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Old 05-20-2019, 04:17 PM
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I'm really trying to understand this whole prison thing. I get the communication piece and the establishment of a routine and that it's important for their day to day peace of mind. I keep hearing that I'll never understand what it's like and that being a bitch is the only way she survives. She also says she's in love with me but won't tell her parents, friends or anyone else until she gets released. She says she wants to see their reaction in person not via a video visit or on a call? I'm frustrated, scared and anxious because I simply don't understand. Am I the only one?
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Old 05-20-2019, 04:27 PM
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no, I don't understand either....the part about keeping you a secret. How long until she gets out and how long have you known her? What about your needs?
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How she thinks she needs to act to get by in prison has absolutely nothing to do with your relationship. Be careful, trust but verify. It definitely doesn't sound like she is as involved as you are.
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I guess I would have a few questions before I would even attempt to answer this one.


1.) How long have you been together?


2.) How much time has she been down and how much time does she have left to go?


3.) When you say "being a bitch" what, exactly, does that mean?


There MIGHT be some red flags here, but I would want to know answers to those questions first.


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She goes before the board on June 12. She's been there a little over a year. Tells me she wants to see their reaction when she tells them. Now on top of that an old friend of hers has told her that he's in love with her also, and she doesn't want to tell him about her feelings for me because her mom told her to not break his heart while he's in????
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I've known her for about 2 years now. Met her when she was in a drug and prostitution life.

She's been in a little over a year and goes to the board on June 12. Total of a ten year sentence.

She comes off being tough. Grew up in a "hood", her words not mine and feels that by being a bitch as she calls it she is protecting herself while she's in there
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Thanks for the reply. She says she's in love with me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me. She is exceptionally jealous if I even mention talking to another woman either inside or outside of the prison system. It's been quite confusing. She calls several times a day, I send messages and money to her, which is why I'm wondering if I'm only getting played at the end of all of this
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Does this make you happy? This chaos?
If she can't be decent to you now while you are sending her money, how do you think she'll treat you when she doesn't need you.
Listen to your inner voice.
It's giving you a signal.
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