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View Poll Results: Would you take his punishment for him?
I'd take a beating if it meant he could get out sooner! 31 25.83%
I'd let him take a beating to get out sooner. 24 20.00%
I'd do his time for him. 4 3.33%
He did the crime, he's gotta do the time. 61 50.83%
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Old 01-30-2009, 09:04 PM
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I just had a visit with my guy tonight, and he said something that caught my attention. He said if he could he'd take lashings with a whip if it meant he could get out tomorrow. I said I'd take the lashings for him to get him out(he didn't like that at all).
I was just curious what you guys would do if given the option. Would you let him take some lashings instead of the prison time? Take the lashings for him?
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I would take the lashings for him no doubt bout it
but i couldnt say id do the time instead only because I have two children who as much as I love him, NEED ME.
So since I cant take no lashings and neither can he, I just pray the time go quickly and we both are as productive as possible, in ways that are positive until he can be home where we want him to be
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wow, what a interesting question. I'd probably take a lashing (if it didnt scar) OMG, he would probably let them run over him with a steam roller to get out of prison, he always tells me the ONLY thing that is stopping me from coming home to you is that razor wire, them guards dont even scare me
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That's difficult to say. I have a very strong opinion about don't do the crime if you can't do the time............unfortunately, that means I'm doing the time with him...........ummmmmmmmm let me think. I think I might take some lashings, I mean, I grew up having to pick my switch off the tree (and it better not be too small if ya'll remember) but I would definitely NOT do his bid. You play you pay.....I didn't play.
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I would take lashings for him to come home sooner in heartbeat. He needs to be at home with his wife and children, not locked up in some prison, that isn't serving any purpose. I know he would take quite a few to come home sooner too.
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omg no! Is that bad? But seriously, I have kids & I didn't do anything wrong. As much as this sucks, I'm confident he won't do it again. If it was that easy I'm not sure he'd learn anything from this crappy experience.
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I love my husband, but he would have to do the time. Now if they offered to let him take a beating to get out early, I would have to think about it because he has a bad heart and just had major back surgery. I wouldn't want him to be kille dor seriously injured to get out early.
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I would not take lashes or do his bid for him. The way I see it is this time could be saving his life. You never know everything happens for a reason. I have faith that God knows what he is doing and will bring my baby home to me when HE is ready. And I will wait as long as it takes.

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Absolutely not and he wouldn't want me to. How barbaric can we get, this is America after all. Dang.

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I would not take lashes or do his bid for him. The way I see it is this time could be saving his life. You never know everything happens for a reason. I have faith that God knows what he is doing and will bring my baby home to me when HE is ready. And I will wait as long as it takes.

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Same here. Even if he let me take the fall for his actions, I wouldnt do it. Its his responsibility and whats the point in being punished if someone else is going to get the punishment?
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I may be one of the few (if any) minorities in answering this question, but here goes.

No, I would NOT take a beating or a lashing for him to get out sooner, nor would I let him do it. I am sorry but he did the crime so he has to do the time. I don't believe getting a beating or lashing would TEACH HIM what prison has taught him.

I have told Ray from day one, I have NO SYMPATHY for him being where he is. He broke the law, he got caught, he is being punished. Now as to how long he is there, I DO have sympathy for that.

I DO, however, have EMPATHY for him being in prison. There is a HUGE difference between sympathy and empathy. Ray tries to play the sympathy card with me once in a blue moon (he KNOWS it won't work, but says he HAS to try ). It doesn't work, and I don't want to come acrossed as a hag but that is the way I feel.
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Hell, I would have done the time for him if he hadn't needed to do it. He will be out soon, but any longer, and it wouldn't be beneficial to him. He needed to learn this lesson. I am sorry it was a hard one, but some donkeys don't learn til you hit 'em between the ears with a 2x4. And I'm one of them and so is he on some things.

Far as whip lashing goes, well he wouldn't much care for it, but me, you never know, I may like that sort of thing =).
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This is a crazy question . . . .

NO . . . I would not do the time . . . . why because I'm too cute to go to prison and I can't wear my cute shoes and clothes . . . . . . .

NO . . . I would not take any lashings or beating for him . . . why because that hurts and leaves scars . . . I have four children and I have enough war wounds of my own . . . . . . .

NO . . . I would not want him to take a lashing / or beating to get out early . . . why because he may not survive that . . . . . .

This sentence has been a reality check for him and he regrets being away from me and the kids because he is missing some inportant things in our lives . . . . so there is a lesson to be learned . . . . . .

I tell him all the time . . . GOD sat him down in stead of laying him down and he should feel BLESSED . . . . . . .
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No I would not take the punishment for him..he deserves to be where he is and he would agree with me on that. I don't think he needs to be there as long as he's going to be there but that's another story.
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AT THiS POiNT i WOULD DO ABSOLUTELY ANYTHiNG TO GET HiM OUT SOONER. AND iF THAT MENT TAKiN A BEATiNG, iD SURE AS HELL DO iT. iD DO THE TiME FOR HiM iF i COULD.
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I agree with some of the earlier posters; No on both counts. Alonzo had some lessons to learn and prison has taught him what his parents, me and the law couldn't. He knows this life style ain't for him and he would never go out and do what he did and and end up going back. As far as the lashings go I'd let HIM spank me but thats another topic! ...Marcia
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With me I think its different BAE did all he can in there he cant DO NO MORE every program is done, he has cam so far that now prison is HINDERING him from further bettering himself. That is why I said I would take a lashing an I stand by it, we all have our own beliefs and ideas about this and everyones is good for them, but this is why i chose the answer I did.
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I would not take lashes or do his bid for him. The way I see it is this time could be saving his life. You never know everything happens for a reason. I have faith that God knows what he is doing and will bring my baby home to me when HE is ready. And I will wait as long as it takes.

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I completely agree. As much as him being away sucks, at least I know where he is and he's not out on the street seeing the same people he was with wwhile he was messing around. I dont think I could do the time for him, but if he wanted to take lashings to get out early I think I'd be ok with that. He always says that even though its hard for me its just as hard for him. Which i think is a little off, because he did what he did knowing damn well he could get in trouble for it. I didnt know what he did until after he was arrested. He had a choice to not do it. I had no choice in the matter of my love getting ripped from my everyday life and thrown in jail
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lol wtf no i didnt do anything...cant be captain-save-a-felon forever...gotta pay the price if you cant handle the game =]] LMAOO!
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This is one heck of a question but absolutley not. My husbands not in prison for being a boyscout he made his choices and he's got to suffer the consequences . Of course I'm ready for him to come home but I'm not taking a beat down for his actions- all those who said yes, would probably sing a different tune once you started getting hit with that whip!
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I would not, for one he did the crime, for two he would not let me, for three I have kids that need me.
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I think I'm going to be different here.

I think he would take a lashing to get out of there. He has done 8 years in already with 4 more years left. What more is there left to learn? Right now with his situation prison is the only factor that is gaining financially from him being incarcerated. I think he deserves to be free to be able to be around his son and watch him grow up and to live a productive life.

I love him and want to be with him, but to take a beat down with a cane pole or a stiff whip? Nah, unless it was made out of feathers or wool.
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Nope...HE did this...HE destroyed our family...HE will suffer through the oh so many consequences.

We as his family are forced into this evil punishment that we DO NOT deserve, missing him is our own imprisonment...

I will be here when he returns to us and counting down every second of everyday until then...tear...
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The thought has crossed my mind once or twice just because he has spent so much of his life in prison and I would love for him to have a chance to come out and live a normal life but he made his bed now he has to lay in it. And honestly I would seriously question his love for me if he allowed me to take his punishment for him
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