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View Poll Results: if you had the chance to get pregnant would you?
yes 897 38.37%
no 1,039 44.44%
maybe 307 13.13%
can't decide 95 4.06%
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Old 04-30-2006, 10:36 AM
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I wanna say yes cause Tommys got 18 to life and we have talked about this b4 and he so wants me to have his child but at the same time I have 3 other children here with me and its so hard at times just with all 4 of us!! Don't get me wrong if I was stable enuff to handle them and one more I would jump all over that opportunity. I want him to have a child of his own but I just don't know........

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Old 05-01-2006, 05:11 AM
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NO NO I TOLD MY HUBBY ITS NOT GOING DOWN TIL HE COME HOME B CUZ HE IS GOING THROUGH THE WHOLE 9 MONTHS WITH ME....
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Sorry absolutely no way, and I wouldn't even try for atleast a year after to make sure he wouldn't end up going back. And no to even being married to a lifer, what if you were disabled or killed? Who would raise the child, they would then be without any parent to raise them. None worth it to a child to put them through it.
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Old 05-09-2006, 06:23 AM
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My boo is not in for life but he has a lot of year ahead of him I don't have any kids I do want at least 2 even though my babe already has kids but I want use to have kids I will be okay not having him there I'm strong and will be okay
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Since this is MY CHOICE, I will say hell yes!
I'm not going to give any reason why or go into any details but to only say because decision is entirely up to me and my husband and that's all that counts.
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Old 05-09-2006, 07:06 PM
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That would depend on the situation/how long he's going to be gone but for me personally NO.
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Old 05-14-2006, 08:24 AM
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Are we talking by my man or another? Hmm doesnt matter for me though cause i had my tubes tied when i was 21. even if they werent i would say no. i couldnt do it. i have one of my own, custody of my 17 yr old niece, on again off again with his 16 yr old son. i am good on the kid scene. i am totally looking forward to being 36 and my youngest being in college...then it is relax relax relax...i love my children though dont get me wrong
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Old 05-14-2006, 10:21 AM
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I would cause I Love him and because I want to be with only him I do want kids but I just want at least one child I would have a part of him with me always
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I would say no because raising my son on my own now is hard enough I coldn't handle another one. plus I would want him here for every special moment and not miss anything.
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well yeah we did, he came home in jan of 05 and i got pregnate in march of 05 even though we knew there was a chance he would go back in. but when he went in i was 6 months pregnate and it was really hard cuz he wasnt here with me to go through some of the changes i was going through but we did the best we could, and i had my baby alex 12-23-05 and i was really hard i was so sad, but now my baby is home and our son will be 5 months and it going good now i mean if anyone choises to get pregnate while your man is locked up just be prepared cuz it is tough
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Old 05-22-2006, 10:53 PM
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Actually, My Dude Was Sentenced To Twelve Years. I Can Only Imagine Having Kids With Him. Wev'e Had Two Premature Births That Ended In Death, So Having Kids Are More Special For Us. So, I Would Truthfully Say That Yes, I Would Have His Child While He Is In Prison. He Has Done Most Of His Time, Nevertheless, I Am Getting Older, My Clock Is Ticking, And I Still Feel The Same. Yes, Being A Parent Is Hard...for Everyone. I Would Rather Have The Choice To Be A Single Mother For Now Than Not To Have Had The Choice And Suffer More. This Question And The Answers Differ With Different Women And Circumstances, And Having A Baby By The Only Love Of My Life Is Nonnegotiable.
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Please bear with me broken space bar i was pregnant (result of trailor visits)we already have 2together and this past fall had a little boy we been together 17 years he was down for 11 its hard. been having trailor vits for 9 years
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Please bear with me broken space bar and my baby in my arm where in ny run your man? im in the city hes up in buffalo
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I would. I have been pregnant twice by him in the past 2 years. Due to a variety of reasons we or more so I, decided at the time it was best to terminate them. I wouldhave his child, if I were to get pregnant now. He asked me to have his child! I told him if it happens in the next 2 years after that nope, because I am 35 now! Anyway, only time will tell...
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Default If I had the chance to get pregnant.

I wouldn't take that chance because I would want my fiance to be there through the whole pregnancy and once the baby is born we could bond as a family, and in the system that's not going to happen.
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Old 07-14-2006, 03:09 PM
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I would get pregnant in a heartbeat if I had the chance. My husband has a parole hearing in January and he could come home then or he could finish the remainder of his sentence which is 2010. Regardless of how little or how much time he has left I would have his baby right now. I have 2 wonderful step kids ages 12 & 14 who already call me Mom and I love them dearly but I long for us to have a child together.
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Old 07-14-2006, 11:00 PM
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Its like i said earlier on in this thread .. i wouldnt cause i was preg when my husband went in .. and now our daughter is 3 years old and she is saying things like : i wll be good if you go get my daddy" .. its really hard on a child and that is the main reason i wouldnt do it is because I see how hard it is on our daughter now .. and wouldnt want to put another child thru this heart ache
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Old 07-15-2006, 12:27 AM
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I would say no, because it is very hard reising kids on your own I am a single mothe of two and have been for the past 5 years so I know how hard it is to have to work two jobs just to get by and not spend enough time with the kids plus I truely wish that my boyfriend could have been there for my son's first but if I could do it over again I would wish he was there for me.
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Although, for me, I would rationalize that it would be silly to do but I will admit I have fantasized of doing that. Yes but it is hard raising a child alone.
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I know all about being a single mom and doing it on my own with 2 boys and lil gurl now. Its hard but I get by. If I was to continue to be on my feet and I had the chance then I would with Tommy. As silly as it may sound Tommy is doing "18 to life" and first parole hearing isn't til 2022....so there is a chance hes NOT gonna get out anytime soon. We talk about kids all the time and he wants a lil gurl and I already know how hard it would be with out him helping me out here. Thats life tho....would I want it to be different? Heck yea but I can't have that choice in the matter so I would take and deal with what we have NOW. While he doesn't have any children I know he would be a great father cause of how he is to mine. I understand alot of woman wouldn't want their child to have to get to know their own dad thru prison but I know how close me and Tommy are and there wouldn't be a time that our child wouldn't go with me to see em. Tommy grew up visiting his own mother in prison..while I wouldn't prefer it on anyone but I know whats right for me and him and our relationship. I know that the child would deff be loved and taken care of by me no matter if Tommy could be here or not and that is all that matters.....
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i wouldn't want to take away from him the joy of watching his child being born, take their first step, and just grow up in general. plus he's not getting out of "diaper duty" and the not-so-cute things that come along with childrearing that easy! lol! also, i'd be too scared to have a baby and go through pregnancy without my man right there for me to comfort and protect me.
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Just a lil note from a baby that was ** made** while her daddy was in prison , dna was a match and I know he was in jail I have his release papers ** RIP POPS ** I feel as if there are pro's and cons (( parden the pun )) I definately am a BLESSING !!
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I would wait for him to get out and prove himself. We already have one daughter so why put more children through this. If he was a lifer I wouldn't know what to do.
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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO... i want my kidz father to be able to all the good stuff, not just seeing it through pictures... even if he wasnt in there long... i want him there through my cravings and holding my hand when im bringing my kid into the world
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I would and probably will. I love my boyfriend more then anything on earth or in existance. I know he will be gone for a long time possibly til our children are grown and may very well have children of their own but I wouldn't care. I am a strong person and he only makes me stonger and for us to have babies together would just be a amazing wonderful thing. We talk about it all the time. I know he would be in my childs life as much as possible and I know he would love that child more then anyone could ever imagine. Neither of us have any children as of now so it would be a first for both of us and I can't wait for that chance.
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