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View Poll Results: How much more could u endure?
None 24 19.20%
1-2 more years 18 14.40%
3-5 more years 15 12.00%
Doesnt matter, thats my soulmate, Ill wait for life 68 54.40%
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Old 06-26-2011, 09:01 PM
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Ladies I have to tell you I read the book VISITING LIFE by Bridget Kinsella and OMG tears just rolled down my eyes. I could not put the book down. She described so many of us to a "T". After reading I KNOW I will hang on to my husband forever. He is my angel and I am his. I could never love another any more than I do him. Ours is so much more than anything I ever had in the past.
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this is exactlyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy how i feel! im 22 and sometimes i feel like can i do this?? im so young! his max is 2014=\. thats my boo(unofficial by the way lol because im not sure i wanna make it official) it is def a stuggle!!
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Just take it one day @ a time .... Sweetswife I have to buy that book.. Thxs
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I honestly believe it has to-do with the level of relationship. Every relationship level is different and it helps in the decision makig. I knew no matter the time I wasn't going anywhere
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Old 06-26-2011, 09:58 PM
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No it really wouldn't have mattered how long he had as far as my decision to wait. Not that I like prison situation, I hate it, but he's the one for me and that's that.
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This is our 2nd round almost 3 yrs last one now he just got 5 years omg im waiting but this is the last round.... I love u shawn with all my heart n soul...
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Being that Im only 23 and i wanna have kids, even though weve been together for a while b4 this, if he had more time than what he has now, i think I would jus be his friend and move on with my life.

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I would wait cuz that's my baby 4 life
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I'm gonna keep it real.. I'm not waiting no extra 2-3 yrs.. You know how to keep your butt out of trouble so it won't be added on or you no you shouldn't be out there doing what you not suppose to be doing to get back in.. I know its hard.. But from being in there for so damn long ( my dude in general) You no what to do and what not to do.. I'll still "be there" but like someone else said.. I have to keep my options open..I been dealin with this since i was 16.. I'm 22 now.. I just don't think i can anymore He is being released april 2013 (God willing)
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No amount of time is going to make me leave him. He has my heart and soul on lock. I cant even look at another man and see myself with them the way I can with my man. I am his ride or die chick I made the promise to stay and thats what I tend to do. I feel that if him and I can make it through this when he does get to come home our relationship and love are going to be that much stronger. Its takes a strong women to do the time with our men but it takes an even stronger man to get through the stuff they are dealing with. No one said it would be easy they just promised it would be worth it in the end.
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I can't really answer with the options you have. I mean, if I went into a situation before hand knowing he had so long, id like to think that I'd stand by my word. I've been waiting on my husband for almost 10 years and he's finally getting paroled later this summer, but I always had my mind set on him doing the whole bid of 15 and I would have waited. Im absolutely in love with him and he's the only one to ever make me feel happy and equally loved in return. However, if he went back I wouldnt wait not even a day. We have a family now, one that we put on hold many years because of his sentence. I spent my entire twenties writing letters and having weekend visits and 15 min phone calls. I made a lot of sacrifices for him and because of him. I don't regret not a moment of our time together, but I will not do it again. If he's willing to throw away our life together, our family and his freedom, I can't take participate in that and raise our kids like that. I forgave him this first time, but that's it. I do beleive in for better for worse, till death do us part, but if the man can't live up to love, honor and cherish then I won't live in a one-sided marriage.
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When I met him he had 4. I remember saying to him "4 years isn't that long." and 2 years later, we're halfway through. If he doesn't make early release, it will be 2015 before his sentence is done. I can wait.
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I'm gonna keep it real.. I'm not waiting no extra 2-3 yrs.. You know how to keep your butt out of trouble so it won't be added on or you no you shouldn't be out there doing what you not suppose to be doing to get back in.. I know its hard.. But from being in there for so damn long ( my dude in general) You no what to do and what not to do.. I'll still "be there" but like someone else said.. I have to keep my options open..I been dealin with this since i was 16.. I'm 22 now.. I just don't think i can anymore He is being released april 2013 (God willing)
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Well, M and I have thirteen more years to go (depending on how successful our appeal is) and I'm 40 years old. So it was a big decision I made to wait for this man. But I never regret it. Although of course I wish he was home and it's very very difficult on many levels... He's the one I love and he's worth it.
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If my hubby got life I would not commit myself to him. Yes, I would still write him and do visit here and there, but I wouldn't want him to do life with me if the shoe was on the other foot. That's just selfish in my opinion!
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I agree with those ladies who say they couldn't do it if he had life. If my man got life, I wouldn't stay in a relationship with him. I'm 27 and I couldnt commit to that. Thankfully mines has an out in sight. But I've already told him, I'm not doin this anymore. Your gonna have to stop running the streets and hustling I'm not doin this anymore.
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I agree with those ladies who say they couldn't do it if he had life. If my man got life, I wouldn't stay in a relationship with him. I'm 27 and I couldnt commit to that. Thankfully mines has an out in sight. But I've already told him, I'm not doin this anymore. Your gonna have to stop running the streets and hustling I'm not doin this anymore.
I'm 27 too and agree with everything you said!
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I told my husband that i would leave if he got 3 yrs. and he got 2 and a half. Even though i said i wouldnt do more then 3, had he gotten more, im not really sure that i would have walked away from him.
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Yes the amount of time does mattet. My man max's out 9/2012. He's been in since 9/2010. Anymote than this i'm gone. I can't say I'm too young for this but I can say I'm too old for any longer. I'm struggling with this time, so I know any more is out of the question. I want and deserve better, if he wants to make prison his life, so be it. it would be different if this is something out of his control.

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Wow Diva. I am feelin your first response. I am so flawed too. And he is so patient and understanding. When I beat myself up he tells me to chill and stop trippin.
He is so sweet and encouraging. I miss him so freakin much!
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Moretime you would of left.... 2034..... It's 2011 now.. I'm not knocking you but in my situation I would of left...
Wow love can make u do things that u wouldnt normally do.
Yes i agree its 2011 and i dont know if i could have did 23 years waiting on my man. When minez was going through the the courts and they were talking bout givin him 10 yrs i cried. I said and said its not fair i just got him back now they taking him away from me... What am i going to 2 for 10 years ???? Before he went to jail he was just my friend sex partners a childhood boyfriend and we lossed contact for 20 yrs. Then he reappears for only a year . We got together while hes been in jail. Thank god he coped out to a 3\7 i told him im 35 i waited 20years to have u how i do and now i have u while ur in jail. I'm inlove with him but doing more time than he has to do i dont know if i could do it especially if im not married to him.
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We are officially under 2 years as of the 25th. Ive been doing this for almost 3. If he caught another case I wouldn't be able to endure the heart ache that this time has caused me. I am 22 years old and will not tolerate a man who cannot grow up.
That being said, he better not do this to me again! LOL.
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They say if you love someone and you let them go... and they come back to you... its meant to be. Well I know Brent & I are meant to be. So no matter what Im in this for life. He was supposed to get 12 years. But didnt... he's in til Dec.2014 but his parole review is this Dec.
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I can handle the time he has left right now, but should HE screw up and cause himself to get more time added and/or get out and get sent back I don't know that I could handle more time as we are MWI and I'm not getting any younger so it would be a hard decision but I love him enough that I would have to really ponder the situation...
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I love my man, so it doesn't matter how long he has. You make consequences for the ones you love. I want more kids desperately, but if that won't happen because he's on the inside, that won't happen. I'm not saying that I would be okay with it, because it would crush me, but I would have him to make it better.
He is going to get a divorce when he's on the outside. His wife (We just call her his ex wife.) can't have kids, and while he desperately wants children, he married her anyway, because he loved her so much. My love isn't conditional, and that's how love should be. Again, I don't WANT him in there any longer than he absolutely has to. I want him out today, but love waits as long as love needs to.
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I don't dwell too much on the amount of time he has. I'm aware that life may very well take me from him at some point. But until that happens or if it even happens at all, we're enjoying each other right now.
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