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View Poll Results: if you had the chance to get pregnant would you?
yes 897 38.37%
no 1,039 44.44%
maybe 307 13.13%
can't decide 95 4.06%
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Old 01-19-2008, 10:23 PM
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Well right now I'm seven months pregnant and will be expecting my first born in a matter of weeks... its hard, its emotionally challenging, physically demanding, tiresome, and something meant to be shared by two people who love and care for each other. Im 19 years old, a financial and member service representive (meaning I open new accounts, ira's, audits, etc pretty much manage other people's money..) and Im currently in school..majoring in finance. When we first talked about haveing kids I was all game, in spite of our situation, but then a few months passed and I quickly changed my tune.. but apparently it was in God's master plan for me to have this baby now, cause I got pregnant during my second encounter with a more then serious staph infection... and to top it off I was on birth control. So for several months I ran around not knowing that I was pregnant, still on birth control, and taking pretty heavy medications. When I found out I was terrified and prayed that the man above would take this blessing away...I'm morally and religiously against abortions, but after I found out I began to consider knew things. Knowing that I didnt have the strength to do something like that my only option was to pray about it. Now Antionne on the other hand knew that this was his little Jr. He wanted a boy from the beginning and well he's got one. He is so happy...but I am so depressed. Never in my life have I felt so alone. Im a good person, Im strong, and I have a heart of gold, but this pregnancy has really tested that. Our relationship is struggling not only because of his actions, but because of how he treats me as well. He has other children so he's been through this before, but this one is my first so everything is new to me and old to him...and because it's old to him he feels that all I do is complain... and dont even let me get started about shopping for baby stuff alone... omg I cry everytime... so think twice before you make that final choice...and for ladies that are well brutally honest consider how you come off on here... your words really do hurt sometimes...honestly.

A new life is something that should never be played with or toyed with in any way, a baby needs not only a mother but a father as well... and although Im making it and plenty of other woman do, it doesn't make it right. Patience is a virtue. Don't force something that isn't meant to happen. Let's face it ladies our men did something to end up where they're at... use this time as a time to grow not only as a woman, but in your relationship as well. Focus on each other... so that when the time is right and he's home a baby would be nothing more then an added joy

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Old 01-19-2008, 10:36 PM
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no way. i had my son right after he went in and it's been really hard. i couldn't do it again.
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Old 01-20-2008, 06:58 PM
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Antionne4ever...I see and read your pain, and I do understand, my only child is 19 now... I had him close to my 20th B-day.....it wasn't easy and I did it alone..He is now a freshmen in college and so proud of him. His Dad and I were High school sweethearts and we went our separate ways when my son turned 2...that is why I said "Alone"... Ed, has been in my life since my son has been 9... It has NEVER been easy. My husband and I wish we had a child together, we have had many DISCUSSIONS...regarding this topic..... Especially because my husband is a Lifer...If I can have one with him, I will... I just hope.
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Old 01-20-2008, 07:08 PM
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No way! I don't have kids any I don't ever want to have kids! I think it's great for women who want them. My baby has 4 1/2 years to go, and he
needs me. He has alot of hurt and pain and I have to devote all my time to him having a baby will make things harder. I love my husband with all my heart. But nothing's a guarantee in life, and if I had a baby what if he left me. As far as being with a lifer I couldn't be with a lifer. That would be way to painful. I give the women alot of credit on here who are with lifers there alot stronger than me I couldn't!
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Old 01-21-2008, 12:55 AM
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No I Wouldnt... Even Though I Wanna Have Kids With him And Im Not Gettin Any Younger. I Wouldnt Cause For One No One Would Believe That Its His But F Tha Haterz Like My Man Says But Even More Important Is The Fact That He Wouldnt Be There To Go Through It Wit Me You Know
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Old 01-21-2008, 07:26 AM
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No I wouldn't for serveral reasons, the child would miss out on having his dad around. Two my fiance' loves kids and wouldn't want to miss his child growing up, like how he's missed his own son growing up for the past 6 months. And if he was a lifer then it just wasn't meant for either one of us to have another child.
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Old 01-21-2008, 06:37 PM
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Everyone knows my story I had 2 kids while he's been locked up and now i'm getting a divorce.
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Old 01-25-2008, 12:27 AM
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i just did im due the end of sept 2008
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I said no, he already missed out on the birth and first years of his other two kids, I would never want him to miss out on anymore! I would love to, but its not fair to him. I don't mind doing all the work myself. I've already experienced all the 'firsts' with the kids. He hasn't.
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I would not get pregnant while he was in, I wouldn't want him to miss out on the birth of his child.
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I would without a doubt! I'm 23 now and my man possibly won't be home until I'm 34 - 39 and I love kids and can't wait to have his babies! Yes I have some thoughts that it would be unfair to the child but there is always visitations and I know our families and friends would always help me out if need be. So if a child is brought into a world of love and support I dont see it as damaging. Is there artificial insemination in mass? He's heard some "jail talk" about that and since there's no congical visits in mass I was just curious!!
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Old 01-29-2008, 06:00 PM
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my man is a lifer too, well until execution, if the warden allowed him to freeze sperm and give it to me i totally would do it! I know it is selfish on that child and him but when he's gone i want a part of me and him to remind me of the good times and him of course!
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Old 01-29-2008, 11:57 PM
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i WOULD HAVE TO SAY NO IM PREGO RIGHT NOW AND HE WILL BE DOWN FOR 2MORE YRS AND THE THOUGHT OF DOING IT AGAIN ALONE SCARES ME.
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Old 01-30-2008, 04:59 PM
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No I don;t think I would. Ideally I want my man to be there with me during the pregnancy to experience it all with me, but I know that that can't always happen.
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Old 02-05-2008, 11:15 AM
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Absoutly not! It would make everything way harder on everyone. Plus I want to see if he has changed. I won't know that until he gets out.
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Old 02-06-2008, 05:34 PM
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nope, that would make everything harder . . .
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I def. wouldn't, but also can't really. They don't allow conjugal visits. He's only in until Sept 08 at the latest, so I can def. wait. I will probably wait at least another 5 years after that lol. I want to be completely settled down, but I know those things don't always go as planned.
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i would but it depends. if he was a lifer then i yes i would. we wouldn't have the option of waiting because chances are that he may never come home and you'll always have a part of him with you and there's nothing greater than knowing that your child is a product of your love for each other.
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Old 02-24-2008, 01:38 AM
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I would get pregnant during a congical visit with my husband but with anybody else No way I love my husband and will wait for him.
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No, that is an experience that he shouldn't miss out on.
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Old 02-24-2008, 02:47 AM
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hell no hes asked me but i told him i would be embarresed
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If he was in for longer and I was ready then prolly yes
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Old 02-24-2008, 07:41 PM
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My fiance is in prison for murder and was sentenced to 15 years but hopefully he'll be able to parole out asap. But I guess I'm a little selfish cause i want my babies now. I'm lonely and I want somebody to love and I would hate if he has to do the 15 years I'm 26 years old and I really don't want to be in my 40's when I start havin kids, So if I could have a child by my fiiance now I take that chance!!!
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no i doint think i would .... He wouldn't want to either
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no i wouldnt
i rather wait
we have one kid (15 months) together
i couldnt see myself going through a pregnancy without him...
i would want him there the whole way through
he was alot of help when i was pregnant with our son
besides, i think its too soon to have another kid.. lol
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