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Old 03-12-2011, 02:53 PM
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Question Is your man incarcerated in another state than the one you live in?

I was just wondering how this might effect how often you visit, and when you do if it's harder to say goodbye at the end of the visit.

I'm flying to Michigan for my first visit to see my man next Friday. I'll see him Friday (fresh off the plane...just couldn't wait) and Saturday, but due to some drama in his family I might not get to see him again during my vacation like he and I hoped. I know I'll cry when I leave that day because I'm not sure if I'll get to come back later during the week and who knows when I'll be able to come back to Michigan next.

Background to our story: I grew up in Michigan, so I still have friends there, he's there (I met him when I was 14), and his family is there (I'm close with his mom and his sister). My point is that I'm not just going to Michigan to see him, but he was my motivation behind the trip. Where I will be staying for a majority of the trip is 3 hours away from where he is. I just found out his sister was denied visitation, but his mom was approved and I have a feeling she is going to use not having a car as an excuse. Also, no one has gone to see him since he left county jail more than a year ago. He wants me to visit him again before I leave, but by that time I will have already gone above and beyond to see him in the first place. I was really depending on his mom and sister to be my way.
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Old 03-12-2011, 02:57 PM
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My guy was in CA and I am in NY. For the three years he was in I only got to fly out there once to see him. It was a great weekend we visited both days. He never had any other visitors cause his mom was not able to make the drive cause she was sick and then passed away and no one would take his kids to see him (they probably would not of been able to be approved anyway) I wanted to go out more but he did not want me to spend that kind of money for just a couple of days. He told me to save my vacation time and money so I can be there longer when I flew out there to pick him up. Yes saying good bye was hard but I knew we had our letters and calls and that made it a little easier.
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Yes. He is in California and I am in Maryland. It is very costly for me to go there, $2000. So when I have gone, I always made sure I went when there was a Federal Holiday. That way I got to visit him 4 days instead of 3.
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My man is in N.C. and I am in Ohio so no visits for us cos I can't afford it.And altho I am planning a move to N.C. at the end of the year when he gets out,he said I still won't be able to visit as he got mixed up in some gang activity when he first went in 7 years ago.I was shocked when he told me that and disappointed because I wanted to visit him before he got out.But it's not gonna happen.Letters (daily) and calls will have to do.
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Old 03-12-2011, 04:09 PM
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Baby is in South Dakota and I'm in Chicago. As soon as he gets sentenced and transferred, I'll be making that 10 hour drive to see him... I CANNOT wait!!
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Well I am in a different country, in Europe, and he is in Illinois. So that our visits are not so often. I am going to see him soon, will be the 2nd time, my last visit was a year ago. So, once a year and if we are lucky twice, will be the most we can visit. Good thing is we get extended visits, so 4 hours a day times 4 for each of the 2 months, that's not all that bad then :-)
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We're both in cali, thank god.! So far i only see him once a month, but july 1st im moving to the same city. So visits every weekend! <3
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My hubby is in VA, and I am in TN. Right now he is in a regional jail, if and when he gets transfered I hope its close by not some of the 6 hour away ones.
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Well I am in a different country, in Europe, and he is in Illinois. So that our visits are not so often. I am going to see him soon, will be the 2nd time, my last visit was a year ago. So, once a year and if we are lucky twice, will be the most we can visit. Good thing is we get extended visits, so 4 hours a day times 4 for each of the 2 months, that's not all that bad then :-)
I admire your dedication! Cross-world trip is a totally different obstacle! I applaud you for that. He's lucky to have you.

I think when people have to travel from long distances it really further reiterates the fact that you really love them...not only does traveling cost money, but it takes one special person to make us go through those hurdles for them!
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My baby is in Texas and I am in Ontario, Canada. I haven't been able to visit him yet. Texas is 2,000 miles from me and about $1000 flight. We don't get phone calls anymore so we have to rely on the mail. I do know this though, no distance, no matter how great will come between my husband and I because in the end we love each other and nothing else matters.
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omg my man and I just got back together after beinbg seperated for 6 yrs. I have not laid eyes on him in 4 yrs. He is incarcerated 18 miles from where i live but because of a rioit he was involved in he is in the hole. I cant visit him. He is confinded to quarters... Till god knows when. Here i have the love of my life back in my world... Close in distance and i cant see him. I am going nuts i miss him so much and he cant call me... I would do anything to hear his voice... To look into his eyes... I am so depressed and i know he is too. My poor baby. I love u pete
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My husband is in mississippi and I'm in Cali. He's an outta state transfer. I havent been able to visit him yet but hopefully by the end of this year. He has 2 yrs left so I'll probably go out there only like twice. I miss him sooo much I wish I could go see him already!
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My husband is in Pittsburgh and I live in North Carolina. He lived here with me for years before being extradited back in '07. I went 2 years without seeing him except for driving up with family for his sentencing. I got to drive up in '09 for my birthday weekend, BUt now he is in a halfway house as of June'10 and I have been to visit almost every month. I have only driven once so he could see our kids, but the rest of the time I fly and have to stay in a $120.00 a night hotel. I just got back from a 4 day visit with him 2 weeks ago. He isn't able to stay at my hotel but he gets 16 hour passes daily to come up to the hotel and we get 6 hours of outing time, plus the hotel has an indoor pool, jacuzzi, and fitness center and free breakfast. We have made a tradition the first night that I am there we order pizza and wings! We get to be with each other as husband and wife and spend time together! I waited 3 years for this and the best part is he is aproling in June and transferring back to NC!!!!! I had never flown in a plane before but the things you do for love... and I traveled alone, but it's worth every minute in the air and on the road. Sorry to go on and on but I am happy!!!!!!!!!
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Well I traveled from Chicago to Louisana. I recently relocated to Minnesota so now I will be traveling from Minnesota to Louisana. I got two months before my next visit.
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Mine is in Texas and I am in Maryland. The first year we didn't visit at all, the second year I was able to fly out there every 3 months. Last year I only managed to get out there twice, and this year I don't know if I'll be able to visit at all with the way flight prices are. We get extended visits since I'm coming so far, but his unit has begun denying them due to understaffing. I'm not sure a flight out there would be worth it for a single 2hr visit.. I miss him so much though
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I live in Michigan and my mans locked up in a fed prison in Pa. I really want to go see him but I cant afford to make the trip. Hopefully I can make it to see him soon, because I miss him so much!!!!
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i live in montana and he is in georgia i have not been able to visit but the good news is he will be out in 4 month and to mexico we go cantwait kinda nervous we have never meet in person we onlu know each other through calls letters and pix but he deserves the best y se lo va a dar i speak to his family all thetime so i feel we know each other well just remember the time will come sooner then you think to be close to your man even when itfeels so far away
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I live in NC and my husband is in Florida. It is very, very hard not being able to see him. In 1 yr I have only been able to see him one time. I still have 2yrs to go. This really sucks.
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I live in NC and my husband is in Florida. It is very, very hard not being able to see him. In 1 yr I have only been able to see him one time. I still have 2yrs to go. This really sucks.
Let's countdown together girl, I've only got 2 years left too! If we can get through this then we can get through anything. Cross country visits are hard to come by, but our love isn't...and that's all that matters.
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Mine is in another state, 400 miles/7 hours. He can be transferred to my state but He will still be fairly far away 250 miles/4 hours. A bit of a pain in the butt to drive but we are lucky to get to visit 3 days in a row/7 hours each day.
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My baby is in Texas and I am in Ontario, Canada. I haven't been able to visit him yet. Texas is 2,000 miles from me and about $1000 flight. We don't get phone calls anymore so we have to rely on the mail. I do know this though, no distance, no matter how great will come between my husband and I because in the end we love each other and nothing else matters.
My husband is in Texas and I am in Wisconsin I understand... I'm in the same boat. I lived in Texas my whole life and just moved here last year. I am going to visit in June!! Texas only gives you 4 hours for 2 days and then if your there longer you just get regular visit for remainder of the trip. In 2 years I'm moving back so he can parole to our home! What prison is your man in?
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I am in Canada and he is in Texas, thats about 48 hours drive. When will the teleportation machine is going to be invented? Please God make it happen !!!
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I have my man in Washington, not to far away but still far enough and my brother in oregon
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Has anyone else been noticing how the "yes" and "no" votes have pretty much been neck and neck? Talk about not feeling alone. I really thought I was one of the minority who went through this. Crazy me!
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My beloved one is in Colorado and I'm in Arizona. He will probably be shipped back to Alaska next year when their new facility opens which will make it harder to visit but such is life. I will be visiting this summer if all goes well!
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