're sounding'as if you're already moving on, and for that, i commend you..." PM me anytime.

Hang in there."This too, shall pass, chica. Onto greener pastures,
once you're fully cleansing your self, and thoughts of what is bad for you,and clearly not right,
to see the future days, and nights with you.
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Since that little hiccup where I texted him, I've been feeling a little better each day. I'm smiling and laughing again, I am focused on my recovery and making new goals. If anything, contacting him that last time really put the final nail in the coffin that we are done and I can move forward with my life. I've cried my tears. my pity party is over, I see where I made mistakes. When I posted all those sweet things about him, it was all true, but I was lying to myself by omission when I left out all the bad. I did love him, I wanted so badly for it to work, but ignoring the bad doesn't make it go away. I will never again allow someone to make me feel like I'm not good enough. I will not be fooled by charm that covers up narcissism, life is too short to waste any more of my time. I have amazing family and friends who are far more deserving of what I have to offer, and one day I hope to find love again, for now I'm kinda starting from scratch as I really had planned my life around my ex. but I guess a fresh start is exciting
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Good for you to recognize it for what it was, and having the strength to carry yourself forward. Often folks settle for less than what they deserve, to escape being lonely, only to find loneliness and abuse that they never deserved.
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lolo, Im sorry you had that little hiccup. Wish i'd seen this part earlier. My bad.
Im glad you are feeling a bit better a few days post *contacting him*
Lose his number. YOU KNOW he's not worth the heartache he causes you.


Note to others who have had issues with what has been said here (in the when the relationship is over forum) First of all you're not going to find many posts here that are all that positive when someone breaks up with someone else.
Second of all......IGNORE posts that upset you or the poster does. Report those you feel are bashing someone. Report it. Let the moderators take a look. Dont respond to it.


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Note to others who have had issues with what has been said here (in the when the relationship is over forum) First of all you're not going to find many posts here that are all that positive when someone breaks up with someone else.
Second of all......IGNORE posts that upset you or the poster does. Report those you feel are bashing someone. Report it. Let the moderators take a look. Dont respond to it.
Theres a reason this section is one of the biggest. Why is that? You can scan hundreds of examples of where one user says "he's the love of my life and I'd do anything for him" but then goes crazy over the smallest hiccup because he did something small. There's an unreasonable expectation that prisoners are magically going to have life figured out, and then anger and frustration comes when they don't. How are people not surprised that they haul ass and leave? Yes, there's just a number of guys/gals that are broken, but there's always signs of this. Ignoring or turning a blind eye, isn't an excuse. The whole point, is not to get in your own head and screw up your own relationship because you're expecting to be perfect. They aren't. Its why they are in prison.
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Honestly I think this section is as big as it is because people tend to have a lot to say when things don't work, and conversely, little to say when they do. This isn't because people are by nature perverse and negative, but because they want to work things out in their head when their lives fall apart. In other words, there's a great deal of processing that needs to happen when things go bad. The internet is filled with websites dedicated to a problem issue, with endless testimonies from people who underwent privations due to those issues. You're not going to find an equivalent gold mine of websites dedicated to why / how marriages, let's say, succeed. Those who are happily married simply don't tend to get online and write about it. They're living it.

I do agree that there's an unfair and unjustified blaming of the failures of a relationship on the fact that the betrayer is a current or former prisoner. The dynamics I see described are simply of bad people -- who happened to land behind bars. The incarceration is not the culprit -- it's the bad character of the person that is. They just happened to get caught.
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I do agree that there's an unfair and unjustified blaming of the failures of a relationship on the fact that the betrayer is a current or former prisoner. The dynamics I see described are simply of bad people -- who happened to land behind bars. The incarceration is not the culprit -- it's the bad character of the person that is. They just happened to get caught.
That was more or less my point. People change, they do better, fix themselves, etc. There's a lot of MWI. By no means am I criticizing those that follow this path. There was one story I read where a woman said she was done with her man because he tried to reuse a stamp in a letter. Then a bunch of dog piling on about it in support. Its frustrating to see people abandon their "love of their life" because of some minor screwup or because he/she didn't know what to say, or because it sounded weird. No one wants a warden when they come home, so they go back to how they were to survive before. There's going to more users in a prison then outside regardless. The lack of patience or empathy just surprises me. People wait for YEARS, only to just toss it all away because he or she isn't normal and don't like being told what to do. You ride in the car with them, not drive it, and that's a lot of the stories I read. He's gotta do this, he's gotta do that, or I'm done. Really? They got out of prison, why are expectations to have everything figured out so quickly so high. Its not just the inmates in why these don't work.
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That was more or less my point. People change, they do better, fix themselves, etc. There's a lot of MWI. By no means am I criticizing those that follow this path. There was one story I read where a woman said she was done with her man because he tried to reuse a stamp in a letter. Then a bunch of dog piling on about it in support. Its frustrating to see people abandon their "love of their life" because of some minor screwup or because he/she didn't know what to say, or because it sounded weird. No one wants a warden when they come home, so they go back to how they were to survive before. There's going to more users in a prison then outside regardless. The lack of patience or empathy just surprises me. People wait for YEARS, only to just toss it all away because he or she isn't normal and don't like being told what to do. You ride in the car with them, not drive it, and that's a lot of the stories I read. He's gotta do this, he's gotta do that, or I'm done. Really? They got out of prison, why are expectations to have everything figured out so quickly so high. Its not just the inmates in why these don't work.
I think you are mixing different things in this thread.

One there are those who use others. People are expendable to them. They look out only for themselves.

Two there are those who over fantasize their relationship and believe everything will be perfect when prison is out of the way when the transition is difficult.

Third is reactions out of fear they will be abandoned again. This will ultimately push someone away if one doesnt give space to acclimate properly. As the outside person, there is a weird security in knowing where they are and what they are doing. The attention is also very intense. Then I have to share them with the outside world.

In regard to the OP, she got into a very unhealthy relationship and ignored the signs. Whether in prison or the outside world, they way she was treated as wrong. It is a live and learn scenario. Hopefully, she gets help for herself to love herself more, so people will treat her with respect. She is a good soul and was essentially verbally and emotionally abused.

No one is perfect. The ones we love are far from perfect, but overall we cant fix them. As individuals we can grow together and become better people through love and support if both parties are willing. In general, most relationships dont work out long term. We generally have a handful of long term relationships throughout our lives. There are short terms ones and those are the growing pains which help us see what we want and dont want out of a mate.
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Almost another month has passed. It's been rough, I had a hard time ending my "pity party"and have been struggling to accept that the relationship really is over. Yes I did contact him a few more times, I know I know, no one has to tell me that I need to stop doing that lol. I got myself to delete his contact info from my phone and I haven't contacted him in a few days now. BUT moving on, I finally feel like I might be turning a corner, I joined a new gym, I'm working on myself and I have a job interview today for a counselor position doing the exact type of work I want to do working with the special needs population.
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Almost another month has passed. It's been rough, I had a hard time ending my "pity party"and have been struggling to accept that the relationship really is over. Yes I did contact him a few more times, I know I know, no one has to tell me that I need to stop doing that lol. I got myself to delete his contact info from my phone and I haven't contacted him in a few days now. BUT moving on, I finally feel like I might be turning a corner, I joined a new gym, I'm working on myself and I have a job interview today for a counselor position doing the exact type of work I want to do working with the special needs population.
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Good for you for leaving the pity party and deleting his contact info. AND WOW, I hope you get the job you are wanting! Be sure to let us know how that goes.
Baby steps that you have taken and Im happy for you that you are moving toward them in the forward direction!!
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It’s good to hear you are moving forward in a positive way. Good luck with the job interview.
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Thank you! The interview went really well, now I just have to wait on the background check and for my references to be checked out before they can officially offer me the position! They liked that I had a lot of experience working with the special needs population already so it seems promising I'll get the job *fingers crossed*

About my ex, the less I think about him, contact him or look at his social media, the BETTER I feel, so I know I need to stick to it so I can fully let him go and move on!
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Thank you! The interview went really well, now I just have to wait on the background check and for my references to be checked out before they can officially offer me the position! They liked that I had a lot of experience working with the special needs population already so it seems promising I'll get the job *fingers crossed*

About my ex, the less I think about him, contact him or look at his social media, the BETTER I feel, so I know I need to stick to it so I can fully let him go and move on!
Good for you. Block home on social media, unfriend any mutual friends...it makes life easier. It is not erasing things, but allowing you the time to heal.
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The job sounds very positive I have fingers crossed you will get it.
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Again I feel like I've run into a brick wall, the hopelessness has set back in...unfortunately that's all the update I have for now.
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Thank you.

I'm still waiting to hear about the job, they weren't looking to hire till the new year because that's when a few people were leaving. I'm still looking for other jobs in the meantime.

Today marks 7 months since he has been out so that might be stirring up some feelings...we would be celebrating our 4 year anniversary soon....it's hard not to think about it...I still feel heartbroken that we didn't work out even with all the negative stuff that happened...I know everyone is saying it's for the best that we broke up but I still have doubt and still think maybe I made it sound worse than it was, maybe it wasn't that bad and I was actually the problem...I know I'm not perfect. I don't know, right now mentally I'm not in a great place....I wanna scream and cry at the same time.

This time 4 years ago was when I was depressed and searching for a pen-pal and found him....and I kinda feel like I've just did a full circle, and got no where, I'm right back where I started, sorry to sound whiny, I'm just feeling very discouraged.
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I'm still waiting to hear about the job, they weren't looking to hire till the new year because that's when a few people were leaving. I'm still looking for other jobs in the meantime.

Today marks 7 months since he has been out so that might be stirring up some feelings...we would be celebrating our 4 year anniversary soon....it's hard not to think about it...I still feel heartbroken that we didn't work out even with all the negative stuff that happened...I know everyone is saying it's for the best that we broke up but I still have doubt and still think maybe I made it sound worse than it was, maybe it wasn't that bad and I was actually the problem...I know I'm not perfect. I don't know, right now mentally I'm not in a great place....I wanna scream and cry at the same time.

This time 4 years ago was when I was depressed and searching for a pen-pal and found him....and I kinda feel like I've just did a full circle, and got no where, I'm right back where I started, sorry to sound whiny, I'm just feeling very discouraged.
I think what you're feeling is pretty normal. Caring about someone, regardless of why or how it ended is hard when it blows up. It's a big reason why people use other people to get over their last relationship, aka the rebound. It's also unrealistic to take the words of strangers that say, "you'll get over it" or "he's not worth it" or "you'll be fine" and think that's the magic snap of a finger. They didn't live your pain, and that kind of advice is so dismissive and generic. Time is the only thing that erases / eases this type of sadness. Words make you feel better in the moment, but they fade away quickly and its back to a mini hell. You're smart, pretty, and have sense of humor. You just gave it all to the wrong person. There will be someone that sees this in you, value what they have, without a bunch of conditions to be met. Promise.

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Wow, nawlinsrainy. You have given some profound wisdom in what you said!! Thank you for giving a new perspective on what could possibly be going on with the inmate while they are in and what could possibly be going on with them once they are in the free world. I get it and your reasoning makes good sense to me. Thank you for sharing it!


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This is exactly what I was talking about lol

And no I’m not judging, I only knew what was going to happen because I made the same mistakes as you.

They never respond like normal decent human beings, because they’re not.
When they don’t need you anymore, that’s when the true person comes out.
They’re wonderful, charming, sensitive, intuitive, kind when they’re in prison because they’re alone, humbled, scared- so they act wonderful and say the most wonderful things, they even DO the most wonderful things— my mwi would have flowers delivered to my house in a different country for me.

Even if you’re not sending money or anything, they still need us because we provide emotional support, friendship and a safe place to land while they’re in a terrible terrible environment - we become ‘home’ to them and we put beauty in their lives in a world of hate and ugliness.

Theeeeeeen they get out, they don’t need us anymore, new people, new things, and they often go back to the selfish, narcissistic, losers they were before they went in to prison.

Did they mean everything they said and felt while they are in prison? Probably, why wouldn’t they? We’re bringing sunshine into a dark place, giving them a lifeline in a place of hopelessness.
But then they get out, the we see who they really are.
There’s a quote that goes something like this “ give a man power and you’ll see who he really is”
In our case it’s “give a man his freedom and you’ll see who he really is”
And it’s not an age thing, mine is 47 and I’m 36.

Don’t contact him if you can, he’s not who you think he is, that man existed in prison, but he’s gone now and he’s not coming back.

Keep your head up, I promise it’ll get better.
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Wow, nawlinsrainy. You have given some profound wisdom in what you said!! Thank you for giving a new perspective on what could possibly be going on with the inmate while they are in and what could possibly be going on with them once they are in the free world. I get it and your reasoning makes good sense to me. Thank you for sharing it!
This particular story of nawlinsrainy is chalk full of holes, and in some cases lies and contradictions. You've seen one side of the story, but its pretty evident that there's a narcissist attitude on the outmate. The MWI inmate doesn't know how YOU are when they get out. They too, can spout love, compassion, attention. Then they turn into a nightmare, and in my opinion, that's why this dude left. I would have ran for the hills too.
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The MWI inmate doesn't know how YOU are when they get out. They too, can spout love, compassion, attention. Then they turn into a nightmare....
That's a great observation. It is true even of other family visitors (who are not mwi). They have a certain visiting persona, always a very cleaned up version of themselves. In time, the prisoner forgets what it was like to interact with them in a natural setting, and a highly unrealistic view develops of who they are.
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