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View Poll Results: would you let your mate tke a year to do nothing?
yes why not 22 9.13%
no 3months maybe 51 21.16%
Heck NO! 149 61.83%
not a year but 6months 19 7.88%
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Old 03-10-2012, 07:12 PM
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Mine plans to start college right after his release and bust his ... looking for a job in the meantime. I cant believe he even asked you to sit on his laurels and do nothing for a year. And why would you have babies while he is still inside/. Wait to he can be a full time dad to them, its not fair to them.
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LOL@OlderThanMost. Take a year long vacation on me! With me its different, I have to quit my job. I have to stay home, cuz my husband gets mad if men look at me! So when he comes home, its me on vacation for life! I hope I get super fat!

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Old 03-12-2012, 11:25 PM
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I guess I was somewhat shocked to here Nicholas say to me that the first thing he wanted to do when he got out was to go on vacation...
I almost hit the roof inside! I have been working my butt off for over a year, supporting him our infant daughter and myself fighting to keep my head above water and pay all the bills. God has been very good, but it has been by no means easy! Nicholas left with the bank account at -0 so I had to start from nothing. I do understand that he will need time to readjust and all, I just hope e doesn't get stressed out about the burden of a family, finding a job, ect. It was hard enough before he went away. I know the best thing I can do for him is just to be patient, but if any of you ladies have an idea or two about what else I can do to help him settle in ( besides the obvious bedroom time ...) I'd appreciate your thoughts... I new to all of this!

And yes, I am trying to set a little aside as I can so that he can go to the beach... but it will probably just be a week or 2
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Not a chance in hell would I allow that nor would my husband want that. He wants a week to spend with our family relaxing then he'll be back to providing for our family, it's all he wants to do and he hates that he can't now.
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I have 10yrs till he's home so I definitely have my plan I'm studying to a beautician and I'll b going to school for EMT. All I have to do is tell my MIL about this year off and she'll put a end to it lol just don't want to involve her in this
I wouldn't bother getting her involved. I am guessing he will be sick of doing nothing after 10 years. My man talks about his future career and it changes a lot. Most of it I think is idle thoughts. I wouldn't put too much weight on this if he is still 10 years to go.
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Old 02-15-2016, 07:06 PM
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I think a period of readjustment is necessary. At the same time, I wouldn't marry a man who was content to do nothing for an extended period of time, when he could be taking care of his family. Caveman can't sit around and do nothing. He will most likely be working from home, though. Being with me and littles is the way he wants to get reacclimated to a society he's forgotten.
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Wow.. Heck No! Isn't a man's responsibility to provide for his wife and kids?? I'm not saying that a woman doesn't work, but a woman do all the work and a man sit at home on his ass all day?? No way! You'd be better off single with kids than to adopt an oversize child and another mouth to feed. Jmo
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Ha! For reals! I remember this one from awhile back but didn't really say much back then. I thought this was the funniest but most out of touch thing ever. I know my husband worries sometimes he wont find work. I've told him if he doesn't he can help me til be does. But if he actually asked for a year off to not even try? That right there says way to much. How many of us would love to take a year off and not worry about bills paid or the work/business ran. And he wants her to pop out 3 kids on top of that? I'm to much of a realist. If be scared shitless and run for the hills if I heard that coming at me.
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No way. Get to work buddy. Doing nothing but doing your time in prison. You can relax about a month.
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No way! Readjusting means learning how to live in your new surroundings! You cannot learn how to live in your new surroundings by NOT engaging in normal activity in those surroundings! Too many people think it is okay to "chill"! Unacceptable! All adults need to be productive and responsible members of society! Period! As a side note, he COULD be a "house husband" and still be a productive and responsible member of society. If you negotiate that with him, he needs to take care of the home, cook, clean, shop, care for children, etc.!!!! Hold him accountable!
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A lot of these replies are hysterical but spot on at the same time!!! What was he thinking even proposing that.
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My vote is totally off of what I wanna actually say.....oops. I feel like it depends.

In terms of someone in prison? MAYBE a month. Jail? No. Mine wants to get out an immediately get back to work. Technically he's gonna have two weeks of relaxing cause it takes at least two weeks for places to get all the paperwork done for hiring someone. Unless he goes back to cab driving, but we'll see. He said, get me out so I can work and get rings! LOL. He's determined, always has been! But he knows my income isn't enough for both us, even if I get a job it has to be PT, cause my SSI.
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Besides being irresponsible, exactly what does "taking time off" mean?

IMO, he's already had enough time off from having to deal with every day life out here in the real world. Keeping food in the cupboards, a roof over my head, paying the bills, doctors' appointments, kids, pets, nasty landlord and neighbors, mowing the freakin' yard and washing dishes . . . you get the idea.

No fn way. If he wants to take any "time off" there's zero guarantee that I'd still be here if/when he decides to be an adult.

If anyone needs "time off" it's the out-mates.
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I'm in no hurry to rush my husband into doing anything to be honest. I make enough money to support the both of us until he's ready. I know he won't take any longer then a few months. He Will do what makes him feel comfortable and I'm ok with that.
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He could have the rest of his life to do nothing ..but not on my dime and not in my home..i didn't get a year off to adjust to any of the traumatic situations I've lived through and neither does he..it takes a little time to fund a job and get hired..thats all the time he gets..
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Said it better than me, you go girl do ya thang.
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He told me once he's released he wants to get his life together and get back on track. He wants to work..I really do think he'll work two jobs if need be! He wants to get and have his own everything. I'm all for it! He's not the type to want to take a 1 year break after being released. He has way too many plans/goals going on for himself. I'm very proud of him. He's already getting things in order before he's released. I've been there the entire time and others have help him. He has a plan and have loads of goals he wants to accomplish when he comes home for good. He's hard working and goal driven.
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