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Old 03-10-2008, 10:57 PM
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I KNOW MAIL MEANS ALOT TO INMATES... BUT I WANTED TO KNOW FROM THE WORD OF AN EX-CON WHAT DOES MAIL MEAN TO YOU? AND CAN THERE EVER BE TOOOOOOOOOO MUCH MAIL?
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I have been wondering this same thing myself.
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Old 11-25-2011, 10:10 PM
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Not an ex con but I can tell you what my husband says. I write once or twice a week and jpay daily. When he starts giving me a hard time about it and I threaten to stop its "no baby, I love getting mail". So my guess would be there's no such thing as too much.
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I also wondered about that one so the easiest way to find out was to ask my bf if he ever thought something along the lines of "oh no not another letter from her" haha and he replied that everytime his name is called out the first thing that goes through his mind is "hell yeah my baby wrote me!" so he assured me "just keep them coming because no matter how my day went thay always bring the biggest smile on my face....
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my honey tells me that every day he waits at his door at mail call, and when there is nothing he gets down in the dumps about it... of course the next day he gets two or maybe even three letters... but he stands there, KNOWING that i have written every day... that makes me feel good... i go through periods where i will send out my letter in the morning, and then waste a stamp sending out a funny email i got that i printed for him by lunch... i dont think there is any way that too much mail is possible...
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Don't think there will ever be a such thing ass too much mail..my boyfriend think one letter a week is not enough..lol..so I make sure he has at least two or even sometime three letters a week..he said my letters set the tone for his whole week sometimes..oh and pics help a lot to..he said he feels a connection to the "outside" world when I send him pics
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We talk everyday but Thursday (he's got counseling that day), but I still send out at least on card and one letter each week. I didn't realize how much the mail meant to him until he told me on the phone the other day that he had been rereading a letter I wrote him 3 years ago. And he wanted to to talk about it!
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Who does the mail call, staff or inmates ? Are letters sure to get to the inmate ?
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My bf said that all the guys hope for mail but not all of them get it. It's a big deal when they get a letter and the more the better. They even tease each other about who gets the most.
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I've asked this question before and like now, it seems that no former inmates actually answer. I make sure I get out at least two letters every week to my MWI, but he never really says much about how he feels about them. Sometimes I wonder if I really make a difference in his life by writing as much as I do. But I keep writing and look in my mostly empty mail box hoping to see his writing on an envelope.
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I send mine 5 Jpays a week and 2 or 3 letters or cards. He always tell how happy he is for them, in the unit he was before he was the only one with that much mail, now in this unit I dont know.
I think you can not write too much to keep his spirit up, but not everybody is the same.
Oh I get my daily letters too, normal 5 a week and even when the letter I get are short, I know he took the time to show me his love.
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Old 12-16-2011, 10:28 AM
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I've asked this question before and like now, it seems that no former inmates actually answer. I make sure I get out at least two letters every week to my MWI, but he never really says much about how he feels about them. Sometimes I wonder if I really make a difference in his life by writing as much as I do. But I keep writing and look in my mostly empty mail box hoping to see his writing on an envelope.

This would be a red flag to me. Most inmates / pen pals are eager to share. His lack of interest would be very concerning. My advice would be to nip in the bud or drop him. You deserve more than what you're getting from this.
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tiime to chime in, as an ex-inmate who only got a total of 5 letters in 10 months trust me letters and any mail counts. I wish I had more, but it's a little late to dwell upon that and i had to remember even though I was in there, life goes on on the outside

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This would be a red flag to me. Most inmates / pen pals are eager to share. His lack of interest would be very concerning. My advice would be to nip in the bud or drop him. You deserve more than what you're getting from this.

Not necessarily. My MWI, once we got phone calls, just doesn't write. He likes getting cards and letters, and I like writing, but he much prefers to call me. He hates writing. He also wants to be able to tell me face-to-face about the majority of his past. We've talked some about it over the phone, he's written some of it, but he wants to be able to just kick it with me for hours on end and answer every question I have. So for most of his bid we've just worked on functioning as a couple with the day-to-day stuff. Each relationship is different. What your saying may very well be a red flag in some cases...but he knows his MWI and the whole story.
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I know from experience its one of the highlights of your day when your locked up . Most of the time its the only thing to look forward 2. No mail sucks and day after day of no mail makes you feel forgotten!!!!

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This would be a red flag to me. Most inmates / pen pals are eager to share. His lack of interest would be very concerning. My advice would be to nip in the bud or drop him. You deserve more than what you're getting from this.

I could never drop him. I was just remined by a mutual friend that sometimes in the inside they can become rather 'self-absorbed' and just exist in the here and now. Just part of the life I chose. He does send a short email sevral times a week and calls whenever he can. Just to hear his voice and his laugh make it all worth while.
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I did time in Federal Prison, and there's nothing more valuable to an inmate than mail. Mail is worth more than gold. You see, any inmate's worst fear is to be forgotten by society. Once you are there you are so isolated from the world that you think people will forget about you and that your life is meaningless.. the world moves on without you. Its just the way these places make you feel. Mail helps you stay in contact with the free world and it makes you feel like someone still. It gives you hope. There's NEVER too much mail. Gifts like books, cards, drawings, magazines, etc.. they mean a lot.

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I always wondered what they feel when the see a letter from u you know all thier thoughts and feelings when they see your name on that envelope
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I always wondered what they feel when the see a letter from u you know all thier thoughts and feelings when they see your name on that envelope
It makes you feel very happy!
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I know mail means the world to my man, if it takes longer than it should to get to him he gets pissed because he looks forward to it. The crazy part about doing time with your man though (for me any ways) is I get just as excited for his mail, and just as mad if the mail man wants to take his sweet time that day. We both enjoy our phone calls but, we really spill our heart and soul via the mail.
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It means everything to them according to my man. Like someone else said, their biggest fear is being forgotten. When they get mail, it's a window into the free world.
My man loves to write as much as I do, if not more. Since we started writing 2 yrs ago, we have written 2-5 times a week sometimes more or less. He hasn't ever stopped being excited for mail call, so I know there is no such thing as TOO MUCH mail.
I'm expecting 7 envelopes on Monday from him, he's sending me 30 + pics of his family, I can't wait!! I love mail days!!
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Who does the mail call, staff or inmates ? Are letters sure to get to the inmate ?
Good ass question but I'm almost positive inmates don't do the mail call..seems they wouldn't give them the power!
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Thanks whoever created this thread it helps but like someone said it depends on the person but majority seems to say that they enjoy the mail..I may just enjoy getting their letters as much as they get mines..running to the door when the mail arrives wondering if they wrote or received my letter and still checking the mail even though I just sent the letter off the day before ...
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when J was locked up before, he was in for 2 years. He didn't get one single letter and not one person to visit. Broke my heart.

My question to those who have been in and are now out..what do inmates think of new people that writing asking to be penpals?
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