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Old 08-20-2006, 11:20 PM
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I just wanted to offer my support and prayers to all of you. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones whose husband only has to serve 16 months. That is devestating to me, and I can't imagine what you all must feel. Just wanted you to know you have my support.
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Old 08-22-2006, 08:32 PM
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Thank's Brandi, Support and Prayers are something we all need everyday. Those are the things that help the most. 16 months huh.. You are a lucky one !!! Good luck ! Keep the Faith.
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Old 08-23-2006, 02:58 PM
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I have been waiting a long time and he screwed up. I have been making plans to see him. He gets moved. I make alternative plans and he gets in trouble. Of course he says, it was for my sake. I am angry and now have to wait 45+ days to see him. I was doing this for him. It's so difficult to get to where he is from where I am. He could not be good till he saw me? I am having mixed emotions because he has caused trust issues that weren't ever there. I have always accepted his explanation for things and this time, I can't. The best I can do is "yell at him" in my letters and stop spraying them with perfume. He hurt me because he wasn't the only one looking forward to the visit. I haven't seen him since I was 16 years old! I am a 37 y/o woman who loves a man she may never see again. How do you make them be good? It's a dumb question but I believe someone knows. Pray for me ladies, I'm hurting.
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Old 08-23-2006, 04:54 PM
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Hi I'm waiting 23 years. Been together 13. In jail only 1 year. Any suggestions...
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Old 08-23-2006, 05:18 PM
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Hang in there !! I know it's really hard and you miss him and love him . let me ask you does he call you on your home phone or cell phone ? My husband is in Tx. and I live in Okla. we started out with him calling me at home .and that was killing me money wise .Until I got smart and got a cell phone with a Tx. number we went from hundred's of dollars to 20.00 a mo.
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Old 08-24-2006, 12:16 AM
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He got 22 years and 8 months. He has done 9 and so far we have done 1 together.
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Old 08-24-2006, 04:03 AM
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My man has at the most 10 years left, He has served 14 so far. I will wait until the end of my days to be with this man. My family thinks i'm crazy and are dissapointed in my choices. I guess they don't understand how i can love someone like him. All i say is you don't chose who you fall in love with, you just love them for the rest of your life, and make sure they know you love them. I asked my family, would they have a different opinion about him if he was out, and they said they don't know him well enough to judge him, I said then why are you judging him now? They do not know him like I do. I'm a very understanding and caring person and i do believe people deserve second chances. We all deserve to be happy with someone, even if they are in prison. Some day he will be out and my dreams will come true.
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Old 08-24-2006, 03:01 PM
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I feel you Kong's Belle. Love is love. It may be hard but it still is the greatest gift I've ever received. Pray.
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Old 09-08-2006, 11:20 AM
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My husband has been locked up for 1 1/2 yrs and his release date is 2027. Even though I'm only 28 I often wonder if I will even be alive in 2027 to finally enjoy being married.
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Old 09-15-2006, 01:31 PM
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My X Husband is serving 12 with 85%. he has been in for 8 years. Alomost there!!!
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Old 09-19-2006, 07:52 PM
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my better half got 20 yrs when he was 17yrs old back in 1994 and can u believe that he never even hurt anyone,ugg! He has served 12flat on his 20 and on his 2nd parole review right now, GOD knows our 12yr old son needs his father in his life. we both r in tx but 400mils apart so visits r rare but hoped for always.
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Old 09-25-2006, 08:16 PM
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My husband was sentenced to 10 years with the 85% law, so I have 8 years and a half. He has only been in there for almost four months. The only way me and him get through this phase is by first trusting the lord and by talking and writing each other and or course the visits. Sometimes is harder but I just think like he won't be gone forever and that helps.
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Old 09-26-2006, 08:29 AM
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my husband has done 3yrs and we still got 18 more to go. he was sentenced to 21yrs at 85%. sometimes i cry sometimes i laugh because it's so crazy, sometimes i just go crazy, but i still would rather be with him than some dude on the streets who i know i could never love 1/2 as much as my man, and who would definately not love me 1/2 as much as jimmy.
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Old 09-26-2006, 08:49 AM
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My baby has 22 yrs. non violent, he's done 10 1/2 yrs. He goes up for parole in February 2007 we're hoping for the best. His 10 year old daughter needs him. I was pregnant when he went in, so she has never got to be with her father.
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Old 09-26-2006, 07:30 PM
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My husband got (2)15 to life running concurrently has had 6 parole hearings and done 26 almost 27 years. Our relationship reignited 12 years ago and we've been married 8. Will I continue to stick by him? No doubt!
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Old 10-01-2006, 07:03 PM
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18 months down on a 10-20 indeterminate sentence.
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Old 10-27-2006, 05:13 PM
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We just went down another emotional hell when the tx parole board denied him again w/o looking at his file,parole pack or anything they r required to do. He will be n 14 next review date and that will be his 3rd one. This set off really hurt b/c if they took any time w his review then they would c he should hit the bricks.......this has disgusted me beyound words.
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Old 10-27-2006, 05:43 PM
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I guess I would qualify for this thread, the time sometimes seem endless. I often wonder how I do it and keep my sanity and happiness?
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Old 11-01-2006, 07:43 AM
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My fiance got 20 years about a 2week ago!! He has been in the county for 6 months now! He has to do 3 1/2 more years before possibility of parole! Its hard and gets harder everyday! He gets so frustrated that im out here having a hard time because the position he left me in! I try to do my best for him but sometimes he still gets down! Me im down alot! But I dont let him know it! I try to stay as positive as possible! I pray everynight the Judge will lower his sentence when he does go for final sentencing! He took a plea bargin now its in the judges hands to decide if the plea is fair! Witch i dont think it is! I stay busy as possible! I work as many hours a week as I can! Try to keep living my life but its soooooooo hard because he was my whole life!!!
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Mine is serving a 35 year sentence and only has served 5 years so far, I know it's not easy, but I will stick by him, visit when I can and wait for him
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Old 11-14-2006, 09:34 PM
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Mine Did 13 Months So Far And He Has 6 Yrs More To Go
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Old 11-15-2006, 07:50 AM
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He got 11 years and has 2 years 9 months to go
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Old 11-15-2006, 01:00 PM
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My hubby was sentenced to 20 years and he has alittle over 7 1/2 years left.
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Old 11-16-2006, 07:17 PM
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It seems like my fiance is on a life sentence he got sentenced to 33 years without parole for his 1st offense. I don't know what to do we are supposed to get married hopefully in Sept. 2007 after my case is closed and we get through marriage counseling which at the latest will be next sept. I've never been in love until him and it was very hard when I saw him in handcuffs, orange suit and behind glass and now knowing he's in prison hurts more.
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Old 11-16-2006, 10:55 PM
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My man is in on 2 life sentences without parole, but hopefully he will get his appeal right and he will come home to us. I hate it I have known him more then half my life we met at 11 we our 27 he is and always will b the love of my life!
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