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View Poll Results: How much more could u endure?
None 24 19.20%
1-2 more years 18 14.40%
3-5 more years 15 12.00%
Doesnt matter, thats my soulmate, Ill wait for life 68 54.40%
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Old 06-25-2011, 04:03 PM
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Being that Im only 23 and i wanna have kids, even though weve been together for a while b4 this, if he had more time than what he has now, i think I would jus be his friend and move on with my life.

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I originally met him while he was incarcerated and waited 14 months to be with him in the free world. He is back in the joint now and the number of years wasn't an issue to me. If he had gotten life I'd do it along side him because our relationship is such a blessing even when we can't be in the same room together. So, for me no the amount of time would not have changed my decision, no question about it.
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Everyone is different, Everyone has their own opinion and I always say Love has no boundaries. There's no amount of time set for how long I will be by his side, because I will be by his side all the way up until the day he comes home. People always ask me is this what I want and I say yes, you can't put a time limit on love. If I didnt want to be here, I would have been left .. I wouldn't dare lead someone on and then say "well you got blah blah years so we should just be friends" because that would let someone know my love for them was never real. If you feel and know you can't ride with someone for a certain amount of years, I feel you should let them know in the beginning instead of leading them on and them ending up being hurt.
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We were just casual friends before he went away. We did our thing but we werent commited. I moved out of state and he got sent away not even a year after I left. I have stayed in contact with him the past 10 yrs he has been gone. But just as friends because my life was a mess too.
Now that I have gotten on the right path for almost a year. And hopefully he may be getting his reduction in time. We have explored the feelings we have always had for each other and decided to try this relationship.
I dont care how long it takes. If I could stay by his side considering the crap I put myself through over these years. Imagine what we could do now that I am back from that darkness.
I have always held him close to my heart. Now I am lucky enough that he stood by me as well over these years.
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Being that Im only 23 and i wanna have kids, even though weve been together for a while b4 this, if he had more time than what he has now, i think I would jus be his friend and move on with my life.

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Exactly ! Same here more than 2 year I'm out!
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Im sick a F***kn waitin mann..But Iam ...I got 5 more to go...After this 1 I aynt .... And there best nott be another bitt either...Cause I honestly dont think Id make it...11 years is enough to mess you up mann...


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I hear what you are saying. If we didn't have kids, I can't say what would happen. I do know when we broke up before I was never happy with anyone else I dated, boult like I was happy when I am with him. I would be really hurt if he ever goes back for more than a few years. But we are a family and what happens to him, happens to all of us. I really hope when he comes home he realizes that it's putting all of us through hell and he will NOT go back.
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Exactly ! Same here more than 2 year I'm out!
My dad is a lifer and i kno my mom and him love each other dearly. My brother is his junior, we are jus like him and look just like him, she has nothin bad to say about my dad. its been 18 years so far and she still has her moments where shes mad at god. My dad never let my mom lift a finger. My whole family talks so good about him. Everyone feels like he has endured the worst kind of injustice. I always feel lucky to have his last name. When i marry Im not even changing it. Theres no doubt that he was the love of her life. But she married my stepdad this year, hes been in our live for about 10 years. Him and my dad are great friends now. He supports my dad (hes been in prison for a while too so he undertsands). He never lets my dad go without. My dad is happy that he has been able to step in as a father for us. Especially when we are in the years that will make or break us. He loves him. Hes happy for my mother that she can have happiness and the support she needs for her and his kids. My step dad is a great father, He will never replace my father and has no intentions to, but as a young girl growing up i needed him and my brother needed him also. He is a great man. My mom, my dad and my stepdad are all bestfriends. My step dad even has a savings account for him so that when he gets out he will be ok. Matter of fact, when i talked to my stepdad today he reminded me about something i had to do for my dad and gave me a message from him.

My mom never looked for anyone, but she never closed herself off from the opportunity. and if u ask me, I would never ask my mom to sacrifice the happiness she has found now to wait for my dad and my dad wouldnt either. HIs release date in 2020.
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Being away from him is hard when the time changes but then I'm like damn no sex. Ugh! Lol
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We don't have much time left...a little over a year and a half so at this point it's not an issue for us. If he were to go back to prison for some reason, he'd be in for a long time. Of course it would be hard, but it wouldn't change my decision to wait for him. We are best friends and I want him in my life no matter how it has to be done!
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My man's out date is 2034. Despite his sentence, I chose to stay. Will I make it? God only knows.

Had he received more time, I would've walked. Sure, I would be his friend but that's it.
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My dad is a lifer and i kno my mom and him love each other dearly. My brother is his junior, we are jus like him and look just like him, she has nothin bad to say about my dad. its been 18 years so far and she still has her moments where shes mad at god. My dad never let my mom lift a finger. My whole family talks so good about him. Everyone feels like he has endured the worst kind of injustice. I always feel lucky to have his last name. When i marry Im not even changing it. Theres no doubt that he was the love of her life. But she married my stepdad this year, hes been in our live for about 10 years. Him and my dad are great friends now. He supports my dad (hes been in prison for a while too so he undertsands). He never lets my dad go without. My dad is happy that he has been able to step in as a father for us. Especially when we are in the years that will make or break us. He loves him. Hes happy for my mother that she can have happiness and the support she needs for her and his kids. My step dad is a great father, He will never replace my father and has no intentions to, but as a young girl growing up i needed him and my brother needed him also. He is a great man. My mom, my dad and my stepdad are all bestfriends. My step dad even has a savings account for him so that when he gets out he will be ok. Matter of fact, when i talked to my stepdad today he reminded me about something i had to do for my dad and gave me a message from him.

My mom never looked for anyone, but she never closed herself off from the opportunity. and if u ask me, I would never ask my mom to sacrifice the happiness she has found now to wait for my dad and my dad wouldnt either. HIs release date in 2020.
I understand completely what your mother did. I'm on it the same way I'm not looking but if a man comes along that can complete me or my world I'm not passing it up. I didn't put my bf in jail his actions did why should I suffer? But ur moms situation is way deeper than mines with children and lifetime sentence. But like o said I can identify in a way. Right now I love my bf I don't want anyone else at the. Moment I don't know when that feeling will change. To others on here I might be wrong as ever.. but hey its real....
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My man's out date is 2034. Despite his sentence, I chose to stay. Will I make it? God only knows.

Had he received more time, I would've walked. Sure, I would be his friend but that's it.
Moretime you would of left.... 2034..... It's 2011 now.. I'm not knocking you but in my situation I would of left...
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We don't have much time left...a little over a year and a half so at this point it's not an issue for us. If he were to go back to prison for some reason, he'd be in for a long time. Of course it would be hard, but it wouldn't change my decision to wait for him. We are best friends and I want him in my life no matter how it has to be done!
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Moretime you would of left.... 2034..... It's 2011 now.. I'm not knocking you but in my situation I would of left...
It's crazy, I know. I didn't come to my decision lightly. He's appealing and were believing he'll be home way before then.
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I was thinking the same thing..More time than 2034? LOL.
My man tells me all the time we are friends first. So if I feel like I need to take our realtionship in another direction. Just be real with him so we dont disappoint each other and lose our friendship too.
Whether I am there as his woman or his friend. I am there for as long as it takes.
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My man is my everything but if he would haven't gotten long then a 5 with 85 I would not be sticking around I'm 25 and I want a life filled with kids and a marriage. I know he will not be going back so that's not a question. I got a year and half then I'm done yay!!!
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I would wait for as long as I could. I love him so much but I could not wait forever. I also would just be his friend and move on if it were several years. He has also told me that he would not make me wait that long either.
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I was thinking the same thing..More time than 2034? LOL.
My man tells me all the time we are friends first. So if I feel like I need to take our realtionship in another direction. Just be real with him so we dont disappoint each other and lose our friendship too.
Whether I am there as his woman or his friend. I am there for as long as it takes.
My man tells me that also, but I can never dream of being with anyone else. He broke up with me once because we both had too much happening and we had constant conflict, but I was not strong enough to say goodbye. I hated him for saying it at first, but then I realized someone had to be the strong one, and he just stepped up. Besides, the break and me finding someone else to prove to him that to at least one person I was worthy actually helped. He opened up his eyes, and mine also. I never wanted anything else then, or now... he's my world and I can wait forever or until the world falls apart. He's in 'til 2042... that makes me.. 53 lol! But whatever, true love DOES wait.
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My man tells me that also, but I can never dream of being with anyone else. He broke up with me once because we both had too much happening and we had constant conflict, but I was not strong enough to say goodbye. I hated him for saying it at first, but then I realized someone had to be the strong one, and he just stepped up. Besides, the break and me finding someone else to prove to him that to at least one person I was worthy actually helped. He opened up his eyes, and mine also. I never wanted anything else then, or now... he's my world and I can wait forever or until the world falls apart. He's in 'til 2042... that makes me.. 53 lol! But whatever, true love DOES wait.
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God bless u... And I hope time fly for u....
Thank you. 2 and a half yrs down.. A LOT more to go. :/
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I was thinking the same thing..More time than 2034? LOL.
My man tells me all the time we are friends first. So if I feel like I need to take our realtionship in another direction. Just be real with him so we dont disappoint each other and lose our friendship too.
Whether I am there as his woman or his friend. I am there for as long as it takes.
I'm glad you find that so funny. Good grief.
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I'm glad you find that so funny. Good grief.
I don't think she was laughing @ u... I think she found it funny that we thought the same way... I don't think anyone would laugh@ ur situation because most of us here is In the same boat..
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I don't think she was laughing @ u... I think she found it funny that we thought the same way... I don't think anyone would laugh@ ur situation because most of us here is In the same boat..
I'd say we're all on the same ocean, not the same boat. And I'll agree that that may very well have been what she meant.
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