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Old 07-14-2017, 11:02 PM
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6 years down and 14 to go...and I have cried every day this week. Nothing is new or different, I am just having a hard time with our distance. For years, I thought nothing of driving hours (up to 15) to see him, and now he's at the other end of the country. I just miss him so much. I really feel like a part of me is missing. It's been a year now, and we are praying he can transfer anywhere closer in the next few months, but this week has just hit me hard
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Oh hon, I am so sorry you're going through this. I can't even imagine. I have no personal point of reference for the length of his sentence, but info for the distance.

It's hard when your other half is so far that you aren't able to visit. I went three years without seeing my husband. When he was arrested, I had to return to my hometown in Illinois. He was in Arizona. It's hard not to be able to share special days because he is just too far away. There are times when a phone call just doesn't do it...

My heart goes out to you and I will say a prayer that he can be moved closer to you. My inbox is always open anytime you need to talk.
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Ugh that must be horrible I don't know what I would do if I couldn't see my husband. But being close to him and not having him home hurts my heart everyday. I hate this.
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I get to visit 4 times a year. So, we make it work. But it's still hard nonetheless :/
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My heart breaks for you. It really does. I hope that he is able to transfer to a facility that makes visiting more of a possibility for you guys. Even with phone calls and letters, going without seeing your partner is so incredibly difficult.
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I'm so sorry I can't imagine is there any way you can try to move closer to him? Maybe apply online for jobs near him.
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Thank you. Kind words always lift your spirits. It is difficult to go so long without seeing him. We had planned for me to move out there, but then he went to team and they said he could put in to transfer in the fall. So, we've been trying to ride it out.
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Thank you. Kind words always lift your spirits. It is difficult to go so long without seeing him. We had planned for me to move out there, but then he went to team and they said he could put in to transfer in the fall. So, we've been trying to ride it out.
Well that's great, I'm glad a transfer is in the works. Hang in there.
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We spent three years with 4-5 visits per year. I understand. Now that I'm close and visit twice a month, I'm going to be honest and say they are drawbacks to both situations.

I miss the buildup and specialness of those infrequent visits. I miss the clear memories of what we said and the funny things that happened. Now, our visits are routine and it's all starting to blur together. That's not a reflection on our marriage or commitment, just a fact.

Of course there are pluses-- I can make a surprise visit if I get the itch and have the money. I don't have to wait three months to see his funny tanline from the watch he bought. I get to hug him more often.

It's definitely hard being so far. But when you're closer and you're visiting more frequently, I promise you'll look back at this time and have feelings of gratitude and nostalgia. Hang tight, hun. Things change when they're supposed to.
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6 years down and 14 to go...and I have cried every day this week. Nothing is new or different, I am just having a hard time with our distance. For years, I thought nothing of driving hours (up to 15) to see him, and now he's at the other end of the country. I just miss him so much. I really feel like a part of me is missing. It's been a year now, and we are praying he can transfer anywhere closer in the next few months, but this week has just hit me hard
Sorry to hear about your dilemma, I'm in the same boat. I'm in Africa and it's just so hard to be so far away from my husband. It's been almost a year since I last saw him. I pray that your husbands transfer will be successful and I pray that the Almighty strengthens you.
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