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View Poll Results: Can you deal with a long distance relationship?
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Old 05-02-2010, 09:52 PM
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Okay, so here's my question to you :Can you deal with a long distance relationship? Or do you need to have constant in-person attention? Do you think that people in long distance relationships can be faithful and go without sex for long periods of time?
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Old 05-02-2010, 09:59 PM
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I think everyone here knows how to deal with long distance relationships. We are with men that are incarcerated
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So true Babygirl. Lol.
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Yes yes I agree if you couldn't deal wit a long distant relationship then dating or marrying a man in prison aint for you. Now we don't choose or want to be in a long distant relationship but if we love our men or woman then we will have to learn how to deal wit it and try to make the best of it.
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Two people can make a relationship work under ANY circumstance if they want to.
The key is wanting to.

I make mine work just fine, it can have challenges but what can you do. I'd rather drive for 8 hours to see him than not see him at all.
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well... judging by the fact that my fiance just so happens to be in prison, which to me is even worse than a long distance relationship because i dont get to see him at all, i think i could.
the difference is that, if we were as serious as we are and so far apart but had the option to move(since he wouldnt be in prison) then we would just move closer together anyways.
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Well the first 6 months of me and J's relationship was actually long distance. He was in a different state to me and we made it work ... and then he decided to move. So yeah, we're kinda used to this lol
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Not everyone! Some people say they can do a long distance relationship, yet when the chips are fallin or the situation gets rough, they turn their back on it..Some people need their significant other to be there with them to have things work, that's why I ask those questions...
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True! Some think they can do it but can't for whatever reason. I say at least they tried.
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Not everyone! Some people say they can do a long distance relationship, yet when the chips are fallin or the situation gets rough, they turn their back on it..Some people need their significant other to be there with them to have things work, that's why I ask those questions...
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I am in the UK and my man is in California so for me four years in the answer is YES!
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Yes it can work. There is an ocean between me and mine. If he wasn't in holiday camp, then I would be where he is. This is a small set back, but if the feelings are real, you will make it work no matter what.
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I guess I can since I have been dealing with this prison thing for three years, seen him all of three times..and have been completely faithful doing it. I think it is possible but you have to be very dedicated, and respect the other person with all you have!
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Yes I can deal with the distance and the ocean between us...it aint easy but its perfectly possible.
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I kinda am long distance right now my babys in tallahassee and I'm in miami fla its like 8 hrs away sure I see him but not often @ all until he gets transferred back down south (which is soon) but I can deal, with him @ least because I love him more than life.
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Making it work takes work on both sides. There can even be a few side benefits like better communication and being able to read someones emotions without seeing their face. In some ways this experience has been good for us because we have to build an even stronger foundation of communication and tolerance. Going without sex? That can be done too. It's not so enjoyable but it is doable.
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If being with someone who is in prison is considered a long distant relationship, then yes, I could do it. But to me it is much different than if we just didn't live near one another, that I don't think I could pull off. I know it sounds strange but it is what it is. To me, there is a difference between not living near someone and not being able to be with the other person because they are in prison. A lot of people would never do the whole prison relationship thing, but yet would have a long distance relationship otherwise. I just happen to be the opposite.
And one other thing, it has nothing to do with the sexual part of it either.
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I think i you really love each other, then distance isn't going to make a difference.
I like sex alot yes being celbiate sucks, but I think if you love soemone and have a relationship for the person and above all respect the other person, then you can go with out sex or buy a toy...You won't die from lack of sex
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My fiance and I have always lived an hour and a half away from each other. We are still together and have been making it work for a year and a half so I would say we can handle a long distance relationship. When he was home I was spending every weekend at his house. So far, so good. It might be a little hard at first when he gets out though.
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you nailed it right on the spot. WE ARE ALL WITH A LOVED ONE WHO IS INCARCERATED SO OBVIOUSLY WE CAN DEAL WITH IT...
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been in a long distance relationship for four years with a little under three to go .. id say i can handle it
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Shit long distance relationships aint got nothing on a prison relationship.

At least with a long distance relationship you can call whenever you want to, shoot they even got web cams now, Id give my left nut to be able to at LEAST see my man on web cam

And you can have cyber sex

Shit, aint no sexing going on here..................unless its with a battery operated boyfriend.
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Okay, so here's my question to you :Can you deal with a long distance relationship? Or do you need to have constant in-person attention? Do you think that people in long distance relationships can be faithful and go without sex for long periods of time?
I have been with the love of my life for 8 years we have lived in different states for the last 4 years. i live in NY and he lives in MD. I do get lonely but know that after he does his time it will all be worth it.
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Yes, for the most part i can deal with a long distance relationship, im not the needy i need to be with you every second of my life type a girl...

It really depends on the person ...I for one can NOW say that i CAN be faithful to my husband even with the distance that lies between us.

I dont think long distance relationships are for everyone.
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Well, I am in CA and the love of my life, whom I hope to marry, is in NJ and in prison for the next 21 years. I think I can handle a long distance relationship.
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What???? Is this a website for people... with people in prison??? why didnt somebody tell me!!!!
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