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Old 09-02-2018, 03:36 PM
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Default 37 wks pregnant & he’s refused bail: Dealing w/newborn & him in jail?

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I donít think reality has hit. Friday morning we had a family. Friday night he was refused bail, likely to get 3-4 years.

I donít know what to do. I still think heís coming home. The only reason I wake up is knowing I have a little person to support. I honestly donít know what to do. Do I tell my doctors knowing Iíll probably lose it at one stage? How do you deal with a newborn and a Dad in jail?
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Hey girl,
I’ve gone through it I went my entire pregnancy and birth alone. The hardest time ever to deal with, I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone. Just keep the faith and just hope he’s there.

Best of luck to you.
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Stay strong for you and your pregnancy. It won't be easy, but it will end he will come home again.
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You have to be strong for your children. There is nothing you can do about him being in jail. He did this not you so don't let it stress you out. It is what it is. Take one day at a time and stay strong.
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I’ve personally never been in your position but honestly the only thing you can do is do your best to stay strong and just focus on taking care of your baby. The biggest thing is accepting the fact that you can’t change the situation :/
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Well that stinks.
Hopefully you have family (mom/dad/sibs) who can help you thru the first part of delivery and bringing baby home.
Not ideal but its better than being alone.
Im sorry you are going thru this.
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As others have said you need to take care of yourself and your baby . What will be will be with him you didnít put him there and you canít bring him home. Get all the support you can from family and friends.
You and your baby will be fine
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I donít think reality has hit. Friday morning we had a family. Friday night he was refused bail, likely to get 3-4 years.

I donít know what to do. I still think heís coming home. The only reason I wake up is knowing I have a little person to support. I honestly donít know what to do. Do I tell my doctors knowing Iíll probably lose it at one stage? How do you deal with a newborn and a Dad in jail?

Do you have a support system outside of your significant other? I was about 3 1/2 months pregnant when my daughter's father was arrested. I moved home with my Mother and it was such a huge help having her around. It was still scary, thinking about how I was doing this "all on my own."


As it has been mentioned, focus on you and your baby. The stress isn't good, pre or post birth!
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Millions of women get up every morning and mom all by themselves, day after day. You’ll be fine and honestly, it’s not even that hard especially if he was doing foolish things (like whatever landed him in jail). There’s tough moments, but there’s tough moments even with a partner. Ask for the help you need when you need it, set your jaw and get to it. You’ll be fine.
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Oh man at 37 weeks pregnant that is a huge blow. Just go one day at a time of you aren’t working now you can’t really start until after you recover from child birth. Try and relax now if he was your source of income start finding whatever services are available to you and your child. You are your child’s only means of survival now but you can do it. There are many services for a mother and newborn and hopefully you have family support that would be the best options good luck you will be fine just take it step by step
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Thank you all for your kinds words.

I do thankfully have a great family and his too.

I think I’m in that stage where I believe he will just be home when I get there.

The charge is driving related. He has another chance of bail but I don’t have my hopes up at all.
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