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View Poll Results: if you had the chance to get pregnant would you?
yes 897 38.37%
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can't decide 95 4.06%
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Old 08-31-2014, 01:21 PM
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For me personally, I wouldnt do it. We have had the conversation & agreed that we would start a family when hes out & settled. I would prefer going through the pregnancy with him by me, only so I can take it out on him when im hormonal Each to their own at the end of the day I can only speak for myself
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Old 01-05-2015, 09:43 PM
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i was just wondering if you had a chance to get prenant while he was still in would you take the oppurtunity or would you wait until he gets out. but if your boyfriend was in there for life and you don't have that option to wait would you just go ahead and get pregnant?
My response was no. For me getting pregnant, having a child and raising a child is something that we should both be there for. I wouldn't want to go through the pregnancy or the experience of having our child alone. I feel as though those are things that he would want to be there for. So even if we had the opportunity I'd wait until he gets out so that we could share those precious moments together as a family.

Luckily my man does have a release date so the part about life doesn't pertain to us.
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Old 01-06-2015, 09:34 AM
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I love this man and he is in there for practically a life sentence. I have two daughters from a previous relationship and he has one from a previous relationship. We have none together. I have thought about what it would be like to have a child with him, as I love him dearly, but knowing he is in there without possibly ever getting out makes me say NO! And that's just me. He loves his daughter and is so active in her life, and he is getting to know my daughters more and starting to play a role in their life. I don't think I could take on a baby right now. I would love to have a child with him, I would just want him to be here to see all the precious moments and create special moments as a family. Actually I made a joke once in reference to sex...but said it as "lets make a baby" and the way he responded was incredible. He had actually responded as if he had thought it over. He feels the same way I do. He said he would never want to do to another child what he has done to his daughter...which is not be able to be present in her life. I finally mustered up the guts to tell him I was joking, but I told him I loved how much thought he put into the answer
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No way. Who would rub my feet, run out for ice cream in the middle of the night, and rush me to the hospital????

Seriously though, we both already have kids and he won't be serving a long sentence. If we decide to have one of our own, I want it to be a magical time for both of us. I want him there every second, or I'll pass on having another one.
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I voted yes because I love my man and he and I have planned on having as many babies as possible and jokes about getting me pregnant was possible on visits (which I know it's not since he's in a federal prison) but if I did I know I would have his families support through out the pregnancy and with rasing the child so I wouldn't mind.
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I would, no hesitation. He's the love of my life. I desperately want a child to be the result of that love. I imagine that being a "single" mom comes with a unique set of difficulties, but financially it would be fine. The child would not lack love or strong male influences. There is certainly an emotional aspect that we would all have to deal with, but as humans we adapt. It's just what we do.

He wants to have another child. Since we are dealing with the tdcj, if he doesn't get out there is no way for him to father my children. In that case we will be using a sperm donor and he will be adopting the child(ren). Only time will tell. Next year we will have a more concrete idea of how we will proceed.
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No, definitely not, but then again we have a daughter together and I have two kids from previous relationships and he has a daughter from a previous relationship, so we have already decided against another baby. But even if we hadn't decided against it, I still would say no
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hello fellow wives,
I would have a baby with my husband regardless of what, you don't know what goes on in jail. God forbid something happens to him & yall have NO kids like think ahead(depending on how long he got). My husband works while he's in there & he send money home. If he wants a child I am going to have one for him. I know its hard being a "single mom" but NOT for all b'cause I was a single mom until I met my husband. I haven't had NO problems taking care of my two girls. I paid for day care & I worked & made sure my kids had be4 I had so it was easy on my part b'cause I don't depend on a man for nothing I gets my very own.
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I agree..... Women are on a biological time clock as to when they can have children.... And many women become single parents willingly and unwillingly everyday.... I don't see an issue with having a baby who has two loving parents whether they are both in the same home or not.... If you are financially able to to make that happen,it could be a blessing for both of you.... Children need to be loved and with all of the other "odd" situations there are in the world as it regards to parentingI don't think this would be a horrible decision...



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My fiancée was with me up until my last month of pregnancy. I had our baby in January and he's locked up right now. I'm doing perfectly fine but that's because he had a short bid. If he was a lifer, then no.
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Many prison do not allow the "special visits" and even if they did, I would not allow myself to get pregnant while my man is in there.

We spoke of making a family before prison and we agreed that we would wait until he comes home, because he would miss out on the entire pregnancy and the birth and a few of the baby's firsts. He was like he has to be around for everything, and how he would feel like he was not even apart of creating the baby if he was away while I was pregnant.

I so cannot wait until that sexy man comes home!! I cannot wait to start our family!!
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No way.

We don't want children anyway.
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Absolutely not.
I'm a single mom now and there is no way I would do it again intentionally.
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Well we don't have family visits here in Michigan so there is no way this could even happen but if we did I would say NO. I would want my husband to be home to help me and be here to support me and his child. We were gonna try when he comes home but I think I talked him out of it. Our daughter graduates next year and this will be our opportunity to finally have the house to our selves and having a baby is not my idea of nice quiet nights together.
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No, I wouldn't want any other guys kid.
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Many prison do not allow the "special visits" and even if they did,

I would not allow myself to get pregnant while my man is in there.

We spoke of making a family before prison and we agreed that we would wait until he comes home,

because he would miss out on the entire pregnancy

and the birth and a few of the baby's firsts.


He was like he has to be around for everything, and how he would feel like he was not even apart of creating the baby if he was away while I was pregnant.

I so cannot wait until that sexy man comes home!! I cannot wait to start our family!!

I'm liking this post and i've read many... I think a year old/and or a lil longer.
aw. chica. i hope all is well with you and may god bless you and your loved one. Love this.
Hugs and Blessings.
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I would. It isn’t really single parenting. Sure they’re not physically there but they can parent and teach the kids lessons that you aren’t capable of teaching. There’s a lot that goes into parenting and if you guys have a solid relationship I dont See why not.
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Mi loved one invoked such to me not too long ago. I know he definitely want to if he is released as planned sooner than later...However, i just "smile" at it all.
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I respect those who sure would. I think it is a sweet thing to think of, til' reality hits, and then it can feel, be quite different having a child while he is in prison.

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However, i think it is a nice thing again to think about/talk about and just sit back at times to wonder how it would be to have a child, kids with your S.O.(significant other) who is in prison/jail etc.al., pero ...(but) i just couldn't do it. Even if he had a very long time in prison,but would just enjoy focusing on "us" and what beauty comes from that, each blessed waking day." hugs and blessings to all. . . adios.
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I would definitely do it. I know it will be difficult but I'm 37 and I would only want a child with David and no one else ��
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Having had our baby right before he got sent in, I'd say no.
I had to bail him out of county so he wouldn't miss the birth because it broke my heart to think I'd have to tell him over a phone call, "Your daughter was born" Him having to wait and wonder what she looks like til I was able to send a picture or visit him.
He was home for 2 short months, back in county and saw him 2 or so months later in prison. It's so hard on him missing the little things. He talks all the time of just wanting to lay her on his chest and fall asleep. Now that we have visits taken away, its even harder on him. The simple fact he cant even hear her little laugh. Half the time I get depressed when she learns something new and I have to tell him because I hear it in his voice that hes upset hes missing it.

Time is definitely harder with a baby.
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kids need a mom and dad.. MARRIAGE the whole package, having babies just to have them don't make sense... you have to raise them, and provide for them.
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