Sexy pictures: Weight gain & not feeling comfortable w/self

[Mels5]

So random venting but my husband has always asked me for sexy pictures but recently I gained about 20 pounds and don't feel comfortable with myself but he doesn't get that his response is that i still look good blah blah. I want to send him some but i just can't bring myself to take them I just don't like how i look at the moment. Anyone experience this & how do you deal with it.

[maytayah]

I dont have a perfect body by any means but I know my husband loves my curves. I take sexy pics for him and I only ever do what I feel comfortable with.
Your man loves you and so he will like whatever you send but it important you do whats in your comfort zone and what you will feel comfortable with others seeing,

[408MoonGem]

Sexy is what you make of it. If you feel sexy, you're sexy!
My suggestion is to run, do cardio and or workout with weights for 5-6 days, your body will begin to release the good and happy chemicals throughout your body and brain, you'll feel sex, trust me, try it... then put on some sexy gear and pose, for yourself, in a mirror or just walk around your home / bedroom... take a few photos and select your most favorite shots.

I have gained weight too, my most frustrating area are stomach and thighs, so I target to work those areas out and in sexy gear I take shots that are sexy, but don't highlight the areas which I'm unconformable with.

I strongly believe that keeping our men happy through these types of photos is massive deal - we wound never deprive a man over our body simply because we aren't happy with it, it's not fair to our loved ones.

[Marie_blank]

It’s all about the angles. I too gained about 15 pounds and not in the right spots lol. So when I send my boyfriend pictures I just do angles that work for me. You may have to take quit a few but trust me you will find a couple that come out perfect.

[keywii]

Certain clothes will make you look slim, and dark colors is another choice to go with as well. Those two and depending on the angle/pose you do can make a huge difference. I would say try on some clothes and practice the angle/pose in the mirror. Once you get the pose/angle that you like take your pictures.

[408MoonGem]

Originally Posted by 408MoonGem

your body will begin to release the good and happy chemicals throughout your body and brain, you'll feel sex,

Oh lawrie! I meant * sexy *
Indeed, angle is huge!! try it out, have some cam fun.

[Ladybug98]

Yandy & adore me has some really nice stuff & especially if your plus ( not saying you are ). I hate my stomach especially after my car crash but my bf is helping build back my confidence so I take some sexy pics here & there

[Trissl58]

I researched photographers information on how to shoot intimate pictures of curvy chubby women (believe me, under my clothes isn't pretty either, and tummy is swollen... which bothers me, but it doesn't bother him). Anyhow, I got a lot of good tips from them, then I also researched poses. What I do is use my cell phone camera and I pose in front of my mirror. Then I take shots and look at the them and determine which ones I like better or what I can do better to make them different, and I re-shoot as many times as necessary until I get a couple that are really good. Then I go to Walmart and print out the good ones and send those. On one picture, I turned sideways in the bathroom mirror, covered my tummy but allowed some boob exposure, but not the part I'm not allowed to show, and that turned out really sexy. Another really sexy pose, especially if you are dressed up sexy, is lie on your tummy or side on the bed, adjust until you like it...or prop heels up on the wall. Cool stuff like that. It really helps me if I smile and have curls in my hair, and just pretend I'm not fat.

[AnieLove56]

I have yet to send sexy photos. I was quite hesitant to send any type of full body shot WITH clothes on as I do not like how I look. He didn't care. He was like you're beautiful. So now, I'm working on getting some sexy poses and gonna send some that he can enjoy. Just have to hope he won't share with his cohabitatant.

[Peacefinder]

Originally Posted by AnieLove56

I have yet to send sexy photos. I was quite hesitant to send any type of full body shot WITH clothes on as I do not like how I look. He didn't care. He was like you're beautiful. So now, I'm working on getting some sexy poses and gonna send some that he can enjoy. Just have to hope he won't share with his cohabitatant.

Every woman is beautiful. We all have some good, some not so good features. Focus on your positive. I guarantee you are beautiful.

I used to have a horrible body image problem. Sometimes I still struggle. I am far from perfect, but my man thinks I'm beautiful. He sees past my imperfections.

It took me a long time to send sexy pictures. I sent them for his birthday in July. I was amazed how good they actually turned out. I tried a lot of positions, and different filter colors. I think black and white photos look super sexy.

[AnieLove56]

Birthday is not a bad idea. His is in December, so maybe I can get a little Mrs Clause outfit and take some photos. Work his imagination just a little.

[PapaSmurf]

If you are worried about it, why not lose the weight?
Most women lose weight fast, especially through diet and excersize.
Let him know what he is missing

[Peacefinder]

Originally Posted by AnieLove56

Birthday is not a bad idea. His is in December, so maybe I can get a little Mrs Clause outfit and take some photos. Work his imagination just a little.

That sounds awesome. He will love it!

[AnieLove56]

Originally Posted by PapaSmurf

If you are worried about it, why not lose the weight?
Most women lose weight fast, especially through diet and excersize.
Let him know what he is missing

I need the motivation to lose it. My mental health isn't exactly 100% these days and I have almost no motivation for anything. School, work, working out. As soon as I get a job again, I should be okay. But yes, I want to be thinner when I go visit him too.

[PapaSmurf]

I understand,
Motivation is always key.
A lot of times if you join a class the class becomes your motivation.
Working out in general promotes mental health and of course the physical health as well.
Maybe watch some inspiring youtube body transformation videos.
Those keep me motivated.

[AnieLove56]

I also need to stop drinking soda. That is my major major downfall. I don't eat sweets, hardly do any fast food, it's the soda.

[Ricoluv29]

After my 3rd child and a major depressive stage my body is not ready for the camera.
I haven't sent him regular pics of my self cause of the weight issue and it really started to bother him so I told him my weight issue. Eventually, I sucked it up and sent him a side view.
It helped because his response was more than I would have thought. He uplifted me, encouraged me to get to working out and said when he gets home hes going help me reach my goals. He now tells me what workout I should do each day and suggests diets. Then he goes and says "Send some ass pics" Lol. So I was thinking of how and one thought was a bubble bath. Hide what I consider the ugly and just show him the goods.

Maybe find someone to do a boudoir photo shoot. They will know all the right angles.

[AnieLove56]

Originally Posted by Ricoluv29

After my 3rd child and a major depressive stage my body is not ready for the camera.
I haven't sent him regular pics of my self cause of the weight issue and it really started to bother him so I told him my weight issue. Eventually, I sucked it up and sent him a side view.
It helped because his response was more than I would have thought. He uplifted me, encouraged me to get to working out and said when he gets home hes going help me reach my goals. He now tells me what workout I should do each day and suggests diets. Then he goes and says "Send some ass pics" Lol. So I was thinking of how and one thought was a bubble bath. Hide what I consider the ugly and just show him the goods.

Maybe find someone to do a boudoir photo shoot. They will know all the right angles.

So I'm a photographer and I do boudoir shoots all the time!

Never thought to do a bubble bath photo. I kinda like that idea.

[Ricoluv29]

Originally Posted by AnieLove56

So I'm a photographer and I do boudoir shoots all the time!

Never thought to do a bubble bath photo. I kinda like that idea.

Well whenever I visit your area again, I'll contact you Lol.

[Marseille]

Sexy is often more about what you DON’T show. Google “Mormon bubble porn” and see how your mind tricks you. Take some pictures and cover up what bothers you with something flowy and romantic... sexy pose and let him fill in the blanks.

Seriously... it’s AMAZING how sexy you can feel in something flowing and diaphanous. If you love your legs and hate your belly, try a chiffon babydoll with an empire waist and do an Ariana Grande pose... you know what I mean! If you have great cleavage but your upper arms aren’t toned, find a beautiful peignoir and a push-up bra. You can tie it just right in front to cover what you want to hide.

[AnieLove56]

Originally Posted by Ricoluv29

Well whenever I visit your area again, I'll contact you Lol.

I'm in Northern. California! So yes if you're ever up this way. Let me know.

[Ricoluv29]

Originally Posted by AnieLove56

I'm in Northern. California! So yes if you're ever up this way. Let me know.

Yeah, I saw your in the bay area my sister lives in Grass Valley and when I visit we go to SF

[AnieLove56]

Originally Posted by Ricoluv29

Yeah, I saw your in the bay area my sister lives in Grass Valley and when I visit we go to SF

I'm actually in Sacramento. But still close enough to the Bay Area. Although closer to Grass Valley. I'm like an hour from GV.

[jessesgirl1111]

Originally Posted by AnieLove56

So I'm a photographer and I do boudoir shoots all the time!

Never thought to do a bubble bath photo. I kinda like that idea.

I did a bubble bath shoot on a white bodysuit with my camera self timer! The pictures came out so good!

[AnieLove56]

I recently took some photos after a shower. Had the cute little panties on, laid on my stomach and shot over my shoulder so you saw my bare back, my legs and just enough bum. He enjoyed that one as he so told me.