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View Poll Results: IF YOUR BOYFRIEND OR HUSBAND GOT LIFE W/ NO CHANCE OF PAROLE WOULD U STICK AROUND?
YES 100% 156 41.16%
I'D STILL TRY TO VISIT SEND MONEY OR WRITE BUT I WOULD START MY SEARCH FOR SOMEONE NEW 156 41.16%
NO I STILL HAVE SO MUCH OF MY LIFE AHEAD OF ME 67 17.68%
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Old 05-05-2014, 06:04 AM
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well he's got life w/ parole right now so really no telling when actually he'll be coming home and I'm staying by his side.

there are some things that I have debated over like if I wanted to have more children and when I'm hitting 50 and up could I still live this lifestyle ... All I really know is today I'm staying and waiting that I love him and he makes me happy and I know he'll forever be in my life....
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I love my bf but no this will be his 5th yr down with 7 more to go, he already has a long-term sentence and to get life I couldn't do that knowing he will never come home I can't do it, I pray we will never have to go through that.
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He is currently LWOP and I'm here. At one point all his appeals were exhausted so that was it end of story this is how our life would play out. But there are miracles that happen everyday, he is now back in the courts. However it goes I'm here now and I'll be there then. And on the subject of sex, yes I am faithful to him. Would he understand if I wasnt. ... Probably but I don't feel the need to take us there, we've got enough challenges to overcome without adding more to it.
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I don't know what hubby is going to get at this point, but whenever he is locked up-I still have a full life, so with the only part of him not being able to physically be here and enjoy life with me-really it would be his loss, but I wouldn't leave him. I would stay, but since I am the one out here, I would still be living a wonderful life.
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I walked into the life sentence. I cant imagine losing him again so yes I will be here. I have no delusions that it will be easy. Being on here is a blessing because of all the stories and support. I know we will be ok....funny enough my challenge here isnt my commitment issues there his. Hes been hurt iver the years enough to be cautious. So far ive proven what I had to to him and we are finally there....in that comfy place of being eachothers
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I am 100% although I am older (51) than a lot of people on here and I've lived my life to the full so perhaps it's easier for me to wait. I also think it is helping my other half because he knows that
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Sure can for his irreplace able, i look at it this way, i cant just go up into a drive thru or a or website and order him, my mans parole date is looking at 2074. hes ben down 7 years. but he knows and has told me promise are and can be broken, i may just be saying what im saying cause of how im feeling but seriously i sure can, without a doubt and what ever it takes to be closer to him i will do. He still trying to fight his case due to he was a minor and the very loose gun laws in his state. But theres always hope! i'v heard of it happening and people getting lighter sentences retrials so we stay in believing as corrupt as the system is. we still believe. ALWAYS
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Ive had 2 really bad marriages and wasn't even thinking about a relationship and then I met my husband and it was almost like a fairy tale. I have waited 47 years to find him and I can and would wait an eternity for him. Hes the love of my life.
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I feel like nobody else would do for me, so being with somebody else is not an option for me.
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We are on our seventeenth year going on 18. He's my lifer and I'm his Mrs.

We have God, love, and faith. We haven't given up hope. God has our back, he is watching over US and our family, he always will.

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My husband is LWOP. He gives me so much hope! I love him dearly and would never forsake him.

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My E is doing LWOP. He adds to my life. He doesn't take away. I still live my life and do the things I want to do like go to the movies, gym, church, etc. I run marathons. I have friends, family and dogs. I love my life and I love E. I am lucky to have him. He is my soul mate!!
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I love my boyfriend and I'm with him until death truly does do us part. Not just as a marriage vow, but for the mere principals of our life together. I love him with all of my heart.
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My man is doing life and we have been together since high school. I don't care how long he's going to be away I'm always going to be here for him. I'm in college still handling business. But no matter what anyone says I'm never leaving his side.
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I honestly don't think I could. My husband comes home this year and I waited a lil over 4 years and it has been murder. We are going to start trying for kids about a year after his release. I have been yearning for kids this whole time (I don't have any) and it has been hard because I have had the maternal calling for awhile now.

I love him and there cold never be anyone else in the world for me...but if I knew that we could never have been together, have kids, etc I wouldn't have allowed myself to get involved in the first place.

Hats off to the ladies that do have Lifers, or LWOP partners. I think you definitely can live a fulfilling and happy life, but for me and what I wanted in life it just wouldn't have been a possibility.
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I would be hurt, I would be mad as hell, but I knew what I got into when I married him, including the possibility of him getting a life sentence. I trust him but sh*t happens in life.
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I met him when he was already in prison, but after he comes home, if he got picked up for something again and got LWOP, I would not stick with him. And he knows that.

To get LWOP, he must do something very serious. In WA you don't get that for stealing gum. So I would not stick by him, because he knows how horrible these last three years have been for me, and I would feel insulted and hurt, if he did something to cause me such pain again.now that he has me, he has the biggest and best reason of all to not go back to prison. I would be angry if he decided to throw it all away. He's an adult. He has been in prison before. He knows how to stay out of prison. If he chooses that life over a life with me, I won't stick around.
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I didn't answer in the poll because it all depends. My ex boyfriend is somebody I would not have stuck around for, I would have said adios see you never. But if I met somebody I was madly in love with and truly cared for, yes I would stick around...I hope to one day meet a man who makes me feel so in love that even a lifetime in prison wouldn't keep me away.
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My guy does not have LWOP, but he is 18 years into a 65-life sentence... Meaning we will be in our 90's the first time he has a chance at parole. to me, that's LWOP.

I'm here, and we have discussed it. We are MWI, so this is not what I was anticipating but it is what it is and I am thankful to have him in my life! It's worth an eternity without sex.
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id rather do life with him thaan life without him. in fairness im older have had kids and have grandkids , so it is possibly different foer me than a lot .
Same here, sometimes when he is locked up my life gets way less complicated!! We do this very well I guess - but I still travel and have lots of great times - just always think of him and wish he was here!

Life... at this point in my life - yeah, I'd stay by him. It took too long to train this one to not annoy the daylights out of me - don't wanna start over again!
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My sweetheart is lwop... But our relationship is absolutely beautiful we accept eachother and the life that comes with us he enriches every day of my life I'm definitely sticking around
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I applaud the strong, positive women who could and already are doing LWOP with their men.

For me, right now, no. It would be the hardest thing I'd ever done to leave for good, but I would not be able to stand by him in that way. I am 22, I want kids and I want a husband to come home to at night, and many other things that he just needs to be here for.

I would still continue to write and be supportive of him, though. Just like I always have even when we weren't together. But I ultimately would have to move on with my life.

If this were to happen many, many, MANY years down the road and we have already lived our happy life together and have made the 'until death do us part' vows, then my answer would probably be different.
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I'm sure I would ride it out... I'm a rider...but with God strength & blessing... all things is possible... you never know he might get out sooner than u think.. look what God put on the president Obama heart to do..release sum inmates that had death sentences..& lifers...yes I would ride it out for mine's GOD got the last say so in this life we live...im on a journey now my husband was sentence to 10 yrs & only 8 months down ... but we taken it one day at a time with prayer.... & faith you can over come any thing....
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