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Old 01-19-2009, 12:15 PM
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Do you feel your loved one owes you anything for taking the time to do this bid with them?
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Old 01-19-2009, 12:18 PM
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owe? no... only because i do what i do with a pure heart, and no expectations. appreciation and acknowledgement is welcome, but no, he doesn't owe me anything....
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Old 01-19-2009, 12:20 PM
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i dont think he owes me anything but i do feel like he owes himself a chance at life without addiction. i pray he love himself enough to work toward that goal.
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Old 01-19-2009, 12:25 PM
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nope... i didn't go along with this bid because i wanted to be paid back... i went along with it because i told him i'd give him a chance that he has to earn and work for... and he has.

Now... my heart is so deeply involved, that I don't see anything as a "payment" to be owed... I see it as a chapter in the book of me and Kyle's relationship.
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Old 01-19-2009, 12:26 PM
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i wouldn't say he owes me.. I hope eventually he'll repay me in some way..but everything i do is out of the goodness of my heart
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One should never give more than they are comfortable with and never with the understanding that someting is owed in returned be it financially, physically, emotionally, etc.

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He doesn't owe me anything, we support each other in whatever way we can. I will say that he has a lot of lost time to make up for though, so he'd better get those hands ready for a lot of extra pampering - but that goes both ways as well!
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Old 01-19-2009, 02:33 PM
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he owes me forever plus at least one day... as do I him
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He always says ... I owe you my life....
As for me, he doesn't owe me anything, just his love, which i already have .... so no.
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Old 01-19-2009, 03:21 PM
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no he doesn't owe me..i do it because i want to, not to be repaid..there is nothing to be repaid
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Old 01-19-2009, 03:30 PM
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i wouldn't say he owes me.. I hope eventually he'll repay me in some way..but everything i do is out of the goodness of my heart

Couldn't of said it better
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Not at all. Adam supports me just as much with his sweet letters. We owe each other our lives in some ways I believe--but that has got nothing to do with his being in Calipatria. He is my Hellboy, my Lion, my Angel and I love him with all my heart

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nah not at all- i do what i do out of love not out of obligation or with thought that I may get something in return.
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No. He's my husband. He owes me nothing. I did this because I chose to, just as I chose to become his wife, and just as I choose to place money on his books, buy him what he needs, whatever. Those are my choices.

And I don't "charge" my loved ones for what I do for them. I love them. If I wanted to play accounting games, I wouldn't be doing this. I'd rather spend my time enjoying the love he and I have than, than keeping a little "tally book" somewhere with little marks for what he "owes" me.
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No I do this because I chose to out of love,respect,championship,friendship.I would not want to be with him if he felt obligated to be with me that is not a relationship.
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All that I do for him is geniune and from my heart. If it was not real I would not do it. Baby has given me his heart, that is so much more. What I have always learned in life is that it not the big things that I have done it is the little that mean so very much to the both of us.
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Old 01-19-2009, 04:51 PM
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real love, true unconditional love comes with no strings attached. when you choose to love someone you don't do it with the mindset of what he's gonna do for you in return. don't get it twisted i'd be deeply hurt if marc got out and started banging every chick in sight. however i've told him time and time again(to the point he's asked me to seriously stop talking about it) he owes me nothing. when he gets out i want him to be with me because he chooses to be not out of any sense of obligation.
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Oh my...you ladies need to be honest. Really.
I have been with my husband 16 years married 10 years and he has been away a little over 2 years. No he don't owe me any money. But for damn sure he owes me alot of ..... well lets just say i have been without for two years already so you know what he owes me alot of.
Other than i married my husband for better or worse in good and bad and well this is what it is. Now i will be dreaming of all the IOU's i will be cashing in on when he gets home.
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no..you do it cause you love them or cause you wnat to...not cause they owe you...trust me they appreiciate everything that you do...without loved ones and friends on he outside...they will go nuts..
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My baby always tells me he will pay me back when he gets out,But my reply is always the same" Baby you dont need to pay me back anything just stay the same, love me and don't hurt me and thats pay back enough"!
I dont expect anything! I just want him !!!
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Old 01-19-2009, 06:53 PM
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Oh sanchez you are right on that one!!!!! I'll be truthful on that!
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does he owe me....he owe's me love and respect and a lot charuffeuring me around...lol, I already have his love and respect....but no he really doesnt owe me anything..the way i look at it is when you love someone, really love them, its what you do.....
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Someone already mentioned this.. but I think he owes himself a better life. As far as what he owes me, all i ask for is love, honesty, & respect. and a lot of lovin' when he comes home.
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I read a few of the responses and I have to say YES . . . . he owes me . . . .

You can't put a monetary value on my love and devotion towards my husband . . . so it isn't about money . . . but he owes me in the sense of coming home and taking care of his family . . . I have been holding things down with the kids and I'm his biggest supporter . . . so he owes me unconditional love . . . commitment . . . and a life time of happiness . . . . . .
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Supporting him during this with the expectation of getting "paid back" could leave me mighty disappointed. There is nothing guaranteed about what will come out of this experience. I do it because I love him unconditionally. I expect that he will continue to love/respect me the way that he does now and that's it.
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